NP. That’s because you don’t joke around with your kids. My kids would think it was funny. |
Wanting a playroom is valid. Do you have another option for that? If not, then that's what I'd do with that space. A guest room is also valid, but guests don't need tons of space. With guests I consider more access to a bathroom - what's the difference between the two rooms there? |
You could always seal over the door. Although I'll say if you are going to have guests a lot, having their own private entrance could be nice. |
The kids clearly get similar rooms and the big room is a guest room/play room. No question, team OP. |
I agree with the OP, too, and growing up, I had a larger bedroom than my sister. I never thought about it but she did. |
You are right, OP. Your DH is wrong.
The girly room was decorated that way, but when you redecorate it to look like an in law suite, which is likely what it is meant to be, and let her help decorate her room the way she wants to, it will be fine. She is attracted to the girly decor, not the size of the room. |
+1 |
Maybe you should parent your youngest vs relying on the oldest. |
This. Look, in a perfect world, all the rooms would be equally nice and the right number for your family. In the real world, sometimes some but not all siblings have to share, sometimes there’s a second en suite room, sometimes one sibling ends up with a sweet deal. Not using a great bedroom in the name of fairness is bonkers, although of course on a case by case basis I’ll grant that there may be other high use options for the room and that’s fine. IMHO being fair with multiple kids means making sure they each win sometimes. Maybe rooms shuffle when the oldest goes to college. Or maybe it’s something else. The oldest shouldn’t always “win” of course and it’s important to tend to individual needs on a case by case basis. |
This works for us, thanks. |
you can just explain that bigger bedroom is for other purposes and ask her help make her room girly. |
I’m not reading all these replies but I’m team DD. It makes more sense to give her the girly room. |
But the bigger room isn’t for other purposes. OP doesn’t know what she will use it for or if she will use it at all. |