My partner eyes up other women - am I too sensitive?

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Anonymous wrote:My ex would discreetly follow hot women in the grocery store. He’d get a disturbing look when he encountered one.

Pervert stalker! Police!

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Anonymous wrote:When he was banging you later that night, he was thinking of her.

You must be a woman. As soon as an attractive woman is out of eyesight they are forgotten. Think of it like a sunset or a piece of art. You admire and then go about your day.

I'm a woman and I know this, but let's be honest: There's a difference between some random woman who you never see again and someone in your life who you're physically-attracted to and you may think about them while w/ your wife or alone...

Of course there is, but that’s not the issue here. Whose husband are you dreaming about to trigger your comment?

I'm also the person who said I point out an attractive woman to my husband. I wrote what I did regarding a stranger vs someone you know, because it's so common. I don't think it's a healthy marriage if you can't accept that the overwhelming majority of us are sexual creatures who have desires, but we're also more evolved than most animals, so we're supposed to understand boundaries. There's nothing wrong w/ "thinking about" an attraction to someone, as long as you never try to act on it if you're married and presumably, happy.

I love my husband more than anything and he loves me, which is why it's no big deal if we point out attractive people to each other. He's fully aware of my crushes and teases me about it. I would hope everyone has that kind of relationship where you don't have to hide attraction.

I do not try to get my man horny off other bs. If my dh was eyeballing or otherwise getting visably aroused by other women in front of me, I'd fock his best friend and/or his brother. I'm a vengenful woman that way.

Why do you assume I point out the attractive women so my husband gets hard or horny? Good God, the imagination on you. It's more along the lines of "Wow, look how gorgeous she is." Not: "Hey, hon, you wanna whack off to that one?"

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Everyone looks. It's just a fleeting moment. I don't dwell on the images of the past at a later time. it's just fun in the moment.

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Anonymous wrote:With my husband, I point out the attractive woman.

My wife does this too. She knows exactly what I like and she's better at spotting them than I am. She will quietly say, "you're missing her." It's fun. I don't point out hot guys to her because it's less obvious to me what she finds hot. So I've asked her to tell me when she sees a guy she likes and I'm often surprised. It's no threat to our relationship at all.

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Unless you are gay, stop using partner. I don’t care enough about this to read the 7 pages of posts to figure this out but if hetero, partner lingo needs to end.

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ALL men will stare at a pretty 🤩 girl - they are just hard-wired in that way.

But when they are w/their partners, they should practice more discretion vs. when they are alone.

No woman wants to be seen w/a guy who is ogling other women.
Ever.

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Anonymous wrote:Unless you are gay, stop using partner. I don’t care enough about this to read the 7 pages of posts to figure this out but if hetero, partner lingo needs to end.

It's kind of weird to call the 50yo you're dating "boyfriend". The first time I heard "partner" was 30 years ago. A woman was talking a lot about her partner. I thought, "wow, she's really into her business partner, I wonder what they sell". so....

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Anonymous wrote:ALL men will stare at a pretty 🤩 girl - they are just hard-wired in that way.

But when they are w/their partners, they should practice more discretion vs. when they are alone.

No woman wants to be seen w/a guy who is ogling other women.
Ever.

How does that work if you are gay - cross wiring?

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I'm tired of it too OP. It's just so sad to me the mentality of it all.

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Anonymous wrote:Men are going to look. The ones that are respectful won’t get caught.

- A man who’s been looking for years, but DW would never know

She noticed, dude. She just didn’t say anything. What’s the point?

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Anonymous wrote:With my husband, I point out the attractive woman.

My wife does this too. She knows exactly what I like and she's better at spotting them than I am. She will quietly say, "you're missing her." It's fun. I don't point out hot guys to her because it's less obvious to me what she finds hot. So I've asked her to tell me when she sees a guy she likes and I'm often surprised. It's no threat to our relationship at all.

I bet I can guess your zip code. 😆

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Anonymous wrote:My wife is 40 fat and lazy. I offered her to join me at the gym NOPE. I offered healthy meals for us NOPE. She had her checkups and nothing came up that's driving her weight gain. She is now beyond 200 lbs @ 5'5. Yet she just keeps eating non stop.....So guess what now I notice every beautiful woman out there who makes minimum effort to stay in shape.

Oh wow

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So annoying and hate whenever I catch my BF doing this.

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you all so insecure in your 40s!
I’m a DW and notice good looking guys, and - I know if they are checking me out.
DH will notice a good looking gal. Sometimes I’ll jokingly comment that I’d do her too
Respect and love your partner always. A glance is just human. Ogling is disrespectful. Know the difference.

And yet… this is something only an insecure (and trashy) woman would say.

Oh unclench.

— NP 45 y.o. woman

Also trashy and immature. Our society is in a state of rapid decline.

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Every relationship is different but this is something DH and I are both very discrete about. Of course we notice attractive people but I don’t need DH to watch me check out men and I don’t want to watch him check out women. Both of us would consider this to be disrespectful to the other and, imo, disrespectful to strangers who may not enjoy being ogled.