Which of these women is 'doing better'?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone asked me this and I thought it was an interesting thought experiment.

a. Woman 1: SAHM earning 0, dh earns $500k.
b. Woman 2: WOHM who earns $1m. Dh is SAHD earning 0.

Who would you rather be?

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[Anonymous]

A is definitely better off.

I've worked with woman B- though the salary wasn't 1 million, and more often than not the husband was a total loser so she was doing everything outside the home and everything inside as well. I could never figure out the attraction.

[Anonymous]

I'm living option A. Wasn't really a decision so much as being honest with myself that I am not a professionally ambitious person. But it works well for us mainly bc even though DH and I divvy up work in a way that to outsiders would look highly heteronormative, he is ideologically egalitarian.

[Anonymous]

I'd much rather be B, I suppose.

But neither sounds good to me; we are DINKs and it is the best possible situation.

[Anonymous]

An absent mom or an absent dad… no thinks that’s not a choice for me.

Two normal salaries and flexible schedules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Someone asked me this and I thought it was an interesting thought experiment.

a. Woman 1: SAHM earning 0, dh earns $500k.
b. Woman 2: WOHM who earns $1m. Dh is SAHD earning 0.

Who would you rather be?

Money and work aren't the only important factors here. It depends on what kind of people these women are, what kind of people they are married to, how well they gel together and what are other influential factors in their lives.

[Anonymous]

A of course!

[Anonymous]

Two healthy and loving spouses with two well paying flexible careers and a good support network of family, friends and hired help and two easygoing healthy kids.

[Anonymous]

I am B, now, so I guess that's who I'd rather be...

I don't think I'd enjoy SAH. I did work PT when kids were little during COVID, and I'm glad I had that time.

[Anonymous]

B will be able to support herself if SAHD leaves.

A would have to give up her flexibility to support her family if WOHD dies or leaves.

B is in the better position simply because she already is working outside the home. Men can easily take on less desirable positions like trash man, construction, janitor than most SAHM would want to if they had to start working immediately.

[Anonymous]

A

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:C - woman earning 150k without a husband
Hahahaha

Surrounded by cats and with a body county that will not allow her soul to move into the next chapter upon death

Imagine thinking you’ll get into heaven as a raging misogynist but a single woman won’t if she’s had sex.

Found the whore!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:C - woman earning 150k without a husband
Hahahaha

Surrounded by cats and with a body county that will not allow her soul to move into the next chapter upon death

Imagine thinking you’ll get into heaven as a raging misogynist but a single woman won’t if she’s had sex.

Found the whore!

Whoa, guess you never to go the judge not passage of ye old bible...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:C. The woman making a million dollars at a relatively low-stress job with no kids and no husband to stress her out. Also, with no idiot friends.

BINGO. DING DING DING. THIS IS THE ONLY CORRECT ANSWER!

[Anonymous]

Oh dear.