Teen won't drink water in school unless I get her a Stanley Cup

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

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In this case, I would buy one and have her earn the money to pay you back. If she doesn't pay you back in a certain amount of time, the cup goes away.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

[Anonymous]

I'll start by saying my (male) middle schooler doesn't bring a water bottle because "they always leak" no matter what kind me try (probably BS) He drinks occasionally from the drinking fountain and seems to be fine.

I agree with posters who say this is an easy way to make her feel like she fits in. Valentine's Day is a great occasion to show that you see her wants and love her and give the gift.

I bought my kid some really ugly shoes he wanted, it was an easy way to show that I trust his judgement and things that are important to him are important to me.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

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Anonymous wrote:Being a first generation immigrant, i just don't get it. 8th grade DD goes all day without drinking water even though her dermatologist and her doctor told her she needed to. She said any other water bottles aside from a Stanley Cup is "trashy" and she would be judged by "people in the hallway". She would rather go for 7 hours without a drop of liquid and it's clearly taking a toll on her skin and overall health. Her close friends are kind although all of them have the "right" sneakers and "right" water bottles. She's in a MoCo public school, which has both FARMS kids and kids from relatively affluent families, I was really hoping to raise a confident daughter who's not too worried about how shes' being perceived by others when it comes to material processions. Am I sending the wrong message by giving in?

Get her the stupid cup and trendy shoes but tell her how deeply disappointed you are in her

Also take her back to the old country this summer and show her what real poverty is like

I.e. demonstrate, passive, aggressive behavior, and teacher to be passive aggressive? Just buy it for her and tell her you’re going to make a one time exception and do something you wouldn’t normally and for her to enjoy it or in the alternative tell her no. If it were me, I would buy it for her unless I couldn’t afford it.

Right. PP, if you’re reading this, passive aggressive guilt tripping is not the way to parent. It has long lasting impacts. Don’t parent like this. Let her enjoy what she has or does.

OP, you also need to figure out how you’re going to avoid these power struggles in the future. I would say, give her some money that she has license over how to use. A Stanley bottle isn’t like drugs or even a ton of candy. If she wants to waste her money on something like that in the future, she can but will have to save for it.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

I suspect a lot of the posters who think there is something drastically wrong with a teen wanting a trendy item either had cool things supplied to them without asking/fanfare or were completely clueless and remain that way.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

No, just no. A kid who is struggling this bad has other problems. This isn't easily fixed by a Stanley.

[Anonymous]

Guess she won't be drinking water at school. If she wants that specific cup she can work for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'll start by saying my (male) middle schooler doesn't bring a water bottle because "they always leak" no matter what kind me try (probably BS) He drinks occasionally from the drinking fountain and seems to be fine.

I agree with posters who say this is an easy way to make her feel like she fits in. Valentine's Day is a great occasion to show that you see her wants and love her and give the gift.

I bought my kid some really ugly shoes he wanted, it was an easy way to show that I trust his judgement and things that are important to him are important to me.

Yeah, I wouldn't make this the hill to die on and would give it as a gift. But also, it's time to start giving her an allowance so in future she'll need to use her own money for these things. If she already gets an allowance, then she should be buying the cup with her money.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

No, just no. A kid who is struggling this bad has other problems. This isn't easily fixed by a Stanley.

When I was in middle school, at lunch I didn't get up from the table to get an extra snack from the cafeteria (despite still being hungry or thirsty) or go to the bathroom if needed because I felt subconscious that people were making fun of how I walked. I was actually walking normal so go figure. It's a tough age for kids.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If kids are genuinely being bullied for using the water fountain, then I'm definitely not buying the cup. I'm not encouraging my kid conform herself to that culture.

I was bullied a ton in middle school. My clothes were from Walmart and people made fun of me for that. I remember what that's like, but I'm a better person today for how my parents handled that. I got the clothes I got, and if I wanted something else I used my own money. You know what happened? I got a job and suddenly spending my little money on BS to please kids at school seemed stupid. It is stupid.

But listen, no one is forbidding you from buying your kid this cup, I guess someone has to raise the bullies.

So you decided to grow into the bully instead. Good life lesson here.

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Anonymous wrote:What is wrong with you people? Really, letting your kid suffer for a water bottle OP? She’s not asking for a car. I got news for you, your kids don’t always agree with you and value what you value. My father made fun of things I wanted as a kid from better clothing to drinking mineral water and liking sushi. Now that jerk likes the same things.

My kid can value what she wants with her own money. We give her an allowance for this reason. If she wants to value it with MY money, she has to make the case for it. That case, also has not to be a stupid stunt of refusing to drink water. If she wants to be a little terrorist, she's earned this modest amount of suffering.

That you're calling it a stunt demonstrates how completely out of touch you are. Why isn't her kid using the water fountain? Do kids make fun of water fountain users as they walk by? Do you know either way? But that builds character, right?

If an actual thirsty kid is bypassing a fountain in this extreme desire to fit in, she needs more help than a cup. I'd be more concerned with her mental health and don't really think buying this cup will fix it. Do you believe this is a simple problem with a simple solution? If so, you're naive.

Okay, you clearly haven't been a middle schooler in a very long time. Time has a way of warping all things, including memories...

No, just no. A kid who is struggling this bad has other problems. This isn't easily fixed by a Stanley.

When I was in middle school, at lunch I didn't get up from the table to get an extra snack from the cafeteria (despite still being hungry or thirsty) or go to the bathroom if needed because I felt subconscious that people were making fun of how I walked. I was actually walking normal so go figure. It's a tough age for kids.

And? This proves that the problem is deeper than just the cup.