Dating as a 45+ woman

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

You are crazy and make all men look like dogs hungry for sex going around f…ing everything they can. A high L man knows how to use his hands and has self respect to date women he wants to date. Men get tired of sex with multiple women over time, and all that dating turnover

Utter and complete horse sh*t. Boning is literally all men want to do. That is it.

I know within a nano second of meeting a woman whether I want her sitting on my face. It is programmed into all of us. It's like wanting water when you are thirsty. It is primal, akin to breathing. Women will never understand this. Ever.

We are hostages to our penis.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

You are crazy and make all men look like dogs hungry for sex going around f…ing everything they can. A high L man knows how to use his hands and has self respect to date women he wants to date. Men get tired of sex with multiple women over time, and all that dating turnover

Utter and complete horse sh*t. Boning is literally all men want to do. That is it.

I know within a nano second of meeting a woman whether I want her sitting on my face. It is programmed into all of us. It's like wanting water when you are thirsty. It is primal, akin to breathing. Women will never understand this. Ever.

We are hostages to our penis.

Lol. This one’s a real charmer ladies.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

You are crazy and make all men look like dogs hungry for sex going around f…ing everything they can. A high L man knows how to use his hands and has self respect to date women he wants to date. Men get tired of sex with multiple women over time, and all that dating turnover

Utter and complete horse sh*t. Boning is literally all men want to do. That is it.

I know within a nano second of meeting a woman whether I want her sitting on my face. It is programmed into all of us. It's like wanting water when you are thirsty. It is primal, akin to breathing. Women will never understand this. Ever.

We are hostages to our penis.

Lol. This one’s a real charmer ladies.

Sweetie, that's all of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 years old and about to be divorced and dating again. Tell me about your experiences dating post 45 as a woman and give me your best tips!

A friend suggested I step outside my comfort zone when dating after divorce so as not to fall into what felt comfortable. On vacation in Miami, I went to Haulover Beach with a book and a bottle of wine. I found a comfortable spot amongst a few couples, and through the course of the day undressed to my comfort level. Mind you Haulover Beach is a nude beach in Florida. Having never been to a nude beach, this was my first step in establishing body confidence. I returned the next day, and threw caution to the wind, and enjoyed the day as everyone on the beach did, fully naked. It was liberating to swim and sunbathe naked. I gained confidence in myself with my 50yo body.

Last summer I joined a nudist resort in the DMV, and have since met many people that have introduced me to a number of eligible men I never would have met in bars, the grocery store or playing tennis. Much to my chagrin, I've learned to play pickleball, and have found it to be more fun when played naked than properly attired in my local park.

I never would have thought at my age, that I'd have the confidence to undress in public or in a social environment such as the nudist resort, this new confidence has allowed me to experience dating as I never imagined I would.

I encourage you, the OP to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Trust me I scoffed at the idea at first, but am I glad I did as life as a dating single female in my early 50's is far more enjoyable than I perceived. I had heard from friends that dating in their 40's was awful and that dating in their 50's was even worse. I'm having the time of my life meeting new people, and dating 'naked', something I ever imagined. And the sex is pretty damn good too!!

Bless your heart for stepping outside your comfort zone. I'm gonna join Pine Tree next summer, visited this past summer and enjoyed the friendliness of those I met. Maybe our paths will cross next summer and we can compare notes.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

I am not 50. I am 46. Tell that to the 27-year-old I have been seeing for 6 months.

You tell him Mommy.

My youngest kid is 8.

I have told him. He does not want to date near his age for several years because he is not looking for marriage. I am not either.

He has told me that I look better than most women his age. (Which is true). Everyone says this. Not just him.

I won’t remarry anyone so it’s fine for now. I am not looking for serious. Long term monogamous casual is fine.

You poor thing.

He's simply telling you what you want to hear so you will keep having sex with him. Do you not realize he is playing to your insecurity and vanity? No, I guess not.

Not wanting marriage doesn't mean he would not prefer a younger woman for casual sex, if he could easily get one. Evidently he can't.

What he was telling you is that since he does not want a serious relationship and marriage yet, he does not need or want to put in the kind of effort it would take to find a marriageble woman in his own age group. For casual sex you will suffice unless and until something better comes along. You probably think he isn't having sex with other women or wouldn't should the opportunity arise too. Guess again.

For many younger guys they will have sex with an older woman becaus it's easier, not because it's preferable, to finding someone their own age.

That's all.

How you warped everything in your mind to take this huge ego trip is amusing, I guess it salves ones ego

I have a better body (and face) than most women. Including 20s. Also, 20s and 30s women are demanding. I am not. You don’t get it. He is very attractive and could easily be with someone younger if he wants. You clearly don’t understand the dynamics which is this could last years because there’s no pressure to get married. Younger women are going to want marriage and kids and he is not ready for several years. You are missing the point completely. In this situation, older is preferable.

