Boyfriend of 6m initiated a “state of the union” meeting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. He isn’t controlling of me at all. He’s very in control of his own life but not of me or mine.

Why are you here wasting everyone's time if you only want to hear he's great, it's a wonderful idea, and no red flags at all. Go to your review meeting and stop bothering the forum with your nonsense.

OP is raising a concern about her own life.
You are going out of your way to follow someone else's life, and complaining that it bothers you. Go touch grass [/quote


You're using the bold wrong.

Both you and OP don't seem to understand how forums work, hint it's not an echo chamber.

Desperately waiting for your next lesson on how to use BB Code properly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s kind of smart and adorable.

+1. He is serious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Stole the linens and watched premium cable? What else do you need a local hotel for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

That’s great to hear! How did the conversation go based on the prepared questions. Did you have any relationship insights?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I hear stories like this I think 1. how utterly exhausting and awful and 2. God really did make a love match for every type of woman on the planet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Is he a Capricorn though? And you’re a Taurus?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would hate it, but other people would love it. It sounds like an employee review, and a thing that drives me up the wall is when people bring communicating techniques from the work world into their personal lives. My BIL does this, and schedules family meetings that seem like business meetings. It works for some of us, but I can't stand it.

I agree with you and I would run fast and far. It sounds even worse than house meetings in college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP. All went well. We split a bottle of wine and made good use of the hotel room; he said I’m the best thing that has ever happened to him.

Is he a Capricorn though? And you’re a Taurus?

Neither

[Anonymous]

Pffffft should have popped the question

[Anonymous]

I don't like it. It feels too confrontational and controlling. Why schedule it? Why a hotel room? Nope!

[Anonymous]

So no engagement ring was forthcoming? Huh. Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We do this every year, but in a much more informal way (no pre-prepared questions!).

Great way to keep up with how the other is feeling, and typically a lot of fun.

Important way for us to take time out to work on our relationship.

--married 25 years

Same here. Twice a year with DW and I and once a year with the kids. It's more informal than an itinerary and questions. I like the idea of incorporating a hotel stay or fun activity though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d break up immediately

Lol me too!!!

It's only 6 months jeez

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So no engagement ring was forthcoming? Huh. Interesting.

six months in and that's what you think was going to happen? let's get real. if that did happen, you would be the first one telling OP to run, saying he's love bombing or making up some other BS excuse?

amiright?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We love each other and are very happy together. He gave me a full page of preparation questions about emotional satisfaction, sex life, individual and mutual goals, domestic life, and finances. Says this is a 6-m review so we can air and address any unspoken expectations or needs. Booked a hotel room. Thoughts?

I'd do this but with a 3rd party Relationship Therapist to mediate the session.

Survey sounds great to do and discuss at the 6 month mark. Make sure it includes all the future domestic life topics! and gets at each other's communication styles.

This is much MORE productive and useful than any church premarital counseling. It will get at what each of you believes and wants, not spoonfeed you what to say you'll do.