Revealing affair

[Anonymous]

The irony of married APs stating they would never stay with a cheater is not lost on me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The irony of married APs stating they would never stay with a cheater is not lost on me.

Or single ones. Banging a cheater is okay to them. They aren’t sanctimonious about that part. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The irony of married APs stating they would never stay with a cheater is not lost on me.

Because they would stay with their AP if they were not just a crumb to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The irony of married APs stating they would never stay with a cheater is not lost on me.

And yet they want no divorces because of the kids (don’t tell my spouse!!!!), so in fact they want others to stay married to them (an cheater) and turn a blind eye to it. But, oh no, not them…how little self respect to stay with a cheater. Just more of their mental gymnastics. Rules don’t apply to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP
If my spouse was cheating, or is cheating, I want to know

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

It’s not worse

But it’s not better.

Both jerks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

No! Sex is a private act between consenting adults married or not. Intentionally causing a divorce that might never happen if you did not open your mouth is worse. Intentionally involving kids. I have never cheated. When I was married, I would not have wanted to know. Marriage is much bigger than just sex. The problem is people like you think sex is the most important thing. No, kids' stability and finances are. Don't cheat but also don't get involved in other people's marriages that potentially makes you the impetus to harm kids. Research says most affairs are never discovered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

It’s not worse

But it’s not better.

Both jerks

The OP loses the high moral ground, exposes her soul as vindictive and ungraceful. This gives comfort and support for the cheater and gives the outside world context that doesn’t make OP look totally innocent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

It’s not worse

But it’s not better.

Both jerks

Being above board is always better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

This is not worse than cheating. The cheating spouses caused the problems. If OP needed to unburden, then good for OP.

If you don't want people to find out about your bad acts, don't do them!

It’s not worse

But it’s not better.

Both jerks

The OP loses the high moral ground, exposes her soul as vindictive and ungraceful. This gives comfort and support for the cheater and gives the outside world context that doesn’t make OP look totally innocent.

You'd love to think this but the reality is people who live honorable lives live in the light and bringing things into the light is not vindictive or ungraceful. It's honorable.

[Anonymous]

While I think it’s important for betrayed spouses to know, i think that the intent of sharing that information matters. It should come of a place of concern for THEM, not from a place of needing to offload or share the pain of the person who knows.

I feel like this case is the latter, and I also don’t think that sharing the information is truly as freeing as OP thinks it was.

[Anonymous]

This might end badly....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Congratulations on possibly destroying children’s lives with a bitter divorce that might not have otherwise happened if you didn’t feel the need to insert yourself into other’s lives.

This is worse than cheating. You are directly possibly causing trauma for kids that may not have happened otherwise. Marriage is about much more than sex.

People should mind their own business.

-never cheated

She didn’t destroy his kid’s lives. He did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope the posters calling AP a whore aren’t staying with their disgusting husbands.

OP doesn’t sound concerned, she just wanted revenge on the AP. Great, now both AP and her DH are free to be in a legit relationship.

Two cheating whores deserve one another. Scumbags.

The better way to see this: two suffering people, dying emotionally in their marriages to disappointing partners. They see each other across a crowded room and fall in love, liberating each other from unhappiness.

Sometimes the moral choice is to explore the feelings, to have the affair. When the spouse underachieves so much and weighs you down, they have silently given you permission to look around for a better option.

When you find that better option, the moral thing to do is to jump so that your kids can finally see what a loving marriage between two sane, not crazy, successful people looks like.

Disgusting cheater trying to rationalize this as a love story? LO-fu**ing-L! I hope this is just a troll rage baiting. Otherwise you are filth.