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Anonymous wrote:My sense - and this is from my attractive single/divorced friends - is that if you're a good looking 45 year women, there are unlimited options for sex with randoms, including with very young men. But that comes with all the risks. It is extremely easy, however. My particular friend doesn't even bother with online. She just walks into a bar. Sometimes a hotel bar. Sometimes something different. Has no intention of seeing them again. One and done. Literally, hundreds. Can't say she's in the best place. Her judgement is terrible. But she is very attractive. Very charismatic. She prefers them young - "easier to control" are her words. She completely dissociates sex from connection. She finds it very easy to find partners. She hurts a lot of feelings.

My other equally attractive, very successful, very rich friend is having a harder time finding a partner. She's relationship oriented. She does not do casual. She's done some online dating. Here and there she has had something that lasts for a bit. But she hasn't met anyone she's genuinely passionate about. She noted that with online dating, it's so easy to get into the swipe next mindset. Nothing really gets a chance to develop organically. She's taking a timeout and is presently lusting over her housepainter. But she did note that the very few dateable 45-55 men genuinely go younger for relationships. She's not attracted to older or the dregs. But she needs connection to be intimate so she's not doing randoms. She's no longer really actively pursuing things.

40yo woman here. This is not a flex. Sex is easy at any age for women. Sleeping with randoms at the bar makes me wonder if she’s even getting off during these hookups or just trying to compete with men.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

I also wait 4-6 weeks and have never met a low libido guy doing this. Guys interested in relationships are typically fine with this and some even prefer it.

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I dated all ages post-divorce. Young women impulsively sleep with a man if they are attracted. Some nights, they might explore their sexual curiosity. But they are flaky, and might decide to date bikers, or join an ashram the next day. Long-term compatibility is difficult.

The singles pool is poisoned by perpetual losers and rejects. There are online scammers, opportunistic women asking to "borrow" money, and broke men poseurs. There is also a disproportionate share of alcoholics and drug addicts.

The dating sites show the most popular profiles, and women think they can just order a good man out of a catalog. But losers send 90% of the messages, and annoyed women start treating first dates as interviews or auditions to screen men. These women are late, dressed too casual, and inappropriate.

https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/jmjdbb/over_2_years_ive_had_over_500_matches_and_gone_on/

These women don't appreciate that it is a two-way audition. You will waste your time on 90% of the dates. But you must prepare every first date to impress a good man. Attractive men have options, and you probably won't get a second chance.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

You are crazy and make all men look like dogs hungry for sex going around f…ing everything they can. A high L man knows how to use his hands and has self respect to date women he wants to date. Men get tired of sex with multiple women over time, and all that dating turnover

Utter and complete horse sh*t. Boning is literally all men want to do. That is it.

I know within a nano second of meeting a woman whether I want her sitting on my face. It is programmed into all of us. It's like wanting water when you are thirsty. It is primal, akin to breathing. Women will never understand this. Ever.

We are hostages to our penis.

Lol. This one’s a real charmer ladies.

It’s funny though. I mean imagine how you would feel if you were always ovulating. The main difference between women and men is that for most men the answer to the question “do I want her sitting on my face” is a resounding yea to most women. Most women do not feel the reciprocal way about most men.

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Young men like sex with hot young women, but what they *really* like is easy sex. I agree with PP who said that this is what's going on in most of these older woman/younger man relationships. There are probably some young men who prefer older women, maybe because older women are better in bed or maybe because they (the young men) enjoy feeling dominated/objectified...but they're the exceptions. Your typical twentysomething guy who's dating significantly older either can't get a woman his own age or doesn't feel like putting in the effort to do so.

It's funny how the ladies of DCUM assume that comical egotism is solely a guy thing. Listening to middle-aged divorcees talk about their love lives, it becomes clear that that's not the case. In general, middle-aged people of both genders seem to have very high opinions of themselves. I guess you have to deal with aging somehow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

Any respectable man knows better than to go after those women. If no one wanted them, EVER, there is a reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My sense - and this is from my attractive single/divorced friends - is that if you're a good looking 45 year women, there are unlimited options for sex with randoms, including with very young men. But that comes with all the risks. It is extremely easy, however. My particular friend doesn't even bother with online. She just walks into a bar. Sometimes a hotel bar. Sometimes something different. Has no intention of seeing them again. One and done. Literally, hundreds. Can't say she's in the best place. Her judgement is terrible. But she is very attractive. Very charismatic. She prefers them young - "easier to control" are her words. She completely dissociates sex from connection. She finds it very easy to find partners. She hurts a lot of feelings.

My other equally attractive, very successful, very rich friend is having a harder time finding a partner. She's relationship oriented. She does not do casual. She's done some online dating. Here and there she has had something that lasts for a bit. But she hasn't met anyone she's genuinely passionate about. She noted that with online dating, it's so easy to get into the swipe next mindset. Nothing really gets a chance to develop organically. She's taking a timeout and is presently lusting over her housepainter. But she did note that the very few dateable 45-55 men genuinely go younger for relationships. She's not attracted to older or the dregs. But she needs connection to be intimate so she's not doing randoms. She's no longer really actively pursuing things.

