Which of these women is 'doing better'?
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Anonymous
Why were you looking for a whore? |
Anonymous
Nana stop clutching your pearls. Which answer do you choose? |
Anonymous
| Whenever silly hypotheticals come up there is no shortage of *third option" answers. Why not say I'll take option 3 where I am paid 10 million a year to oversee a 100 million a year charity where I decide how its spent and I work as much as I need to splitting time between several homes in amazing locations. I mean if youre going to go off on a fantasy tangent, pick what you'd really want, unless that is actually what you'd really want. |
Anonymous
Me too lol Seriously it isn't a simple question OP. I would not want the stress of a big job unless I really loved my career and had a lot of help, but I wouldn't want to be 100% dependent on my DH unless the relationship is on solid ground and I was too busy managing home life. So neither or either or whichever the former stipulations. Right now for example I'm woman B but having had my own business and being the breadwinner for decades! |
Anonymous
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I am A in a very happy marriage. It’s pretty nice if I do say so.
I never had big career ambitions though and always wanted to be a mom. I have not worked since I was 28 - I’m now 45 and my oldest is 17. |
Anonymous
Bc not everyone cares about being mega rich with a bunch of bootlickers. |
Anonymous
| I've been a SAHM for 15 years. I am very happy. I don't regret not working in an office, totally stressed out, gaining weight and losing my mind and patience. Peace is priceless. You can spend the bulk of your days working for the man, I'll build my family and have a few successful, deep relationships with people. |
Anonymous
Haha, good point. Ideal situation to me is marrying into family money but the family is super chill and kind with no weird dysfunction, spouse still works but because of trust fund can do work he's passionate about, maybe at a nonprofit (but he's not addicted to work and prioritizes family). The family money allows me to write novels full time. We live in a modest but gorgeous and perfectly updated and decorated bungalow in a neighborhood with either fantastic publics or close to great privates with strong academics and good community but not overly intense or stressful. Every year we take at least one super relaxing beach vacation, and one big adventure trip. We don't worry about money. We have two kids and can afford to really invest in their interests, but still have the time and work-life balance to be very present parents. DH and I are both professionally fulfilled on a deep level that will help sustain us when we are empty nesters and keep things balanced in our marriage (no jealousy over one person having the "big job" nor any resentment over being the person at home who gets none of the glory), but always prioritize our family over anything external. I'm thinking 10 million trust fund, carefully invested and growing, plus college funds for kids so we don't have to worry about that. House either inherited or family provides huge down payment so we could do a 10 or 15 year mortgage and it's not a burden, and then it's paid off well before kids head to college or we're contemplating retirement. I'd probably stay home when kids are babies/toddlers but would want to be working by the time youngest was 3 and we'd have the money for a great nanny so maybe I work through both kids' early years anyway but with a flexible job and plenty of time off so I get to really enjoy those dreamy baby days without the stress of juggling a return to office and breast pumps and all that jazz. |
Anonymous
Why do you assume absent? I make $750 and work from home with the occasional work trip |
Anonymous
I think you’re missing the point about this comparison that it shows many women would accept bringing in 50% of the income in order not to have to work. Imagine this question asked to men. Would be very few and far between that someone would say the man whose wife is making $500k while he stays home is ‘doing better’ than the man making $1m. We still live in some sexist times |
Anonymous
lol while the rest of posters are looking for 1mm jobs or high earner husbands, that PP is looking for a whore, talk about priorities. |
Anonymous
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Both are equally appealing or miserable depending on the H.
A fantastic H would make either scenario amazing. Either I don’t work and have a loving H who buys me a whatever I want, or I buy myself whatever I want and come home to a clean house, home cooked dinner, happy kids. If the H sucks, both scenarios suck. And with both options, you’re stuck. In Scenario A, if you have a controlling, mean H, you can’t leave because you don’t have money. In Scenario B, if you have a mooch H who doesn’t do sh!t all day and expects you to work AND do the domestic work, you’re stuck because he’ll get half the assets, half of custody, and a ton of spousal and child support. |
Anonymous
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I do NOT understand why everyone is not saying b. OBVIOUSLY B.
If one person can earn twice the money in the same time period, that's better. If you dont want that to be your life forever, so just do it for 3-4 years and then stop working and you'll have $4m. $4m is more than most people earn in 16 years! It's beyond lazy to prefer to earn less just so you can stay home when you could get your *ss out of the house and build a nest egg for you and your kids in a record amount of time. smh. |
Anonymous
Some of us want to actually raise our kids. If we could afford to do so, why wouldn’t we? |
Anonymous
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The only correct answer is “which one is happier?”
You can’t measure life by stats. |