My partner eyes up other women - am I too sensitive?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he was banging you later that night, he was thinking of her.

You must be a woman. As soon as an attractive woman is out of eyesight they are forgotten. Think of it like a sunset or a piece of art. You admire and then go about your day.

I'm a woman and I know this, but let's be honest: There's a difference between some random woman who you never see again and someone in your life who you're physically-attracted to and you may think about them while w/ your wife or alone...

Of course there is, but that’s not the issue here. Whose husband are you dreaming about to trigger your comment?

I'm also the person who said I point out an attractive woman to my husband. I wrote what I did regarding a stranger vs someone you know, because it's so common. I don't think it's a healthy marriage if you can't accept that the overwhelming majority of us are sexual creatures who have desires, but we're also more evolved than most animals, so we're supposed to understand boundaries. There's nothing wrong w/ "thinking about" an attraction to someone, as long as you never try to act on it if you're married and presumably, happy.

I love my husband more than anything and he loves me, which is why it's no big deal if we point out attractive people to each other. He's fully aware of my crushes and teases me about it. I would hope everyone has that kind of relationship where you don't have to hide attraction.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Men in their 40s and 50s never grew up in the age where women were walking around half naked 24/7. That didn't happen. In school girls rarely wore skirts. Now, girls are in skin tight pants and shirts that show everything but their tits.

So, yeah it's hard not to look at 20 year old hotties dressed in almost nothing with amazing sexy bodies.

It's normal.

I'm gen x and definitely rocked half shirts, micro minis, spandex jeans w/o pockets, low rise jeans with a thong, etc, etc. And I was a "good girl". Guys in their 40's and 50's most definitely saw some things.

Seriously. Things are so much more conservative today. Have you forgotten various Madonna’s outfits?

[Anonymous]

Tell him to stop. He's has self control, he's just choosing not to exercise it.

[Anonymous]

OP - could part of the problem not be so much how much he is looking at other women but that he's not giving you what you need as far as attention?

[Anonymous]

Women look at women too. Not sexually but they most definitely look at the gorgeous younger women. It's almost like jealousy.

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Father here. Last fall we went to a wedding and my daughter was the flower girl. One of the bridesmaids was drop dead gorgeous. As in she would turn heads as men drove by. When I dropped her off at the hotel to get her hair done, this bridesmaid opened the door. She was very kind and so nice to my daughter

Later on during the dinner she mentioned how nice the lady was and she mentioned "and she's so pretty". I agreed and my wife looks at me to see what my react would be. Oddly enough this bridesmaid was sitting one table away from us so she was right there the entire night.

Yes, I was eyeing her off and on that night. Every single man was. She's beautiful. Maybe early 30s. Married. One kid. Great body. Model magazine cover face. Lucky husband. She was the life of the party dancing with people, smiling, etc.

Nothing wrong with noticing attractive people. That's how life works.

[Anonymous]

Just remember, it doesn’t matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home.

[Anonymous]

Start eyeing up other men in front of him, especially really hot ones.

[Anonymous]

Also, get busy. Start doing stuff without him and focus on yourself.

Yes, it's normal for men (and women btw) to look. It's rude to make it obvious in front of a partner. He doesn't care about your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Father here. Last fall we went to a wedding and my daughter was the flower girl. One of the bridesmaids was drop dead gorgeous. As in she would turn heads as men drove by. When I dropped her off at the hotel to get her hair done, this bridesmaid opened the door. She was very kind and so nice to my daughter

Later on during the dinner she mentioned how nice the lady was and she mentioned "and she's so pretty". I agreed and my wife looks at me to see what my react would be. Oddly enough this bridesmaid was sitting one table away from us so she was right there the entire night.

Yes, I was eyeing her off and on that night. Every single man was. She's beautiful. Maybe early 30s. Married. One kid. Great body. Model magazine cover face. Lucky husband. She was the life of the party dancing with people, smiling, etc.

Nothing wrong with noticing attractive people. That's how life works.

Trust me dude, women are doing the same. But men can't handle that truth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When he was banging you later that night, he was thinking of her.

You must be a woman. As soon as an attractive woman is out of eyesight they are forgotten. Think of it like a sunset or a piece of art. You admire and then go about your day.

I'm a woman and I know this, but let's be honest: There's a difference between some random woman who you never see again and someone in your life who you're physically-attracted to and you may think about them while w/ your wife or alone...

Of course there is, but that’s not the issue here. Whose husband are you dreaming about to trigger your comment?

I'm also the person who said I point out an attractive woman to my husband. I wrote what I did regarding a stranger vs someone you know, because it's so common. I don't think it's a healthy marriage if you can't accept that the overwhelming majority of us are sexual creatures who have desires, but we're also more evolved than most animals, so we're supposed to understand boundaries. There's nothing wrong w/ "thinking about" an attraction to someone, as long as you never try to act on it if you're married and presumably, happy.

I love my husband more than anything and he loves me, which is why it's no big deal if we point out attractive people to each other. He's fully aware of my crushes and teases me about it. I would hope everyone has that kind of relationship where you don't have to hide attraction.

I do not try to get my man horny off other bs. If my dh was eyeballing or otherwise getting visably aroused by other women in front of me, I'd fock his best friend and/or his brother. I'm a vengenful woman that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Father here. Last fall we went to a wedding and my daughter was the flower girl. One of the bridesmaids was drop dead gorgeous. As in she would turn heads as men drove by. When I dropped her off at the hotel to get her hair done, this bridesmaid opened the door. She was very kind and so nice to my daughter

Later on during the dinner she mentioned how nice the lady was and she mentioned "and she's so pretty". I agreed and my wife looks at me to see what my react would be. Oddly enough this bridesmaid was sitting one table away from us so she was right there the entire night.

Yes, I was eyeing her off and on that night. Every single man was. She's beautiful. Maybe early 30s. Married. One kid. Great body. Model magazine cover face. Lucky husband. She was the life of the party dancing with people, smiling, etc.

Nothing wrong with noticing attractive people. That's how life works.

And I bet you really railed your wife that night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women look at women too. Not sexually but they most definitely look at the gorgeous younger women. It's almost like jealousy.

I'm 42 not white with great genetics. Get stared at and younger female coworkers copy me all the time.

[Anonymous]

God gave you sight so you could marvel at all of his beautiful creations.
The problem comes if you feel uncomfortable with your partner doing it, saying something to that partner and partner still does it in front of you. That's disrespectful.

You know the old adage

Look with your eyes not with your hands

[Anonymous]

All guys are not like your guy, sorry to break that to you. He sounds immature and insensitive.

Tell him you find this behavior to be disrespectful , and that you would appreciate having his attention when you are together.

Many women would not put up with that behavior.