New girlfriend is blocking access to my best friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

Is this post for real? I mean… Duh!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

Seems like a troll post repeat.

Stay away from him and respect them both and their relationship.

Get more friends other than your Exes.

WTF are you texting him all the time anyhow. Grow up and get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she is as bad as you say, chances are he will break up with her.

The biggest question, is what does he want? He's the one that needs to make the choice. Not you.

Yeah maybe nasty nosy Op can show him the light!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

It isn't up to you!!! It shouldn't be up to the girlfriend, but your friend has to make that decision for himself.

FWIW, your attractiveness really has nothing to do with it. It is about her insecurity. And his, if he thinks that this is what he's supposed to do.

OP here. He wants to stay in contact with me. He’s worried that if he breaks up with her, he will have lost his emotional support network. I’ve been his emergency contact for years, and I’ve helped him out a lot. He attended my family’s Christmas and we bought him a lot of gifts. So this just doesn’t seem fair to me.

Troll doubling down.

Obvious formula in subsequent troll posts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Bigger issue is that he's in recovery and she's a partier (drugs/alcohol regularly). If he wants to remain on the sober road, he needs a partner who is - at most - only an occasional drinker (i.e., has a glass of champagne at a wedding or special dinner).

She sounds very young and immature. Is there a big age gap? By what you've said I'm guessing she is mid 20s and your friend is in his 30s.

Sounds like OP. Sock puppeting is boring.

Agree.

She really wanted to to go more than 2 pages should have had. Keep juicing the thread Troll!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:LOLOLOL you're fighting over a junkie's attention.

You text him multiple times a day, think you're hotter than his new girlfriend, tell him to break up with her, and are shocked, SHOCKED that she doesn't want you in his pocket? You're all very immature but it's at least entertaining to read about.

I'm personally impressed that OP appears clueless as to how she comes off. I'm unsure if this lack of self-awareness means the post is fake.

Yup. Troll keeps charging ahead with utter nonsense posts and replies. Again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dont understand why women who dont like women best friends, date men with women best friends. Like if youre allergic to cats, dont date someone with cats and then expect them to euthanize them for you.

It's inappropriate for her to try and control his friendships. She sounds insecure and obnoxious.

OP, give it up. You are in the wrong.

+1. Slow Friday for OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

It isn't up to you!!! It shouldn't be up to the girlfriend, but your friend has to make that decision for himself.

FWIW, your attractiveness really has nothing to do with it. It is about her insecurity. And his, if he thinks that this is what he's supposed to do.

OP here. He wants to stay in contact with me. He’s worried that if he breaks up with her, he will have lost his emotional support network. I’ve been his emergency contact for years, and I’ve helped him out a lot. He attended my family’s Christmas and we bought him a lot of gifts. So this just doesn’t seem fair to me.

She is right. You are wrong. Not your decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

Eww. Drama. And your spouse deserves better.

Anonymous wrote:My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

The spite and nastiness you show this woman comes through loud and clear in your post. Clearly, you're not a girl's girl.

Anonymous wrote:Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

I wouldn't want my so-called partner hanging out with meddling people who tell him what to do/who to date/who to break up with either. That you're his ex makes it extra sus. And if she's going through his phone already, 2 months in, the trust issues alone are a death knell for this relationship. You could've stayed out of it completely, like an actual friend, and just been there for your friend if/when it fell apart. No need to speed it along (unless you need drama, which you sure seem to)

Anonymous wrote:We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

So you're mad at his new partner? Seems like some misdirected hostility. If he chose to leave, it wasn't the priority to him you seem to think it should be. You sound super controlling.

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

Again, not a girl's girl. Your (alleged) attractiveness shouldn't be used as a measurement of how much time/energy someone owes you. She sees you as a threat because you're a trashy, manipulative, overbearing, enmeshed, probably co-dependent drama-starter. If he's your "best friend" (weird, but okay), you should treat him like a friend. He's an adult and doesn't need you meddling or trying to mind his business. Friend, not son, right?

Go away and let him live his life. Damn.

[Anonymous]

Gawd, so sick of DCUM troll’s long writing style

[Anonymous]

Jeff discussed this thread in the blog and noted that OP did not sock puppet. Just FYI.

[Anonymous]

I was very best friends with a man I was never romantically involved with in college. We were nearly inseparable for two years, but once one of us had a significant other that had issue with the friendship we had to cool it. We were more than friends but absolutely not romantic if that makes sense. This went both ways in college and after college but it’s just out of respect you can’t give that much of yourself to a friend when you are actively partnered with someone else. I am surprised your husband would be cool with your being so involved with another person regardless of gender.

[Anonymous]

This relationship sounds toxic on many levels. Focus on your husband and building friendships with women with similar interests who are not addicts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a big issue. My once-boyfriend but now longtime best friend is dating someone new. He and I had dated for 2 years, but broke up over his drug use and mood swings (he went to rehab after we broke up). We’ve been best friends over the past several years, and generally talk multiple times a day. I’m married and my spouse is fine with this.

My friend started dating a new woman 2 months ago who determined that I am a threat, and accused him of planning on cheating on her with me. Apparently there was some drama surrounding hanging out with her ex-boyfriend as well. She and I are completely different. She does recreational drugs, parties, goes to concerts/music festivals, while I don’t drink, use drugs, or party. There’s no way either my friend or I would cheat.

Apparently she went through his text messages (there were texts I sent to him telling him to break up with her because she is a bad influence), and is claiming she will break up with him if he talks to me again. Apparently they have been having fights relating to trust (yet they’ve only been dating for 2 months).

We also work on a side activity together, which we’ve worked together on for years. His sudden departure from our team left me with challenges for overseeing that activity. I know he was really proud to be involved (was showing her our successes on an early date).

FWIW, I’m way more attractive than she is and have known him for years so I guess she sees me as a threat. But I want my best friend back and am not willing to go no contact with him. Advice?

Is this post for real? I mean… Duh!

No it’s not. Or she posted this same krap a couple months ago.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jeff discussed this thread in the blog and noted that OP did not sock puppet. Just FYI.

A troll Op + dropping outlandish “updates” is still a troll. Playing dumb and ignoring points is also trolling.