Husband says the inheritance from his dad is his

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

It’s not just this web form, it’s American women in general. This is why I do not recommend marriage to younger men. Those of us who have been through a divorce what it is like, so we have firsthand knowledge of Myron marriage. Being married for young males, especially if you’re wealthy brings absolutely nothing value. no point in it at this point. Now just need to travel, build wealth, and live life and do what they want you because in the end, this is the type of stuff that happens. He was single it would be no question or where the inheritance goes.


Read this thread fellas, this is yet another reason why you avoid marriage. Yes, you may find a woman who understands this is your money; but why roll the dice with something like this and out your life savings and mental health at risk? I often say you don’t know the true nature of a woman until you divorce her, that’s when the real her comes out. If you did divorce her and she’s nice and works with you than you kicked out and either found someone who just didn’t work out or you lost a good one. More often than not it turns into a fight and you find out what they were really after.

Stay safe fellas, just don’t do it. Not anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

It’s not just this web form, it’s American women in general. This is why I do not recommend marriage to younger men. Those of us who have been through a divorce what it is like, so we have firsthand knowledge of Myron marriage. Being married for young males, especially if you’re wealthy brings absolutely nothing value. no point in it at this point. Now just need to travel, build wealth, and live life and do what they want you because in the end, this is the type of stuff that happens. He was single it would be no question or where the inheritance goes.


Read this thread fellas, this is yet another reason why you avoid marriage. Yes, you may find a woman who understands this is your money; but why roll the dice with something like this and out your life savings and mental health at risk? I often say you don’t know the true nature of a woman until you divorce her, that’s when the real her comes out. If you did divorce her and she’s nice and works with you than you kicked out and either found someone who just didn’t work out or you lost a good one. More often than not it turns into a fight and you find out what they were really after.

Stay safe fellas, just don’t do it. Not anymore.

There is wisdom in what you are saying
Weddings are a scam too

But if are never going to get an inheritance, then you have nothing to worry about

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

It’s not just this web form, it’s American women in general. This is why I do not recommend marriage to younger men. Those of us who have been through a divorce what it is like, so we have firsthand knowledge of Myron marriage. Being married for young males, especially if you’re wealthy brings absolutely nothing value. no point in it at this point. Now just need to travel, build wealth, and live life and do what they want you because in the end, this is the type of stuff that happens. He was single it would be no question or where the inheritance goes.


Read this thread fellas, this is yet another reason why you avoid marriage. Yes, you may find a woman who understands this is your money; but why roll the dice with something like this and out your life savings and mental health at risk? I often say you don’t know the true nature of a woman until you divorce her, that’s when the real her comes out. If you did divorce her and she’s nice and works with you than you kicked out and either found someone who just didn’t work out or you lost a good one. More often than not it turns into a fight and you find out what they were really after.

Stay safe fellas, just don’t do it. Not anymore.

As a woman, I would never marry a man with such poor writing skills. The way a person writes gives insight into their ability to think in a clear and logical way. My husband’s writing always showed me how intelligent he is, one of the many reasons I was attracted to him and we have had a happy marriage of four decades now.

[Anonymous]

As the poster above said, if you are a man considering marriage, read this thread.

My personal experience was my father passing away a few years after the divorce, and my ex-wife thinking she should get a chunk of the inheritance. Crazy and greedy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the poster above said, if you are a man considering marriage, read this thread.

My personal experience was my father passing away a few years after the divorce, and my ex-wife thinking she should get a chunk of the inheritance. Crazy and greedy.

Over the years, my husband has asked me to deposit separate family money into our account or tried to direct how it should be sent (rather than saved). He's not crazy or greedy, but it is typical for spouses to feel entitled to separate property, even though they understand it is not theirs legally. We've moved past this issue. It goes to our kids, which indirectly relieves a lot of pressure from our marriage to support them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the poster above said, if you are a man considering marriage, read this thread.

