4 year old boy won't stop peeing all around the house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lost me at dad takes a nap every weekend day and leave the 8 year old to watch the 4 year old. I have a 7 year old and for the majority of his life his dad has worked on at least one weekend day leaving me to parent alone during that time. You know what I do not do, and never have done unless I was seriously ill?? TAKE A NAP. Most adults do not get to take a nap during the day. What is wrong with your husband that he needs a nap every weekend day?

OP here. I FEEL YOU. He's a napper. I don't know what to say. It's his way to recharge for the work week. I have tried to fight it for years. When we got married, he was a Ph.D. student and could take naps during the day. Some men golf all weekend. Notice how I said, men. Our culture has less of a go, go, go mentality. Most of the time, people spend with family. They aren't spending the weekends taking their kids to soccer roller skating or the movies or birthday parties. It's a very different pace of life. I have adjusted, and I like doing activities on the weekend, but DH isn't into that as much. With that said, the kids go out Sat and Sun for scheduled activities. They are away for 2 -4 hours doing activities we signed them up for.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He has been potty trained for over a year. DH and I have caught in several times in the act. His favorite spot is on the side of a sofa chair but he also pees in other places. Once DH caught him with his pants down in the master bedroom. We have carpets!! He doesn't do this @ school. We are so furious with him and it's expensive to get the carpets shampooed. I have a shampoo cleaner but no energy to keep cleaning the floors. The TV room smells like urine sooo bad. Why why why is this happening It's my birthday today and it just happened ! I am not having anymore kids after this. two and done two and done!! I think I need to repeat this all day so I can keep calm.

Sorry, but this calls for few good swats on his bare bottom and he would lose every privilege and every toy would be put away until he earned them back never, ever again urinating any where but in the toilet.

No we do not hit children. That is the wrong wrong answer for this.

OP here. Lets just say that I know someone who knows someone who may have tried that already and that person may be his dad and myself




UGH! NO!

op is likely a troll

[Anonymous]

Crate him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He has been potty trained for over a year. DH and I have caught in several times in the act. His favorite spot is on the side of a sofa chair but he also pees in other places. Once DH caught him with his pants down in the master bedroom. We have carpets!! He doesn't do this @ school. We are so furious with him and it's expensive to get the carpets shampooed. I have a shampoo cleaner but no energy to keep cleaning the floors. The TV room smells like urine sooo bad. Why why why is this happening It's my birthday today and it just happened ! I am not having anymore kids after this. two and done two and done!! I think I need to repeat this all day so I can keep calm.

Sorry, but this calls for few good swats on his bare bottom and he would lose every privilege and every toy would be put away until he earned them back never, ever again urinating any where but in the toilet.

No we do not hit children. That is the wrong wrong answer for this.

UGH! NO!

I didn't say hit, I said a few swats on his bottom. Your idiotic gentle parenting is a collosal failure with an entire generation of horridly spoiled brats who urinate anywhere they please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Crate him.

It must be tempting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

But they’re not accidents. He’s not peeing where he’s standing, he’s intentionally going somewhere that isn’t the toilet and peeing. That’s how you frame it because that’s the truth. Correct them if they call them accidents.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

But they’re not accidents. He’s not peeing where he’s standing, he’s intentionally going somewhere that isn’t the toilet and peeing. That’s how you frame it because that’s the truth. Correct them if they call them accidents.

I am going to mention it but they have already said they can't help until he's in kindergarten and they only care about what he does at school. Sometimes he does have real accidents but lately we have caught him doing it on purpose. There is nothing wrong with any of our bathrooms BTW. They aren't dark or anything. We have 2.5 bathrooms. When this happened on Friday he didn't have school and wanted to play outside in the sandbox. I said no because it was raining. He ran upstairs crying and I ran after him. If I would have taken a second long to place something on the island I wouldn't have caught him peeing onto the side of the sofa chair. He was pulling up his pants when I ran up after him. It was a matter of seconds. One thing I will add is sometimes we allow him to pee on trees. The other day he has to go really bad and we were on the way to the dentist. There wasn't a bathroom around and i stopped and let him pee in the woods.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You lost me at dad takes a nap every weekend day and leave the 8 year old to watch the 4 year old. I have a 7 year old and for the majority of his life his dad has worked on at least one weekend day leaving me to parent alone during that time. You know what I do not do, and never have done unless I was seriously ill?? TAKE A NAP. Most adults do not get to take a nap during the day. What is wrong with your husband that he needs a nap every weekend day?

OP here. I FEEL YOU. He's a napper. I don't know what to say. It's his way to recharge for the work week. I have tried to fight it for years. When we got married, he was a Ph.D. student and could take naps during the day. Some men golf all weekend. Notice how I said, men. Our culture has less of a go, go, go mentality. Most of the time, people spend with family. They aren't spending the weekends taking their kids to soccer roller skating or the movies or birthday parties. It's a very different pace of life. I have adjusted, and I like doing activities on the weekend, but DH isn't into that as much. With that said, the kids go out Sat and Sun for scheduled activities. They are away for 2 -4 hours doing activities we signed them up for.

Hire a babysitter. Or, give the kid an iPad and tell him to lay next to dad during the nap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

But they’re not accidents. He’s not peeing where he’s standing, he’s intentionally going somewhere that isn’t the toilet and peeing. That’s how you frame it because that’s the truth. Correct them if they call them accidents.