40yo woman here. This is not a flex. Sex is easy at any age for women. Sleeping with randoms at the bar makes me wonder if she’s even getting off during these hookups or just trying to compete with men.

This is the poster from above

This particular friend is not in a wonderful place. Was just pointing out that it is extremely easy for attractive 45 year olds to get it.

She's a weirdo in many ways. Takes her three minutes. She actually doesn't like men after years of this. 100s of them. Sometimes it works out. Sometimes it's lame. And sometimes everything is horrible and she dissociates. Then she hides for a week or two.

She says she's like a guy.

Personally I think profound intimacy disorder

But the point is it that it is not difficult for attractive 40+ women to find partners. It's all about the judgement.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

I am not 50. I am 46. Tell that to the 27-year-old I have been seeing for 6 months.

You tell him Mommy.

My youngest kid is 8.

I have told him. He does not want to date near his age for several years because he is not looking for marriage. I am not either.

He has told me that I look better than most women his age. (Which is true). Everyone says this. Not just him.

I won’t remarry anyone so it’s fine for now. I am not looking for serious. Long term monogamous casual is fine.

You poor thing.

He's simply telling you what you want to hear so you will keep having sex with him. Do you not realize he is playing to your insecurity and vanity? No, I guess not.

Not wanting marriage doesn't mean he would not prefer a younger woman for casual sex, if he could easily get one. Evidently he can't.

What he was telling you is that since he does not want a serious relationship and marriage yet, he does not need or want to put in the kind of effort it would take to find a marriageble woman in his own age group. For casual sex you will suffice unless and until something better comes along. You probably think he isn't having sex with other women or wouldn't should the opportunity arise too. Guess again.

For many younger guys they will have sex with an older woman becaus it's easier, not because it's preferable, to finding someone their own age.

That's all.

How you warped everything in your mind to take this huge ego trip is amusing, I guess it salves ones ego

Wow. I am not the PP, but I have to call out that you are a real big bully, just trying your hardest to put someone down for no reason. Stop your bullying already!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Young men like sex with hot young women, but what they *really* like is easy sex. I agree with PP who said that this is what's going on in most of these older woman/younger man relationships. There are probably some young men who prefer older women, maybe because older women are better in bed or maybe because they (the young men) enjoy feeling dominated/objectified...but they're the exceptions. Your typical twentysomething guy who's dating significantly older either can't get a woman his own age or doesn't feel like putting in the effort to do so.

It's funny how the ladies of DCUM assume that comical egotism is solely a guy thing. Listening to middle-aged divorcees talk about their love lives, it becomes clear that that's not the case. In general, middle-aged people of both genders seem to have very high opinions of themselves. I guess you have to deal with aging somehow.

The younger men I've dated can all get women their own age. They're all attractive with good careers. They prefer older. I didn't believe it for a long time, but they've all given me their reasons: younger women are trashy, flaky, needy, greedy, and, let's face it, a GenX woman is less likely to be fat, anxious, depressed, sexually confused and just plain weird than a GenZ. A few wrinkles is nothing when you factor in all of that, and most successful 45-55 year old women have the money to spend to get rid of them. The younger men I've dated have waited months for sex and insist on paying for everything. As far as I know, none of them has gone on to date younger after dating me.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

NP here. I’m 45 and still look pretty good. My friends are also fit and attractive.

You are kidding yourself if you look better than most 25 year olds.

I’m still married. My twice divorced friend was doing well on the dating scene post divorce. She slept with more men in one year than in 40 years combined. She had this giant ego. Then it hit her that while it is easy to have sex, it was much harder to connect. Now she is in a very bad place after partying for a few years.

Yes, this - it always boggles my mind when women think that because a man will sleep with them, it necessarily means he likes or cares about her or that it somehow correlates to how objectively attractive she is. Single guys will sleep with just about anyone who will let them. I truly think figuring this out and really internalizing it in my early 20s helped me make better choices with who I wanted to invest my time on. Of course if all you want is sex then no problem and have fun, but it doesn’t tell you much about anything else.

Yea, which is why I never sleep with a man until after a month or so. Allows him invest more emotionally and also decide whether he’s actually interested in the relationship

Do you realize you are selecting for low libido, passive men lacking in self confidence and options?

All that being willing to wait for a month means is that they don't have better options, it doesn't mean they are emotionally invested in you. After a month? That's crazy.

You are crazy and make all men look like dogs hungry for sex going around f…ing everything they can. A high L man knows how to use his hands and has self respect to date women he wants to date. Men get tired of sex with multiple women over time, and all that dating turnover

Utter and complete horse sh*t. Boning is literally all men want to do. That is it.

I know within a nano second of meeting a woman whether I want her sitting on my face. It is programmed into all of us. It's like wanting water when you are thirsty. It is primal, akin to breathing. Women will never understand this. Ever.

We are hostages to our penis.

This is loser talk.
You know what kind of men don't think of sex like breathing? Men who've never had to worry about not getting any.