Bicycling Boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years. Recently, rediscovered cycling and now goes out on rides four days a week, including about 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday. He’s up an out by 6 am and usually done by 10. It’s become a big part of his social life. He was new to the area when we met and didn’t know too many people. I am jealous a bit that he found a physical outlet he really likes, and wish I could also could find such a passion. I don’t know where I’m going with this. Is four hours on a weekend too much?

It's called being a bike widow(er). When Accept it. Don't balk. Don't mention it. You will lose or make this person very unhappy. Get your own interests. I am a wife and used to cycle. I speak from experience.

PP again. No 2 hours a day is not a lot on a weekend day. Expect it to become more hours as the weather gets better and as he gets stronger; cycling is addictive ; has it's own culture; and many people keep challenging themselves to ride further distances. Do you want to try riding? Do something else? Don't sit home moping.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

What's the difference? Both mean riding a bike.

Cycling is a whole culture; with the gear, bikes, etc. It's not just riding a bike around the block or up and down the street. It's cycling! You can call it what you want and those who know, know.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

If he is cycling, she will know. It will be obvious with the gear, clothing, shoes, bike upgrades, eating etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

Probably not. The gender ratio is way too imbalanced - 3-4 males for every legit female cyclist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
People, OP may be worried she was his starter girlfriend in the area, and now he's going to meet someone else in his cycling group...

This. OP should take up cycling if she wants to keep him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Most bikers I see have strong calves w/ bellies and noodle arms. Not sure that counts as "in shape."

Lazy, entitled DCUM harpie in the house

Np. But it is so true!

[Anonymous]

I think that men have an easier time finding a social outlet and hobby like this because when women get married and have kids, they are usually the ones stuck doing the chores and childcare while their husbands go out golfing or training for a marathon or whatever.

OP you should go out and find your own interests and be happy without him, for sure. It's more mentally healthy for you and a clingy women is, frankly, unattractive. But assume that his cycling habit will come first. It'll come before kids, spending time with you, keeping up the house, etc. Honestly I wouldn't date a guy like this, or at least I would have tops one kid with him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
People, OP may be worried she was his starter girlfriend in the area, and now he's going to meet someone else in his cycling group...

This. OP should take up cycling if she wants to keep him.

Stupid response. No she shouldn’t unless she’s really interested. If not it will be really obvious why she’s doing it.

[Anonymous]

When our three children were young my husband my would play tennis on Saturday at 7:30 and sometimes Sunday and he’d be home by 10am. I was thrilled he was getting a good work out and then home to be a Dad. You’re lucky he doesn’t play golf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

Probably not. The gender ratio is way too imbalanced - 3-4 males for every legit female cyclist.

Unfortunate. One of the more amazing female figures can be yours by taking up the sport. STILL think of French exchange student who joined my university club team.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When our three children were young my husband my would play tennis on Saturday at 7:30 and sometimes Sunday and he’d be home by 10am. I was thrilled he was getting a good work out and then home to be a Dad. You’re lucky he doesn’t play golf.

Many men who are golfers are fat.

Cyclists make the best partners and husbands!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

Probably not. The gender ratio is way too imbalanced - 3-4 males for every legit female cyclist.

Unfortunate. One of the more amazing female figures can be yours by taking up the sport. STILL think of French exchange student who joined my university club team.

If you're a single woman, one of the best ways to meet in-shape men with good careers is to take up road cycling. I have a friend who took up cycling in Brooklyn NYC and all the guys she's dating are - to be frank - out of her league. She's batting way above her average and enjoying it. And she's in the best shape of her life, so win-win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When our three children were young my husband my would play tennis on Saturday at 7:30 and sometimes Sunday and he’d be home by 10am. I was thrilled he was getting a good work out and then home to be a Dad. You’re lucky he doesn’t play golf.

Many men who are golfers are fat.

Cyclists make the best partners and husbands!

It's because they drink, smoke, and drive around electric golf carts with their bros while pretending they play a sport. Then gorge themselves on crap food at the club house and more beers after they play a round.

But if its a good way to kill about 7 hours of daylight during the weekend and avoid home responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

Probably not. The gender ratio is way too imbalanced - 3-4 males for every legit female cyclist.

Unfortunate. One of the more amazing female figures can be yours by taking up the sport. STILL think of French exchange student who joined my university club team.

If you're a single woman, one of the best ways to meet in-shape men with good careers is to take up road cycling. I have a friend who took up cycling in Brooklyn NYC and all the guys she's dating are - to be frank - out of her league. She's batting way above her average and enjoying it. And she's in the best shape of her life, so win-win.

I’m going to share your anecdote with my 38 year old friend.

[Anonymous]

LOL this is a boyfriend and not someone you have children and share a home with and you are asking if his hobby takes up too much time? Too much time for what--like time he could be paying attention to you? Get real.