Boyfriend of 6m initiated a “state of the union” meeting.

[Anonymous]

We love each other and are very happy together. He gave me a full page of preparation questions about emotional satisfaction, sex life, individual and mutual goals, domestic life, and finances. Says this is a 6-m review so we can air and address any unspoken expectations or needs. Booked a hotel room. Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

That’s kind of smart and adorable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We love each other and are very happy together. He gave me a full page of preparation questions about emotional satisfaction, sex life, individual and mutual goals, domestic life, and finances. Says this is a 6-m review so we can air and address any unspoken expectations or needs. Booked a hotel room. Thoughts?

“Feet don’t fail me now”

[Anonymous]

DH and I do this so I think it’s great. For us it started when we were doing by year end employee performance reviews. What was great, what can be improved, goals for the next year. For us it’s just a fun way to check in with each other.

[Anonymous]

I would ask him if he is generally happy before agreeing to this. I don't want to get ambushed with his grievances.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s smart and as long as it was overall a productive and enjoyable time, it’s a great idea. Maybe you two could agree to similar check-ins so it feels more like a decision you’ve made to “call” these meetings together going forward.

[Anonymous]

I would hate it, but other people would love it. It sounds like an employee review, and a thing that drives me up the wall is when people bring communicating techniques from the work world into their personal lives. My BIL does this, and schedules family meetings that seem like business meetings. It works for some of us, but I can't stand it.

[Anonymous]

I would run far, far away.

But maybe that’s just me. I’d like more of an organic discussion. It’s not a bad idea to periodically check in to see if you’re on the same page about things, etc, but this just seems too contrived.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would hate it, but other people would love it. It sounds like an employee review, and a thing that drives me up the wall is when people bring communicating techniques from the work world into their personal lives. My BIL does this, and schedules family meetings that seem like business meetings. It works for some of us, but I can't stand it.

I think some of this can be effective as long as it isn’t coupled with a controlling personality.

[Anonymous]

I’d personally be anxious lol. but I think it’s cute!

[Anonymous]

I’d break up immediately

[Anonymous]

A man who is proactive about communicating and booked a hotel room? Sign me up as long as there are no other red flags ie big grievances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d break up immediately

Why? Interesting how the responses are dichotomous.

[Anonymous]

Did you post about this before? From what I remember, this was to determine IF you were to become BF/GF, exclusive, etc. - correct? Because you asked about the status if your relationship, and he was a bit uncertain?

I don’t know - I guess it would depending he were this methodical end analytical about everything? They would reflect a mismatch for me personally, because I’m more “go with the flow,” albeit City open communication.

Has he been divorced? This may be related to him being burned in the past, and trying to apply what he learned and not repeat his mistakes. If that’s the case, I would try to keep an open, if wary and cautious, mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A man who is proactive about communicating and booked a hotel room? Sign me up as long as there are no other red flags ie big grievances.

The hotel room thing is weird…surely each of these people has a living space to meet at?