Boyfriend of 6m initiated a “state of the union” meeting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We love each other and are very happy together. He gave me a full page of preparation questions about emotional satisfaction, sex life, individual and mutual goals, domestic life, and finances. Says this is a 6-m review so we can air and address any unspoken expectations or needs. Booked a hotel room. Thoughts?

Is he a Capricorn?

[Anonymous]

I think a full page list of "preparation questions" is bizarre. I'd be very weirded out by that, but if I loved the person I'd do it and see how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Being communicative is good, but presenting me with an agenda would give me the ick.

No way am I going to be spreadsheet-ed to death for the next 40 years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP. He isn’t controlling of me at all. He’s very in control of his own life but not of me or mine.

Why are you here wasting everyone's time if you only want to hear he's great, it's a wonderful idea, and no red flags at all. Go to your review meeting and stop bothering the forum with your nonsense.

OP is raising a concern about her own life.
You are going out of your way to follow someone else's life, and complaining that it bothers you. Go touch grass [/quote


You're using the bold wrong.

Both you and OP don't seem to understand how forums work, hint it's not an echo chamber.

[Anonymous]

Does he work in project management? Sounds like he’s tracking the relationship like another work project. Can’t slip on any milestones or deliverables.

[Anonymous]

OP are you safely back home or are you still trapped there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he work in project management? Sounds like he’s tracking the relationship like another work project. Can’t slip on any milestones or deliverables.

Hopefully all the goals are SMART.

[Anonymous]

OH man, one of our good (male) friends did this during the first few weeks/dates with a female and she passed on it/was non-committal and we were trying to explain to him that if she wasn't feeling it- she wasn't feeling it. It was too much, too soon but for some people it would be a 'never'. We thought it was SO him. Showed communication/planning for the future and he was heading toward 40 and so was she. I think he also pointed that out and she didn't dig it.

Summing up- if this is too much for you- let him know so he can find someone who is more his jam.

[Anonymous]

How did the meeting go? Did he or you have issues or suggestions regarding your relationship? Was he critical of you? We need details.

[Anonymous]

OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Troll better next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Count me in the group that expected this.

[Anonymous]

We do this every year, but in a much more informal way (no pre-prepared questions!).

Great way to keep up with how the other is feeling, and typically a lot of fun.

Important way for us to take time out to work on our relationship.

--married 25 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OH man, one of our good (male) friends did this during the first few weeks/dates with a female and she passed on it/was non-committal and we were trying to explain to him that if she wasn't feeling it- she wasn't feeling it. It was too much, too soon but for some people it would be a 'never'. We thought it was SO him. Showed communication/planning for the future and he was heading toward 40 and so was she. I think he also pointed that out and she didn't dig it.

Summing up- if this is too much for you- let him know so he can find someone who is more his jam.

I remember hearing about a similar couple that did this except it was the woman. So cringey as it was clear the desired proposal was not forthcoming…

[Anonymous]

We used to do this every year in January when our kids were little and we had a hard time finding time to check in with each other. It was always over a fancy lunch. Loved it! But then we are both planners and very analytical .