Husband says the inheritance from his dad is his

[Anonymous]

Only get married with a prenup. Keep pre and post marital assets off limited along with an alimony waiver.

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Anonymous wrote:This guy is financially abusive and won’t change. Accept this fact and then decide what you want to do.

Rank DCUM hypocrisy:

Woman receives an inheritance: "Be sure not to commingle the inheritance. It's smart for you to keep something of your own in the event of a divorce. Maybe now that you have this financial security, you can use a miniscule portion for a family vacation - that way, the whole family will benefit."

Man receives an inheritance: "OMG, yes it's *legally* his alone, but does he even like you?? Not commingling his inheritance is financial abuse!"

It’s not just this web form, it’s American women in general. This is why I do not recommend marriage to younger men. Those of us who have been through a divorce what it is like, so we have firsthand knowledge of Myron marriage. Being married for young males, especially if you’re wealthy brings absolutely nothing value. no point in it at this point. Now just need to travel, build wealth, and live life and do what they want you because in the end, this is the type of stuff that happens. He was single it would be no question or where the inheritance goes.


Read this thread fellas, this is yet another reason why you avoid marriage. Yes, you may find a woman who understands this is your money; but why roll the dice with something like this and out your life savings and mental health at risk? I often say you don’t know the true nature of a woman until you divorce her, that’s when the real her comes out. If you did divorce her and she’s nice and works with you than you kicked out and either found someone who just didn’t work out or you lost a good one. More often than not it turns into a fight and you find out what they were really after.

Stay safe fellas, just don’t do it. Not anymore.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband is financially and emotionally abusive. Protect your savings, your kids, and start downsizing. Keep your “umbrella” handy and don’t allow this man to mistreat you.

How is he financially abusive? Following the law is not abusive, and the law says his inheritance is his.

He is abusive b/c he yells every time the wife suggests to combine finances and have combined family budget for income and expenses.

Op already agreed not to touch inheritance b/c by law that’s his and he decides to keep it that way or not.

That's not financially abusive. Why did you call him financially abusive?

Because he keeps his wife in the dark about the financial expenditures of his own. She is walled off. And she makes less.

That isn't what financially abusive means. Stop using words you don't understand the meaning of.

You clearly don't know the legal definition of financial abuse in a divorce court! She has a legal right to financial transparency, and a judge would agree. Don't be ignorant and say things that are not factual. I bet you lie in all areas of your life. Sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our father in law passed away and left some money to his son, my husband.
DH states that money is for DH only. I asked for access, and he denies it. Is this legal?
We are a family but I’m tired of jerky financial situation. This breaking point really I have no clarity about joint financial and the future in terms of retirement funds. I work on two jobs and I am exhausted. He works on one job and makes more money than I do.

not knowing anything beyond this post you sound like a vulture.

inferring from this i would assume you feel entitled to spend money you dont have

[Anonymous]

OP - Do you own a home jointly with your name on the deed so that if you split you would get half of the interest in the house and have a basis on which to get future housing? If you name if on the mortgage, then you are liable to pay for it,too.
If you have automobiles for transportation is your name on the title to one of the cars at least?
If you have investment accounts, be sure that your name is on the accounts as the spouse can deny you access even if you have been contributing to the mortgage and various accounts.
As you describe it, you have separate finances, but there should be a joint account to handle shared housing and general expenses. If salaries are of a different level, then each spouse usually contributes in proportion to their income. If there are children, then one needs to determine a formula for covering their expenses.
Actually, keeping at least one account in your own name and a separate credit card is not a bad idea to have a strong credit rating of your own should there be a divorce in your future.
If your spouse is denying you access to and an understanding of your family financial situation, then you may need to do some hard thinking as this could be a kind of intended control through financial abuse.
If you have access to passwords, monthly reports, you should make copies or at least screen shots of current balances to keep abreast of income and expenses.

[jsteele]

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