My partner eyes up other women - am I too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Start eyeing up other men in front of him, especially really hot ones.

Dysfunctional advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all so insecure in your 40s!
I’m a DW and notice good looking guys, and - I know if they are checking me out.
DH will notice a good looking gal. Sometimes I’ll jokingly comment that I’d do her too
Respect and love your partner always. A glance is just human. Ogling is disrespectful. Know the difference.

And yet… this is something only an insecure (and trashy) woman would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you all so insecure in your 40s!
I’m a DW and notice good looking guys, and - I know if they are checking me out.
DH will notice a good looking gal. Sometimes I’ll jokingly comment that I’d do her too
Respect and love your partner always. A glance is just human. Ogling is disrespectful. Know the difference.

And yet… this is something only an insecure (and trashy) woman would say.

Oh unclench.

— NP 45 y.o. woman

[Anonymous]

Fun fact: men check out/evaluate nearly every women sexually, but rarely remember any of them. Women have that spontaneous sexual attraction to men so rarely it makes a strong impression (they *do* remember it). So just keep it in mind.

However, your husband being obvious about checking out a woman while with you is just disrespectful. He should at least find a way to be subtle (that is, sensitive to you!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fun fact: men check out/evaluate nearly every women sexually, but rarely remember any of them. Women have that spontaneous sexual attraction to men so rarely it makes a strong impression (they *do* remember it). So just keep it in mind.

However, your husband being obvious about checking out a woman while with you is just disrespectful. He should at least find a way to be subtle (that is, sensitive to you!).

I'm a woman and I definitely check men out and it's not rare when I find a man sexually attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone notices attractive people. If he's breaking his neck to ogle it's gross, creepy and very disrespectful.

+1

Your partner is a creep. That poor woman. Anything more than a glance for a second is creepy as F.

I remember a man in his 50s staring at me intently while I was having coffee with a friend pre-pandemic. He wouldn’t stop after a few minutes so I left and finished my coffee in a different place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Female here - my BF looks at attractive women when we are together. He thinks I don’t notice but I always do. I don’t let it bother. At all. In fact I will often bring up something like someone’s nice car, nice shoes, etc. because men don’t compete with other men over looks but they do when it comes to money. My man never cares if I look at other hot men. He does compare himself to other men when it comes to money.


Stay toxic ladies!

LOL we should be friends.

[Anonymous]

My wife is 40 fat and lazy. I offered her to join me at the gym NOPE. I offered healthy meals for us NOPE. She had her checkups and nothing came up that's driving her weight gain. She is now beyond 200 lbs @ 5'5. Yet she just keeps eating non stop.....So guess what now I notice every beautiful woman out there who makes minimum effort to stay in shape.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fun fact: men check out/evaluate nearly every women sexually, but rarely remember any of them. Women have that spontaneous sexual attraction to men so rarely it makes a strong impression (they *do* remember it). So just keep it in mind.

However, your husband being obvious about checking out a woman while with you is just disrespectful. He should at least find a way to be subtle (that is, sensitive to you!).

I'm a woman and I definitely check men out and it's not rare when I find a man sexually attractive.

What are the features that make those men sexually attractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is 40 fat and lazy. I offered her to join me at the gym NOPE. I offered healthy meals for us NOPE. She had her checkups and nothing came up that's driving her weight gain. She is now beyond 200 lbs @ 5'5. Yet she just keeps eating non stop.....So guess what now I notice every beautiful woman out there who makes minimum effort to stay in shape.

What a great way to punish her. 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fun fact: men check out/evaluate nearly every women sexually, but rarely remember any of them. Women have that spontaneous sexual attraction to men so rarely it makes a strong impression (they *do* remember it). So just keep it in mind.

However, your husband being obvious about checking out a woman while with you is just disrespectful. He should at least find a way to be subtle (that is, sensitive to you!).

I'm a woman and I definitely check men out and it's not rare when I find a man sexually attractive.

What are the features that make those men sexually attractive?

I don't know how to explain it unless I see it, but these men have faces, bodies and demeanors that are my type, even when they're not conventionally attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is 40 fat and lazy. I offered her to join me at the gym NOPE. I offered healthy meals for us NOPE. She had her checkups and nothing came up that's driving her weight gain. She is now beyond 200 lbs @ 5'5. Yet she just keeps eating non stop.....So guess what now I notice every beautiful woman out there who makes minimum effort to stay in shape.

Encourage her to join a class at the gym. After talking to a few interesting guys, she’ll start trying to look and feel sexy and hope you benefit.

[Anonymous]

Everyone knows when someone is attracted. Sounds like you are projecting insecurities.
Maybe not feeling attractive as before?
Work on your self first xx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fun fact: men check out/evaluate nearly every women sexually, but rarely remember any of them. Women have that spontaneous sexual attraction to men so rarely it makes a strong impression (they *do* remember it). So just keep it in mind.

However, your husband being obvious about checking out a woman while with you is just disrespectful. He should at least find a way to be subtle (that is, sensitive to you!).

I'm a woman and I definitely check men out and it's not rare when I find a man sexually attractive.

Fun fact: anecdotes =/= statistical relevance.

[Anonymous]

My ex would discreetly follow hot women in the grocery store. He’d get a disturbing look when he encountered one.