Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

You are teaching your daughter to be a greedy mean girl who won't befriend poor people. Honestly it will probably work out well for her, at the expense of her soul.

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Anonymous wrote:Let her dehydrate. She sounds like a silly insecure fool,

Rude. If you were a kid new to a country you would want to assimilate. It’s normal. Hopefully by high school she’ll get better quality friends.

OP did not say daughter is new to the country. OP is an immigrant. Daughter could be born in the US for all we know.

Also yes MCPS has tons of immigrants/ kids of immigrant parents.

OP says she is a first generation. Doesn't that mean she was born here too?

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

They made a ridiculous comparison, and now they’re going to die on that hill.

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

You could wear your exercise sneakers to work and to a wedding. Unless you want to fit in I suppose...

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

They made a ridiculous comparison, and now they’re going to die on that hill.

It's just not. You make purchasing decisions every single day to fit in. You're a liar if you say you don't. You're just drawing the line at a Stanley Cup.

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

You could wear your exercise sneakers to work and to a wedding. Unless you want to fit in I suppose...

My office has a dress code. I don’t wear sneakers because I don’t want to get fired, not because I’m a vain lemming.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

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Anonymous wrote:None of these kids need to be drinking water all day long at school. She can drink plenty of water before and after school.

+1. None of us had water bottles we carried around all day and we were fine. Don’t get her the Stanley cup. She needs to learn to navigate life not be a sheep who tries to extort you. If she gets thirsty, she will drink from the water fountain. - child of immigrants.

How many pairs of shoes do you have? Is it more than one? Why?

Not many, actually. And I work to pay for them and buy what I need, it what others tell me I should want.

I'm not sure why you feel the need to buy more than one. That same pair of shoes should be good enough to be used for work, exercise, and social activities. Why do you feel the need to have more than one pair of shoes to fit in?

NP. I mean. Look at what you just wrote. Of course you can’t wear hiking boots to run, go to work, or attend a wedding. A podiatrist would actually tell you it’s medically better to have multiple pairs of shoes, and to have the right shoe for the right activity. This argument is so bad! Nothing to do with an overpriced water bottle.

You could wear your exercise sneakers to work and to a wedding. Unless you want to fit in I suppose...

My office has a dress code. I don’t wear sneakers because I don’t want to get fired, not because I’m a vain lemming.

That's actually a market. You can find sneakers that look like dress shoes.

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You 100% are sending her the wrong message if you give in. Call her bluff. “Fine. Don’t drink water during the day. I’m not getting you a Stanley”. End of discussion. There is ZERO chance she will go all day without drinking. Don’t be a pushover.

I admit my kids have them but they asked for them not demanded. They know demanding gets them squat.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

Please tell us more about your school experience decades ago.

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Teaching moment you must not miss

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She sounds bratty. Like most kids in this area. Shocks me how few kids say please and thank you. Few kids are being raised right. It’s sad.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

Please tell us more about your school experience decades ago.

Sorry you don’t understand how drinking fountains work.

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Anonymous wrote:Why can’t she use the water fountain at school if her water bottle is not cool? I get wanting to fit in but right now it’s the Stanley cup, it will be something else later.

Neither of my kids’ schools have water fountains any more.

I am not saying she needs a Stanley, just answering the question of why she likely can’t use the water fountain.

Drinking fountains and/filling stations are required by law, one per 100 students and at least one each level

Yeah, now imagine all 100 of those students trying to get some sips of water and get to class on time during their 5 minute passing period.

Never been a problem. Kids take a sip and move on. Many take no sips at all. All 100 kids are not trying to all use the fountain in the same 4 min passing time. Did you never attend school? None of us carried water bottles daily. We all used the water fountain intermittently, which was maybe once per day, or not even daily.

Of course I attended school. In a different part of the country with a different climate. At least at my kid's school here in the DMV area, they crank up the heat very high in the winter and the air gets dry. Students should have water accessible throughout the day.

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Anonymous wrote:So many hypocritical posts in this thread. Everybody here does/has something (and, in reality, LOTS of things) to fit into their current circumstance. But let's drawn the line at a Stanley Cup and pick on a middle schooler trying to fit in during one of the worst stages of youth.

Because the dramatic mom is acting like her daughters health is failing bc stubborn daughter isn’t drinking water. It’s like believing your toddler will pass out and die if they hold their breath to get what they want. She will be fine with no water bottlle.

Honestly, who cares? It's a middle school girl trying to fit in. It's a water bottle. This kid has no idea that in addition to feeling like she suffers the judgment of kids at her school, she suffers the judgment of posters like you who haven't been in middle school in decades.

The thing is getting the cup would help her fit in. Then she would want to know what’s wrong with her because she has the right cup, clothes etc., and still doesn’t fit in.