4 year old boy won't stop peeing all around the house

[Anonymous]

He has been potty trained for over a year. DH and I have caught in several times in the act. His favorite spot is on the side of a sofa chair but he also pees in other places. Once DH caught him with his pants down in the master bedroom. We have carpets!! He doesn't do this @ school. We are so furious with him and it's expensive to get the carpets shampooed. I have a shampoo cleaner but no energy to keep cleaning the floors. The TV room smells like urine sooo bad. Why why why is this happening It's my birthday today and it just happened ! I am not having anymore kids after this. two and done two and done!! I think I need to repeat this all day so I can keep calm.

[Anonymous]

Supervise him better, have him got to the toilet every hour, give consequences. Also take him to a urologist to rule out anything medical.

[Anonymous]

Urine gone is your friend.

See if you can convince him to go outside. A friend of mine had a kid like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Supervise him better, have him got to the toilet every hour, give consequences. Also take him to a urologist to rule out anything medical.

All of this. I might even set 30 minute timers for bathroom visits.

Do not trade one problem for another by getting him to go outside.

[Anonymous]

Spray bottle works great

[Anonymous]

Does he get consequences for this?? He’s not too young for consequences.

Does he have special needs? I might seek out advice from a pediatrician or therapist.

[Anonymous]

He needs a pediatric consult, to see if there's anything functionally wrong down there, or in his bloodwork, such as juvenile diabetes. One symptom of juvenile diabetes is frequent urination. Please don't treat this like a behavioral issue until you've got the medical part cleared up!

If he's physically healthy and this is a behavioral, then you'll have to potty-train (timed bathroom visits, consequences for messing up the house, etc), and assess whether there is neurodivergence: kids with severe ADHD or kids on the spectrum sometimes need additional explicit instructions and reminders, or sometimes need accommodations when going to the bathroom: perhaps something is scary in your bathrooms, such as the flush, or they don't like the contact of the seat, or they don't like being in confined space... it could be anything. A neurotypical kid will adapt, but a kid on the spectrum will not be able to do that unless you modify their environment somewhat then accompany them every step of the way.

[Anonymous]

Also try to assess whether there's stress at school. If there's a bully, or a conflict you don't know about, it can make a child regress in their potty-training.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Supervise him better, have him got to the toilet every hour, give consequences. Also take him to a urologist to rule out anything medical.

All of this. I might even set 30 minute timers for bathroom visits.

Do not trade one problem for another by getting him to go outside.

OP here. We are trying our best, but he's so fast. In less than a minute, he ran upstairs and peed. I ran after him and saw him pulling his pants up. If I was a second late I wouldn't have known. Unless I handcuff him to me or put him in a cage I can't supervise him every single minute. I need to use the bathroom myself or take a shower. On reddit most of the parents say stuff like, "Kids do weird sh**" they are impulsive and when an idea pops in their head they are impulsive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He needs a pediatric consult, to see if there's anything functionally wrong down there, or in his bloodwork, such as juvenile diabetes. One symptom of juvenile diabetes is frequent urination. Please don't treat this like a behavioral issue until you've got the medical part cleared up!

If he's physically healthy and this is a behavioral, then you'll have to potty-train (timed bathroom visits, consequences for messing up the house, etc), and assess whether there is neurodivergence: kids with severe ADHD or kids on the spectrum sometimes need additional explicit instructions and reminders, or sometimes need accommodations when going to the bathroom: perhaps something is scary in your bathrooms, such as the flush, or they don't like the contact of the seat, or they don't like being in confined space... it could be anything. A neurotypical kid will adapt, but a kid on the spectrum will not be able to do that unless you modify their environment somewhat then accompany them every step of the way.

This makes sense, but why is he not having issues outside the house? He goes to the bathroom several times at school. It's very strange to him that he's fine at school but not at home. We were away for a whole month and he didn't pee all over DHs parents house.

[Anonymous]

I didn’t think my DD would ever be trained. She was 4 when her preschool teacher advised us to make her start cleaning up the mess. It was amazing how quickly things changed after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also, try to assess whether there's stress at school. If there's a bully or a conflict you don't know about, it can make a child regress in their potty-training.

I thought about this, but he seems fine, and he's very verbal. He tells us all kinds of things about school. He even notices stuff about his teacher that most kids may be unable to articulate. For examples there was something his teacher did at circle time when we toured the school i.e. passing around a candle and I asked him if she does that a lot and he said she only does that when new people come He said "when new humans come teacher is different, her is nice and does fun things."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t think my DD would ever be trained. She was 4 when her preschool teacher advised us to make her start cleaning up the mess. It was amazing how quickly things changed after that.

+1 You need using the toilet to be the easy option for him. Even if he doesn't do a great job, you need to have a stack of towels ready so he can blot it up, help you get out the rug cleaner, etc.

[Anonymous]

It's post like this that make me grateful that I'm childfree.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he's doing it for fun.

My son used to pee of the deck. Luckily this phase only lasted a few weeks and it was summer.