I am going to mention it but they have already said they can't help until he's in kindergarten and they only care about what he does at school. Sometimes he does have real accidents but lately we have caught him doing it on purpose. There is nothing wrong with any of our bathrooms BTW. They aren't dark or anything. We have 2.5 bathrooms. When this happened on Friday he didn't have school and wanted to play outside in the sandbox. I said no because it was raining. He ran upstairs crying and I ran after him. If I would have taken a second long to place something on the island I wouldn't have caught him peeing onto the side of the sofa chair. He was pulling up his pants when I ran up after him. It was a matter of seconds. One thing I will add is sometimes we allow him to pee on trees. The other day he has to go really bad and we were on the way to the dentist. There wasn't a bathroom around and i stopped and let him pee in the woods.

Take him to a ped and urologist and pay for private help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Crate him.

It must be tempting.

I have thought about doing a search of amazon for a crate for kids. I told my husband we need to cage him or leash him. When it happened on Friday the first thing hat popped into my head was to call the police I am out of ideas and so tired I did receive the pee be gone today. Someone suggested it on this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

You need to get private services and work on parenting. Your oldest is not an appropriate babysitter.

If we could afford private services, FT daycare, and babysitters, do you really think I would work on the weekends? You realize medical professionals have to work weekends so you can get care, right? Firefighters, police officers, etc., work weekends and nights, and they are allowed to have children. Some parents work opposite schedules for a reason, and in the summertime, it works out well because I can be with the kids during the week instead of summer camps. We have expenses, mortgage, and food costs. Our car, and we only have one, is very old. On this website, people assume everyone posting is rich. The expenses in the US are unbelievable at times. Healthcare is prepaid where we are from. Before we see the doctor we know the price. Before an x-ray, we know the price. Insurance isn't really a thing, either. We are doing our best and making the best decisions for our family. Our child could be in school every day for 8 hours, but our schedule allows us to pick him up at 3 pm.

People are very out of touch on here. If you aren't making more than 200k you are considered a failure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

But they’re not accidents. He’s not peeing where he’s standing, he’s intentionally going somewhere that isn’t the toilet and peeing. That’s how you frame it because that’s the truth. Correct them if they call them accidents.

I am going to mention it but they have already said they can't help until he's in kindergarten and they only care about what he does at school. Sometimes he does have real accidents but lately we have caught him doing it on purpose. There is nothing wrong with any of our bathrooms BTW. They aren't dark or anything. We have 2.5 bathrooms. When this happened on Friday he didn't have school and wanted to play outside in the sandbox. I said no because it was raining. He ran upstairs crying and I ran after him. If I would have taken a second long to place something on the island I wouldn't have caught him peeing onto the side of the sofa chair. He was pulling up his pants when I ran up after him. It was a matter of seconds. One thing I will add is sometimes we allow him to pee on trees. The other day he has to go really bad and we were on the way to the dentist. There wasn't a bathroom around and i stopped and let him pee in the woods.

Don’t let him do that anymore.

You can initiate a child find meeting with your school district even before they are in K. This is behavioral. You need help from trained professionals. Your husband needs to take it more seriously and find a way to be more present on the weekend. Whether that’s having the kid next to him while he naps or enlisting the help of other adult relatives. The kid is exhibiting serious behavioral problems and needs to be treated by professionals and not left alone by dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:** I meant he loses his evening TV show.

op. he only watches TV when I am at work, which is 2 days a week. on Saturday, he watches a movie with his older brother and Sunday something. during the week, he isn't allowed to watch TV. He's not allowed in the tv room. we are getting it shampooed on Monday. he did quality for early intervention but not speech. he has a special education therapist and behavior, but we haven't started services yet, and they could care less about the accidents. they say until he's in kinder it's "fine"

But they’re not accidents. He’s not peeing where he’s standing, he’s intentionally going somewhere that isn’t the toilet and peeing. That’s how you frame it because that’s the truth. Correct them if they call them accidents.

I am going to mention it but they have already said they can't help until he's in kindergarten and they only care about what he does at school. Sometimes he does have real accidents but lately we have caught him doing it on purpose. There is nothing wrong with any of our bathrooms BTW. They aren't dark or anything. We have 2.5 bathrooms. When this happened on Friday he didn't have school and wanted to play outside in the sandbox. I said no because it was raining. He ran upstairs crying and I ran after him. If I would have taken a second long to place something on the island I wouldn't have caught him peeing onto the side of the sofa chair. He was pulling up his pants when I ran up after him. It was a matter of seconds. One thing I will add is sometimes we allow him to pee on trees. The other day he has to go really bad and we were on the way to the dentist. There wasn't a bathroom around and i stopped and let him pee in the woods.

This is very clearly “revenge peeing” to punish you. It’s a completely different issue than a kid having accidents or scared of the bathroom. Make sure you tell people that when you try to get help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Spray bottle works great

Not puppy consequences 🤭

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Supervise him better, have him got to the toilet every hour, give consequences. Also take him to a urologist to rule out anything medical.

All of this. I might even set 30 minute timers for bathroom visits.

Do not trade one problem for another by getting him to go outside.

My DS 1 has autism. I taught him that he could pee on trees as well as in toilets. One day we are at pentagon city shopping and I’m looking at a store front and seconds later he has his pants down at his ankles peeing on a tree inside the mall. People were laughing I was so humiliated