Boyfriend of 6m initiated a “state of the union” meeting.

[Anonymous]

^^*albeit with open communication

[Anonymous]

OP, do you have children? If so, have they met the new guy?

[Anonymous]

OP. I have not posted before.

[Anonymous]

He's not making any progress, in life. He will be wasting your valuable time. If your intention is marriage and kids, ever -- avoid this guy and his cute games.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it's either great or horrible. There's kind of no in-between.

Meaning: If this is sweet fun sexy night, you guys have a nice dinner and are on the same page about life goals, this could be where you figure that out.

If it's some weird roll-call thing where he's seeing if you check his boxes (which is kind of how you're presenting it? Are you not sure?), then time to throw this one back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's not making any progress, in life. He will be wasting your valuable time. If your intention is marriage and kids, ever -- avoid this guy and his cute games.

How do you get that from OP’s post?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean, it's either great or horrible. There's kind of no in-between.

Meaning: If this is sweet fun sexy night, you guys have a nice dinner and are on the same page about life goals, this could be where you figure that out.

If it's some weird roll-call thing where he's seeing if you check his boxes (which is kind of how you're presenting it? Are you not sure?), then time to throw this one back.

Nothing about this scenario sounds sexy or fun, ngl

[Anonymous]

To me the hotel room is a positive sign that he wants to the meeting to conclude in a very positive way. But I guess that depends on the hotel.

[Anonymous]

Him booking a hotel room sounds sexy and fun. I’m assuming it’s a nice hotel and not the days in in Crystal city.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who is proactive about communicating and booked a hotel room? Sign me up as long as there are no other red flags ie big grievances.

The hotel room thing is weird…surely each of these people has a living space to meet at?

I bet he’s looking at it as neutral territory.

[Anonymous]

OP. It’s a romantic boutique hotel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A man who is proactive about communicating and booked a hotel room? Sign me up as long as there are no other red flags ie big grievances.

The hotel room thing is weird…surely each of these people has a living space to meet at?

It could be one of two things to me. Sweet little getaway or some weird rigid bureaucratic approach to shared life -- this is neutral ground so everyone feels "safe."

OP, does he see a therapist? Or have female friends? Prior LTR? Did he come up with this on his own? Seem prone to being in a cult?

[Anonymous]

It's so weird how people crowd source something like this to determine if it's "ok" to feel a certain way.

Either you think it's cool or you don't for your own reasons, not because online people bullied you with a thumbs up or thumbs down.

[Anonymous]

How many people has he done this with before? Like if it’s a list of questions he runs through with everyone at the 6 month mark, I too would feel like I was being interrogated and assessed, data-analytics style, and that would not be a relationship for me. Conversely, if this is the first time he’s ever done such a thing, I might have mixed feelings on that too. On one hand I’d feel flattered that he was so seriously and carefully considering a future with me, but on the other, depending on how detailed and extensive the questions are, it would be weird that he’d gone ahead and done all this alone without even knowing whether I’d be into the idea. I guess the point is that he needs to be with someone who would respond positively to this. Is he an organized, secretly passionate guy with a super clear vision of the future that he wants to share with you? Or is he assessing you on a point scale? Does this strike you as controlling, or really an attempt to be vulnerable and open with you?

[Anonymous]

Wow. A man who communicates. Yes please!