Dating as a 45+ woman
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Anonymous
| This is an honest question, as a mid 40s woman, but are men even attracted to women post-menopause? This bothers me so much, want to hear positive stories that they are. |
Anonymous
Ugggh. The idea of going to clubs at 45+ makes my skin crawl. I'd rather meet a man at a bird watching event at 7 am. |
Anonymous
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^^^this!
At 45 I would not want to date anyone who hung out at clubs still. Talk about asking for trouble at the onset. |
Anonymous
Yes, after my divorce I had no issues finding decent men to date. |
Anonymous
The results on this are very inconclusive. Just seems like a way to get women to open their wallets. |
Anonymous
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Figure out what you want - LTR, a fling, casual and fun – and date accordingly. Take your time and don’t rush. Work on yourself (therapy, etc).
Do not compromise on your needs and values. Be authentically you and hold your boundaries firm. Like a PP said, I went younger, much younger. As in late 20s and 30s (after meeting a couple of guys my age, struggling with ED. Coming out of a sexless marriage, I didn’t wanna have to deal with that.) Dating younger was really fun, but got tired of the immaturity after a while. Now I’m seeing two guys, one early 50s, the other early 40s, and about to decide which one I want for an LTR. As long as you don’t have fears related to “being alone” and are securely attached you’ll have a blast. Dating at the stage in life has been so fun and liberating for me. No biological clock, no deadlines, no desire to get married again. – 48 year old woman, divorced for three years with two kids and loving life |
Anonymous
Post menopause? Decent? Is that good? |
Anonymous
Do you think 50-something men somehow get to chose only pre-menopausal women? It doesn’t work that way despite what the mysoginist trolls say on here. Men in their 50s largely pair up with similar age women. |
Anonymous
| Men who are 50+ and date 30 year olds deal with women who may want to start families on top of everything else that comes along with dating someone not in your generation. Lots of men don't want that. Dating someone closer to their age means everyone is on the same page. |
Anonymous
and of course most 30-something women do not want to date 50-something men. I always dated “older” than many of my peers but at 30 that meant my BF was 40, not 50. |
Anonymous
The incredible thing about being 45+ is that you can just...opt out of feeling like you have to compete. I have my own money, my own home, I'm not racing a biological clock. I'm healthy and happy and confident, and it's enough to like the men who like me. If they prefer someone half their (and my) age, great. I hope they have fun. But those women aren't competition because men aren't a prize to be won. |
Anonymous
| Are you an empty nester? That makes it much easier especially if the guy is in the same boat. For the first year or so don’t look for love, look for fun given that going through a divorce is the opposite of fun. |
Anonymous
I met a woman in her mid-50s via OLD. We’ve been together more than 2 years now. Our children are all grown and out of the house. We can focus on our combined rather than spending our weekends driving carpools to kids events. Been there; done that. Regular dates and regular sex. Far better than either of us had it in our marriages. You’ll be fine. |
Anonymous
| Um, man here, separated at 35. Is there something I'm supposed to know about women and menopause and dating? |
Anonymous
A friend suggested I step outside my comfort zone when dating after divorce so as not to fall into what felt comfortable. On vacation in Miami, I went to Haulover Beach with a book and a bottle of wine. I found a comfortable spot amongst a few couples, and through the course of the day undressed to my comfort level. Mind you Haulover Beach is a nude beach in Florida. Having never been to a nude beach, this was my first step in establishing body confidence. I returned the next day, and threw caution to the wind, and enjoyed the day as everyone on the beach did, fully naked. It was liberating to swim and sunbathe naked. I gained confidence in myself with my 50yo body. Last summer I joined a nudist resort in the DMV, and have since met many people that have introduced me to a number of eligible men I never would have met in bars, the grocery store or playing tennis. Much to my chagrin, I've learned to play pickleball, and have found it to be more fun when played naked than properly attired in my local park. I never would have thought at my age, that I'd have the confidence to undress in public or in a social environment such as the nudist resort, this new confidence has allowed me to experience dating as I never imagined I would. I encourage you, the OP to step outside your comfort zone and try something new. Trust me I scoffed at the idea at first, but am I glad I did as life as a dating single female in my early 50's is far more enjoyable than I perceived. I had heard from friends that dating in their 40's was awful and that dating in their 50's was even worse. I'm having the time of my life meeting new people, and dating 'naked', something I ever imagined. And the sex is pretty damn good too!! |