Dating as a 45+ woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating?

Here, this is helpful to understand the impacts of hormone changes during menopause and peri menopause.

https://menopausewiki.ca/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

I’m in peri and on HRT, and haven’t had any issues. My partner understands that I need lube even if I am wet, that I may need a little more effort to orgasm, and, beyond that aspect has been reading and is very aware of all the different things that can/will happen during menopause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 years old and about to be divorced and dating again. Tell me about your experiences dating post 45 as a woman and give me your best tips!

A friend suggested I step outside my comfort zone when dating after divorce so as not to fall into what felt comfortable. On vacation in Miami, I went to Haulover Beach with a book and a bottle of wine. I found a comfortable spot amongst a few couples, and through the course of the day undressed to my comfort level. Mind you Haulover Beach is a nude beach in Florida. Having never been to a nude beach, this was my first step in establishing body confidence. I returned the next day, and threw caution to the wind, and enjoyed the day as everyone on the beach did, fully naked. It was liberating to swim and sunbathe naked. I gained confidence in myself with my 50yo body.

Last summer I joined a nudist resort in the DMV, and have since met many people that have introduced me to a number of eligible men I never would have met in bars, the grocery store or playing tennis. Much to my chagrin, I've learned to play pickleball, and have found it to be more fun when played naked than properly attired in my local park.

I never would have thought at my age, that I'd have the confidence to undress in public or in a social environment such as the nudist resort, this new confidence has allowed me to experience dating as I never imagined I would.

I encourage you, the OP to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Trust me I scoffed at the idea at first, but am I glad I did as life as a dating single female in my early 50's is far more enjoyable than I perceived. I had heard from friends that dating in their 40's was awful and that dating in their 50's was even worse. I'm having the time of my life meeting new people, and dating 'naked', something I ever imagined. And the sex is pretty damn good too!!

I’m happy for you but the thought of braless pickleball is not at all appealing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Keep it light. Don't go all in or get needy right away. Women do not need another child to coddle. They are DONE with that. Go on trips, go dancing, have fun. Don't whine. You don't DESERVE sex, but you CAN have lots of fun. Use lube. Get viagra if you need it. Don't be embarrassed that you have to get it, just get it. Have hobbies and things to do. Be good to their pets.

Get viagra? As a woman?

Sorry, I thought she was a man wanting to date 45+ women. I never read DCUM things closely b/c ... well, just because.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating?

Here, this is helpful to understand the impacts of hormone changes during menopause and peri menopause.

https://menopausewiki.ca/

there’s a lot of stuff about menopause that is not true or not true for all women, and the language tends to be highly negative. specifically with respect to libido, nobody bothers to also mention that male libido and performance decline with age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating?

Yes honey. Newsflash, you will age and so will your partner. Choose someone to go through life with based on who they are on the inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating?

Yes honey. Newsflash, you will age and so will your partner. Choose someone to go through life with based on who they are on the inside.

Why do you think someone else should choose a partner according to your preferences, rather than according to their own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

Do you think 50-something men somehow get to chose only pre-menopausal women? It doesn’t work that way despite what the mysoginist trolls say on here. Men in their 50s largely pair up with similar age women.

Honestly, younger women are fit, hot, attractive, but what we have in common is basically nil. I date around my own age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

Do you think 50-something men somehow get to chose only pre-menopausal women? It doesn’t work that way despite what the mysoginist trolls say on here. Men in their 50s largely pair up with similar age women.

What’s mysoginist about dating younger and talking about it?

[Anonymous]

Sleeping around in your 40s and 50s is easy and, for some, a lot of fun. Finding a LTR is not as easy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

Do you think 50-something men somehow get to chose only pre-menopausal women? It doesn’t work that way despite what the mysoginist trolls say on here. Men in their 50s largely pair up with similar age women.

What’s mysoginist about dating younger and talking about it?

Nothing but there are one possibly multiple people posting here who seem to have learned words like "misogyny" and "patriarchy" and resort to them anytime someone else posts an opinion or observation that challenges their biases.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sleeping around in your 40s and 50s is easy and, for some, a lot of fun. Finding a LTR is not as easy

An LTR means the guy stays overnight after banging. But only do that if she cooks a nice breakfast for you as reward for servicing her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m 47 years old and about to be divorced and dating again. Tell me about your experiences dating post 45 as a woman and give me your best tips!

A friend suggested I step outside my comfort zone when dating after divorce so as not to fall into what felt comfortable. On vacation in Miami, I went to Haulover Beach with a book and a bottle of wine. I found a comfortable spot amongst a few couples, and through the course of the day undressed to my comfort level. Mind you Haulover Beach is a nude beach in Florida. Having never been to a nude beach, this was my first step in establishing body confidence. I returned the next day, and threw caution to the wind, and enjoyed the day as everyone on the beach did, fully naked. It was liberating to swim and sunbathe naked. I gained confidence in myself with my 50yo body.

Last summer I joined a nudist resort in the DMV, and have since met many people that have introduced me to a number of eligible men I never would have met in bars, the grocery store or playing tennis. Much to my chagrin, I've learned to play pickleball, and have found it to be more fun when played naked than properly attired in my local park.

I never would have thought at my age, that I'd have the confidence to undress in public or in a social environment such as the nudist resort, this new confidence has allowed me to experience dating as I never imagined I would.

I encourage you, the OP to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Trust me I scoffed at the idea at first, but am I glad I did as life as a dating single female in my early 50's is far more enjoyable than I perceived. I had heard from friends that dating in their 40's was awful and that dating in their 50's was even worse. I'm having the time of my life meeting new people, and dating 'naked', something I ever imagined. And the sex is pretty damn good too!!

I’m happy for you but the thought of braless pickleball is not at all appealing.

NP, hahah, me too. So much so, I wondered if the poster was a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are.

I’m in peri and on HRT, and haven’t had any issues. My partner understands that I need lube even if I am wet, that I may need a little more effort to orgasm, and, beyond that aspect has been reading and is very aware of all the different things that can/will happen during menopause.

50s man here. Yes, I am attracted to post menopausal women. Sometimes the sex with post menopausal women is amazing. Sometimes it has to be slower and more gentle, especially in the beginning, than what the women liked before menopause. I dated one woman in her early 50s who felt like her sex life was over because she liked very rough sex but suddenly discovered that rough sex hurt too much to enjoy. That was the exception. Don't get me wrong. I'm attracted to pre menopausal women too. I'm not attracted to most women of any age, and I am attracted to some women who are younger and some women who are older.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sleeping around in your 40s and 50s is easy and, for some, a lot of fun. Finding a LTR is not as easy

An LTR means the guy stays overnight after banging. But only do that if she cooks a nice breakfast for you as reward for servicing her.

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