Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

What law?

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She’s a kid and fitting in is important at that age. If you can’t afford a Stanley, see if you can find one at a thrift store. If you can afford one, consider just buying it. If it’s the principle, have her do a few chores or help an older family member so she can appreciate that this is a want and not a need. I recently had my son shovel the driveway and sidewalks of his grandpa and paid him myself. We also have him take over dog walking responsibilities.

I remember being that age and my mom was adamant about no labels. It was really hard. I babysat a lot to earn money as I got older. I decided with my own kids to meet in the middle. I wouldn’t buy everything they wanted but purchase things here or there.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her dehydrate. She sounds like a silly insecure fool,

Rude. If you were a kid new to a country you would want to assimilate. It’s normal. Hopefully by high school she’ll get better quality friends.

OP did not say daughter is new to the country. OP is an immigrant. Daughter could be born in the US for all we know.

Also yes MCPS has tons of immigrants/ kids of immigrant parents.

OP says she is a first generation. Doesn't that mean she was born here too?

That’s what I thought. OPs parents are immigrants, OP is the first generation born here and her child is second generation.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

People don't need a lot of things. Will you be arriving at a point?

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

You could wear your exercise sneakers to work and to a wedding. Unless you want to fit in I suppose...

My office has a dress code. I don’t wear sneakers because I don’t want to get fired, not because I’m a vain lemming.

That's actually a market. You can find sneakers that look like dress shoes.

Nonetheless, my podiatrist does not recommend wearing the same pair of shoes all the time. I think I’ll follow medical advice. You do as you wish.

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OP, I would have bought her the cup, except she didn’t ask nicely. Since she’s tweeting to strong arm you into buying it by not drinking at school, let her.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

Get her the stupid cup and trendy shoes but tell her how deeply disappointed you are in her

Also take her back to the old country this summer and show her what real poverty is like

I.e. demonstrate, passive, aggressive behavior, and teacher to be passive aggressive? Just buy it for her and tell her you’re going to make a one time exception and do something you wouldn’t normally and for her to enjoy it or in the alternative tell her no. If it were me, I would buy it for her unless I couldn’t afford it.

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

Get her the stupid cup and trendy shoes but tell her how deeply disappointed you are in her

Also take her back to the old country this summer and show her what real poverty is like

I.e. demonstrate passive-aggressive behavior, and teach her to be passive aggressive?

Just buy it for her and tell her you’re going to make a one time exception and do something you wouldn’t normally, and for her to enjoy it; or in the alternative tell her no. (If it were me, I would buy it for her unless I couldn’t afford it.)

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Did she just join the school? If so, I might get it but have a talk bc she’ll start asking for all the other things she sees that the kids have. If not and she doesn’t want to drink all day, make her do chores to earn it….or oh well, she drinks when she gets home.

I don’t negotiate with terrorists.

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What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

People don't need a lot of things. Will you be arriving at a point?

Those people can buy whatever they want with their own money, unless the kid has their own money there are limits to what they decide are needs and not wants. If you buy your kid whatever their heart desires that's on you, but that's a parenting philosophy others don't subscribe to for obvious reasons.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

In what way is the kid actually suffering?

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

+1 No one needs a Stanley cup.

People don't need a lot of things. Will you be arriving at a point?

Those people can buy whatever they want with their own money, unless the kid has their own money there are limits to what they decide are needs and not wants. If you buy your kid whatever their heart desires that's on you, but that's a parenting philosophy others don't subscribe to for obvious reasons.

+1 If this kid doesn't have an allowance it is time to start one (assuming the stand-off about the Stanley is not because they can't afford it). We started allowances in early ES when the kids started asking us to buy random crap. They are much more careful about spending when it's their own money going to the latest fad.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not [/b]asking [b]for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

She’s not asking for anything. She’s demanding. Yes let the brat suffer. Had she asked nicely she might have gotten one.

We are raising a generation of brats.