Husband says the inheritance from his dad is his

[Anonymous]

The issue isn’t the inheritance, it’s everything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The issue isn’t the inheritance, it’s everything else.

Yes - I got clarity on this and then just vented away.

I don’t discuss this with friends or siblings.

Sorry - had to lay it all here.

Someone said - not a good marriage. I realized it years back and kept up ‘make it work’ approach. Well I’m tired. Getting medical new condition makes it harder too.
I have new medical anxiety - so I’m just trying to get things in order - big things - things that keep me up at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It absolutely is his

You can keep it - please. Just don’t yell on your wife any more and let me go this time.
Don’t try and behave as if nothing happened - your usual trick.

Let me go and have peace and quiet. I will not block you and you will have access to your child and dog.

I just don’t want to be yelled any more, especially not on the special weekend.

I am tired of forgiving repeatedly.

I have nothing left - no strength - to get through this conflict.

I’d rather be alone than with a tantrum man.

Good bye

OP, take a breath. You are spinning. I mean that sincerely.

You started this post framing it around whether somebody is legally allowed to not share their inheritance with you. And now you are divorcing.

Take a deep breath. Reflect on what you actually want (and it isn't "clarity"). Reflect on how you have gone about trying to have discussions. Reflect on whether there is a way that is likely to be more effective.

If not, walk. But be clear in your head on what the issue is- is it money? is it that he yelled?

I just want peace and quiet and an adult partner ready to discuss how to manage finances together and what they look like.

What kind of person yells on you like mad man and yells lies about you (again) because he is enraged (how dare you to bring up combined finances - kind of yell) on the eve of big bd and Mother’s Day? Why can’t he use inside voice? Why should I always be bullied into zipping for good without any talk whatsoever?

[Anonymous]

As for inheritance, I asked it here so I am clear when this marriage goes to divorce. Of course I could have googled. But chose talking with ppl - probably I needed more him connection.
Well, I got my answer, and it’s okay with me. As I said, I follow laws and rules.

[Anonymous]

*more human connection

[Anonymous]

But the flip side is that you don’t have to share your inheritance with him either!

I love my Dh and we share all money we have. But I was excited to get an inheritance that I could do whatever I wanted with. Usually we jointly discuss what to do with large sums of money. Currently it’s just invested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It absolutely is his

You can keep it - please. Just don’t yell on your wife any more and let me go this time.
Don’t try and behave as if nothing happened - your usual trick.

Let me go and have peace and quiet. I will not block you and you will have access to your child and dog.

I just don’t want to be yelled any more, especially not on the special weekend.

I am tired of forgiving repeatedly.

I have nothing left - no strength - to get through this conflict.

I’d rather be alone than with a tantrum man.

Good bye

OP, take a breath. You are spinning. I mean that sincerely.

You started this post framing it around whether somebody is legally allowed to not share their inheritance with you. And now you are divorcing.

Take a deep breath. Reflect on what you actually want (and it isn't "clarity"). Reflect on how you have gone about trying to have discussions. Reflect on whether there is a way that is likely to be more effective.

If not, walk. But be clear in your head on what the issue is- is it money? is it that he yelled?

I just want peace and quiet and an adult partner ready to discuss how to manage finances together and what they look like.

What kind of person yells on you like mad man and yells lies about you (again) because he is enraged (how dare you to bring up combined finances - kind of yell) on the eve of big bd and Mother’s Day? Why can’t he use inside voice? Why should I always be bullied into zipping for good without any talk whatsoever?

So did he yell at you or didn't he? There is a difference between talking in angry voice and screaming at somebody.
You are introducing a ton of new vague facts without any details at all.

How would he tell the story to a friend, or on the internet? I'm guessing it isn't "My wife calmly asked me a reasonable question at a time that made sense and I responded by screaming lies at her."

[Anonymous]

Didn’t read whole thread but my parents conditioned our inheritance on no sharing w spouses.

[Anonymous]

To 16:47, he just yells whenever I suggest - hey, met be this weekend we could look at finances and retirement…. He boils up and gets red and it feels like fumes are about to come out…

[Anonymous]

He’s not going to ever share anything with you op. If that’s a dealbreaker then just divorce now and get it over with.

[Anonymous]

*hey, may be


I’ve been crying too much today - that screen is blurry. Sorry for the typos

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s not going to ever share anything with you op. If that’s a dealbreaker then just divorce now and get it over with.

I know - it’s just really sad.
He was a nice guy when I met him.
I don’t know what I did that he turned so secretive.

[Anonymous]

Hope no one has their 50th like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s not going to ever share anything with you op. If that’s a dealbreaker then just divorce now and get it over with.

How do you know this from this thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To 16:47, he just yells whenever I suggest - hey, met be this weekend we could look at finances and retirement…. He boils up and gets red and it feels like fumes are about to come out…

If he were on here telling the story, what would he say?