My personal experience was my father passing away a few years after the divorce, and my ex-wife thinking she should get a chunk of the inheritance. Crazy and greedy.

Over the years, my husband has asked me to deposit separate family money into our account or tried to direct how it should be sent (rather than saved). He's not crazy or greedy, but it is typical for spouses to feel entitled to separate property, even though they understand it is not theirs legally. We've moved past this issue. It goes to our kids, which indirectly relieves a lot of pressure from our marriage to support them.

Here's a question. If your kids are in college, that inheritance (that is legally yours) still counts when the college does your estimated family contribution, right? A really large inheritance could mean the difference between full pay and some amount of aid. Depending on how you're dividing up who pays for college, that inheritance could result in him owing the college more money. Did any of the inheritance money go towards paying for college, or did you completely take it off the table?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the poster above said, if you are a man considering marriage, read this thread.

My personal experience was my father passing away a few years after the divorce, and my ex-wife thinking she should get a chunk of the inheritance. Crazy and greedy.

Women with successful careers considering marriage should read this thread. Taking career steps back for the sake of marriage/family, and trusting your other half, may not end in a happy end.

[Anonymous]

Again, that inheritance is his and only his. The answer is clear and this discussion is thus closed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As the poster above said, if you are a man considering marriage, read this thread.

My personal experience was my father passing away a few years after the divorce, and my ex-wife thinking she should get a chunk of the inheritance. Crazy and greedy.

Women with successful careers considering marriage should read this thread. Taking career steps back for the sake of marriage/family, and trusting your other half, may not end in a happy end.

I'm the PP and it looks like you agree with me--lazy and greedy people suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

He's not abusive because he's keeping the inheritance, he's abusive because he won't tell her what's going on with their financial situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

It’s not just this web form, it’s American women in general. This is why I do not recommend marriage to younger men. Those of us who have been through a divorce what it is like, so we have firsthand knowledge of Myron marriage. Being married for young males, especially if you’re wealthy brings absolutely nothing value. no point in it at this point. Now just need to travel, build wealth, and live life and do what they want you because in the end, this is the type of stuff that happens. He was single it would be no question or where the inheritance goes.


Read this thread fellas, this is yet another reason why you avoid marriage. Yes, you may find a woman who understands this is your money; but why roll the dice with something like this and out your life savings and mental health at risk? I often say you don’t know the true nature of a woman until you divorce her, that’s when the real her comes out. If you did divorce her and she’s nice and works with you than you kicked out and either found someone who just didn’t work out or you lost a good one. More often than not it turns into a fight and you find out what they were really after.

Stay safe fellas, just don’t do it. Not anymore.

Unmarried Men fare far worse than unmarried women. They generally die early, sick and alone. I actually think men who think like you should not marry, to spare the women who would be stuck with you anyway. All you Peter Pan guys who can’t handle responsibility and commitment should absolutely bow out and let the responsible adults willing to raise the next generation step in. The Selflessness and sacrifice it takes to raise a family and be a good dad, partner, Boy Scout leader, church volunteer, coworker just doesn’t exist in guys like you. You can blame a woman for that or just admit you don’t have what it takes. Feel free to line your coffin with that money or burn it for all we care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Again, that inheritance is his and only his. The answer is clear and this discussion is thus closed.

Or....the thread clearly involved to raise several other issues beyond the narrow inheritance question and the discussion on those points can continue?

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman, with an inheritance, and I believe the DHs inheritance is 100% his. It is not even part of your calculations. What you earn together is what’s yours. The rest gets passed down to your kids. Or if you find yourself divorced it will help form part of your retirement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Again, that inheritance is his and only his. The answer is clear and this discussion is thus closed.

Or....the thread clearly involved to raise several other issues beyond the narrow inheritance question and the discussion on those points can continue?

Yes, I guess… I did not expect the discussion to blow up… sorry for accidentally spilling (venting) too much food for thought.