DD wants the big bedroom, but I don’t want to give it to her & DH not backing me up

[Anonymous]

The outside door is the only issue here. Not suitable for a kids' bedroom.

[Anonymous]

So the small rooms are too small for guest rooms, but you want to shove your daughter in there?!? She is a tween and needs her space!! When her friends come over and she wants to get away from her annoying little brother, she will be confined to the tiny room with a twin bed? You are being very short sighted. I’m guessing you are the step mom because you seem like you are delighting in doing something hurtful to this poor girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The outside door is the only issue here. Not suitable for a kids' bedroom.

NP. This is how I feel. Not so worried about sneaking out (yet) but safety. Tired kids in new places open the wrong doors all the time— happens in hotels and on cruise ships that they wind up
locked out in the hallway. I wouldn’t take the chance of my kid winding up outdoors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The outside door is the only issue here. Not suitable for a kids' bedroom.

NP. This is how I feel. Not so worried about sneaking out (yet) but safety. Tired kids in new places open the wrong doors all the time— happens in hotels and on cruise ships that they wind up
locked out in the hallway. I wouldn’t take the chance of my kid winding up outdoors.

Just put a chain lock on it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it makes sense to use a small bedroom
fornguests.
I am sure you can fit a queen bed in there. Thats all you need for guests.

I would let her have the room and its strange to me that you are so against it.

Also have the vibe that you have been sock puppeting over and over in here.

+1.

In the event this is a real scenario it sounds like something my mom would do, she favored my brother into adulthood and I remember.

There's a 5 year age difference. He will get the big room for 5 years when she moves out.
Most families give the larger bedroom to the older child. Its pretty normal.

[Anonymous]

Such a weird topic to sock puppet about. OP, you are weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So the small rooms are too small for guest rooms, but you want to shove your daughter in there?!? She is a tween and needs her space!! When her friends come over and she wants to get away from her annoying little brother, she will be confined to the tiny room with a twin bed? You are being very short sighted. I’m guessing you are the step mom because you seem like you are delighting in doing something hurtful to this poor girl.

Are you the stepmom poster from earlier whose post got deleted

[Anonymous]

It’s good to share rooms so id put two girls together but revisit when they are older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Such a weird topic to sock puppet about. OP, you are weird.

I posted earlier about how annoying it is when someone hijacks a thread to accuse everyone of being the OP. If you think sockpuppeting is happening, ask about it in Website Feedback. Otherwise, stfu and go away

[Anonymous]

I want OP to respond whether she is a stepmom to DD or not. This is a huge factor into this decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a family or a princess and her court? Each CHILD gets a small room and the family shares the larger one.

This right here. I’m surprised by some of the comments on this thread. They are children. The adults make the decisions.

Im bothered by the “DD will remember and be angry” comments. Perhaps what will really happen is that DD will learn that the smaller room is sufficient and we don’t always get every whim handed to us.

Hahaha this made me laugh. Are you an only child? My siblings and I remember most things we perceived as unfair from my childhood despite the lesson my parents thought they were teaching. We talk and laugh about them when we get together. So while not angry we remember and try to do better with our own
kids. We all know and agree who our parents favorite is my parents disagree.

I’m the PP. I am not an only child. No, things were NOT equal between my siblings and me, but my parents always had good reasons. I do not look back on my life with anger, and I never thought my parents loved another sibling more. I was raised knowing that my best interests were taken into account, and that they weren’t always the same as my siblings’ needs and interests.

We are all very well-adjusted adults now. You say you are trying to do better than your parents. That’s not the situation I find myself in. I’m trying to pass my parents’ lessons down to my children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The outside door is the only issue here. Not suitable for a kids' bedroom.

NP. This is how I feel. Not so worried about sneaking out (yet) but safety. Tired kids in new places open the wrong doors all the time— happens in hotels and on cruise ships that they wind up
locked out in the hallway. I wouldn’t take the chance of my kid winding up outdoors.

Just put a chain lock on it.

It wouldn’t be worth it for me. I would revisit when she was 13 or so, but for a nine year old safety would be my first concern.

[Anonymous]

NP here.
I totally agree OP is sockpuppeting.

Also--answer if you are a step mom OP?

Also there is a PP who thinks she can control people commenting on sockpuppeting- get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The outside door is the only issue here. Not suitable for a kids' bedroom.

NP. This is how I feel. Not so worried about sneaking out (yet) but safety. Tired kids in new places open the wrong doors all the time— happens in hotels and on cruise ships that they wind up
locked out in the hallway. I wouldn’t take the chance of my kid winding up outdoors.

Just put a chain lock on it.

It wouldn’t be worth it for me. I would revisit when she was 13 or so, but for a nine year old safety would be my first concern.

I’m the poster above and I should add that my kids are sharing a room until they’re old enough to ask to split up but no younger than 11 for this exact reason— the second reasonably-sized bedroom is close to a door to the outside. The door doesn’t open straight into the bedroom but a wrong turn to the bathroom could get you to an outside door. I’d rather my kids felt I was unfair to them than risk one of them winding up outside. When they’re 35 they can post on DCUM about their lifelong scars

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP here.
I totally agree OP is sockpuppeting.

Also--answer if you are a step mom OP?

Also there is a PP who thinks she can control people commenting on sockpuppeting- get a life.

If you’re so positive that OP is sockpuppeting, then tell the moderator so he can remove the thread. Simple.