Dating as a 45+ woman

[Anonymous]

I’m 47 years old and about to be divorced and dating again. Tell me about your experiences dating post 45 as a woman and give me your best tips!

[Anonymous]

Date younger.

[Anonymous]

Don't play games, slut it up. They are only dating you for the you know what.

[Anonymous]

Do you want to get remarried or are you looking to have fun?

[Anonymous]

Keep it light. Don't go all in or get needy right away. Women do not need another child to coddle. They are DONE with that. Go on trips, go dancing, have fun. Don't whine. You don't DESERVE sex, but you CAN have lots of fun. Use lube. Get viagra if you need it. Don't be embarrassed that you have to get it, just get it. Have hobbies and things to do. Be good to their pets.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep it light. Don't go all in or get needy right away. Women do not need another child to coddle. They are DONE with that. Go on trips, go dancing, have fun. Don't whine. You don't DESERVE sex, but you CAN have lots of fun. Use lube. Get viagra if you need it. Don't be embarrassed that you have to get it, just get it. Have hobbies and things to do. Be good to their pets.

Get viagra? As a woman?

[Anonymous]

It’s been great. I am 48, divorced a year ish.

Bumble was good. I paid for a month so I only had my profile shown to those I liked. I also set my location, religion, politics filters very narrow- meaning I only saw profiles of those who met them.

I talked to five or six men on the app, went out on three first dates, two second dates, and one who I am still seeing. It’s going very well.

Some are saying set your age lower. I tried that and I couldn’t really feel great about it. I wanted eventually some kind of relationship, and it was harder to find men who understood what it was like for someone with teens (all that goes with it, I guess).

The guy I’m is a year younger, and we’re connecting emotionally and physically very well, so I’m honestly so so happy.

I also downloaded hinge, but didn’t pay for it, so it was harder to sift through the profiles to read and swipe past those outside of my dealbreaker filters. I think it would be good though, if I’d paid for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep it light. Don't go all in or get needy right away. Women do not need another child to coddle. They are DONE with that. Go on trips, go dancing, have fun. Don't whine. You don't DESERVE sex, but you CAN have lots of fun. Use lube. Get viagra if you need it. Don't be embarrassed that you have to get it, just get it. Have hobbies and things to do. Be good to their pets.

Get viagra? As a woman?

Not that poster, but there is a viagra for women - many places prescribe. Wisp is one, it’s called OMG cream. Has sildenafil in it, and helps increase blood flow to the vulva, clit. Can help with us perimenopausal women.

[Anonymous]

Don’t get attached to the first guy you date or kiss or have sex with, etc. Play the field as much as possible. Have FUN. Be picky. And be safe.

I was a bit younger than you when I got divorced, and it was so wonderfully freeing at first. When the stark reality of being alone hit me, it was hard. Hard and really scary. If you’re not in therapy, I would consider it just so there is someone there if & when you need them.

[Anonymous]

Too much fun. I'm texting two at the same time right now.One is out the door, the other is about to enter.
A twenty something year old thought I'm 36 and this is not the first time younger ones can't tell the age.
Get out there to the dance clubs. I do dance and it helps a lot. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

You will be competing with single, never-married women half your age on apps and in clubs. Be realistic about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep it light. Don't go all in or get needy right away. Women do not need another child to coddle. They are DONE with that. Go on trips, go dancing, have fun. Don't whine. You don't DESERVE sex, but you CAN have lots of fun. Use lube. Get viagra if you need it. Don't be embarrassed that you have to get it, just get it. Have hobbies and things to do. Be good to their pets.

Get viagra? As a woman?

Not that poster, but there is a viagra for women - many places prescribe. Wisp is one, it’s called OMG cream. Has sildenafil in it, and helps increase blood flow to the vulva, clit. Can help with us perimenopausal women.

Whoever named this must have liked anagrams.

[Anonymous]

Since most guys are divorced determine early on their level of bitterness regarding their ex. If they can’t move on it’s a bad sign. Once you hit date 3 or maybe 4 a guy will assume sex is going to happen so you need to decide after date 2 if it’s something for you. If you interested bring your own protection in case he doesn’t. After a long marriage, first time sex with someone new is awkward for obvious reasons but skip the same old same old spousal sex and really enjoy yourself.

[Anonymous]

If you’re just now getting out of your marriage give yourself a minute. Have fun if you want to have fun but don’t go searching for the next husband. Everyone I know (man or woman) who jumped right into a serious relationship before the ink was dry on their divorce has had major issues with the new relationship. It’s been said before here- broken attracts broken. You aren’t going to find a healthy relationship until you work through your feelings about the dissolution of your marriage. That being said, go sow your oats.

[Anonymous]

Lying about your age is dumb. Many men from 30s to 70s are thrilled to date a woman in late 40s. Some men will be very annoyed to find out you lied even if you are attractive.