Dating as a 45+ woman

[Anonymous]

Guy here who prefers to date women plus or minus five years of me so 47-57. I’m very aware that sex can be more challenging for women post menopause but if they still have the desire I’m more than happy to do what makes them comfortable. Women in this age range can be truly wonderful as they are usually on their own and really want to enjoy life with no strings attached.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 years old and about to be divorced and dating again. Tell me about your experiences dating post 45 as a woman and give me your best tips!

A friend suggested I step outside my comfort zone when dating after divorce so as not to fall into what felt comfortable. On vacation in Miami, I went to Haulover Beach with a book and a bottle of wine. I found a comfortable spot amongst a few couples, and through the course of the day undressed to my comfort level. Mind you Haulover Beach is a nude beach in Florida. Having never been to a nude beach, this was my first step in establishing body confidence. I returned the next day, and threw caution to the wind, and enjoyed the day as everyone on the beach did, fully naked. It was liberating to swim and sunbathe naked. I gained confidence in myself with my 50yo body.

Last summer I joined a nudist resort in the DMV, and have since met many people that have introduced me to a number of eligible men I never would have met in bars, the grocery store or playing tennis. Much to my chagrin, I've learned to play pickleball, and have found it to be more fun when played naked than properly attired in my local park.

I never would have thought at my age, that I'd have the confidence to undress in public or in a social environment such as the nudist resort, this new confidence has allowed me to experience dating as I never imagined I would.

I encourage you, the OP to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Trust me I scoffed at the idea at first, but am I glad I did as life as a dating single female in my early 50's is far more enjoyable than I perceived. I had heard from friends that dating in their 40's was awful and that dating in their 50's was even worse. I'm having the time of my life meeting new people, and dating 'naked', something I ever imagined. And the sex is pretty damn good too!!

I’m happy for you but the thought of braless pickleball is not at all appealing.

NP, hahah, me too. So much so, I wondered if the poster was a troll.

I'm not that poster, but it probably depends on the volume that's bouncing around. For me, that would be a minimal one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

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Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

Post menopause? Average age of menopause is 52. I am mid 40s. I have the same level of attention from men ages 27 to my age. I don't look old at all.

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Most men want sex only. I date younger. The sex is better. I will never remarry. There is no shortage of decent men to date whether that is a fling, long term casual, or something serious. It is easier than it was 20 years ago in my 20s. If you are attractive, you will have more attention than you can handle.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

Dudes that young don’t need to choose between a 25 year old and a 50 year old. The youngins have figured out there’s a treasure trove of sexually repressed post divorce women that want nothing more than sex.

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Anonymous wrote:Guy here who prefers to date women plus or minus five years of me so 47-57. I’m very aware that sex can be more challenging for women post menopause but if they still have the desire I’m more than happy to do what makes them comfortable. Women in this age range can be truly wonderful as they are usually on their own and really want to enjoy life with no strings attached.

What a guy.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

Sadly most 25 year olds are very overweight. I shouldn’t look better than many if not most of them but I do. I definitely don’t look better than the 25 year old version of myself.

-NP who is 45

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Anonymous wrote:Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating?

Here, this is helpful to understand the impacts of hormone changes during menopause and peri menopause.

https://menopausewiki.ca/

there’s a lot of stuff about menopause that is not true or not true for all women, and the language tends to be highly negative. specifically with respect to libido, nobody bothers to also mention that male libido and performance decline with age.

This. Think limp D that takes forever.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

I am not 50. I am 46. Tell that to the 27-year-old I have been seeing for 6 months.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

They might pick the 50 year old to be in a relationship with, bc there is more to a relationship than looks, but yeah - no 46 year old looks better than “most” 25 year olds. That is delusion.

Sadly most 25 year olds are very overweight. I shouldn’t look better than many if not most of them but I do. I definitely don’t look better than the 25 year old version of myself.

-NP who is 45

PP here…I don’t look better than I did at 25 but I look better than most 20s and 30s women. A woman who is average looking or overweight…and even pretty…I look better than them even if many years younger. My cousin is a decade younger and looks much older than me. I can’t compete with absolutely beautiful younger women but most are not absolutely beautiful.

I find it astonishing that people don’t understand that some people can be attractive for a very long time if good genetics and you take care of yourself.

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My sense - and this is from my attractive single/divorced friends - is that if you're a good looking 45 year women, there are unlimited options for sex with randoms, including with very young men. But that comes with all the risks. It is extremely easy, however. My particular friend doesn't even bother with online. She just walks into a bar. Sometimes a hotel bar. Sometimes something different. Has no intention of seeing them again. One and done. Literally, hundreds. Can't say she's in the best place. Her judgement is terrible. But she is very attractive. Very charismatic. She prefers them young - "easier to control" are her words. She completely dissociates sex from connection. She finds it very easy to find partners. She hurts a lot of feelings.

My other equally attractive, very successful, very rich friend is having a harder time finding a partner. She's relationship oriented. She does not do casual. She's done some online dating. Here and there she has had something that lasts for a bit. But she hasn't met anyone she's genuinely passionate about. She noted that with online dating, it's so easy to get into the swipe next mindset. Nothing really gets a chance to develop organically. She's taking a timeout and is presently lusting over her housepainter. But she did note that the very few dateable 45-55 men genuinely go younger for relationships. She's not attracted to older or the dregs. But she needs connection to be intimate so she's not doing randoms. She's no longer really actively pursuing things.

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Anonymous wrote:You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

I am 46. I can compete with them any day of the week. I look better than most of them. All of it depends on attractivess level.

You are truly delusional if you think any man would ever pick a 50 year old woman over a 25 year old woman.

I am not 50. I am 46. Tell that to the 27-year-old I have been seeing for 6 months.

You tell him Mommy.