Bicycling Boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

[Anonymous]

I am late to this thread, but I was you a few years ago. I am now the OP of this thread:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1153411.page

Still overall happy I married him, but just something to consider.

[Anonymous]

I am a cyclist and my spouse is a golfer. A reasonable round of golf takes 4 hours. We are a good fit!

[Anonymous]

At this point in your life, him spending time on a hobby for a few hours on a weekend isn't a big deal.

But the shame in having to confess to family and friends that your significant other is a cyclist....that's probably the dealbreaker

[Anonymous]

I really wish my DH would find a similar hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

I've read comments like that a few times on this board. I don't get it. Cyclists seem similar to runners in my experience, although runners may have more quirky senses of humor. I'm a cyclist myself, but I'm slow, so maybe I don't get to spend much time with the narcissists. If I fall or have a flat tire, lots of other cyclists will offer to help and they're typically very kind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

I've read comments like that a few times on this board. I don't get it. Cyclists seem similar to runners in my experience, although runners may have more quirky senses of humor. I'm a cyclist myself, but I'm slow, so maybe I don't get to spend much time with the narcissists. If I fall or have a flat tire, lots of other cyclists will offer to help and they're typically very kind.

+1 but worth noting I am a female cyclist and not very competitive (except with myself). Racing cyclist, middle-aged male is a different breed. Though I am friends and cycling buddies with a few of them who are very kind. Exceptions to every rule!

Also I'm both a cyclist and a runner so I guess I hate myself?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am late to this thread, but I was you a few years ago. I am now the OP of this thread:

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1153411.page

Still overall happy I married him, but just something to consider.

Does he have N+1 yet? That's the test of a real cyclist

[Anonymous]

Does he shave his legs? He's not really into cycling until he does that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

Another +1. I always think of that cyclist in SF who killed the elderly man and wrote a blog post about it bemoaning the fact that his helmet cracked.

[Anonymous]

You expect to be with him or control him the whole weekend?

He sounds healthy. Find your own hobby and stop relying on him to be your everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

I've read comments like that a few times on this board. I don't get it. Cyclists seem similar to runners in my experience, although runners may have more quirky senses of humor. I'm a cyclist myself, but I'm slow, so maybe I don't get to spend much time with the narcissists. If I fall or have a flat tire, lots of other cyclists will offer to help and they're typically very kind.

A lot of it comes from the cyclists that use the paved trails, and go way to fast, and get annoyed that people don't get out of their way fast enough when they ring their cute little bell.

And then they yell something snarky but are too cowardly to actually stop their bike and engage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of my deal breakers when I was dating was a guy into road biking. I know my people and that is not my people. There’s something about the sense of entitlement that the majority of road bikers seem to have that is such a turnoff. In my experience that sport attracts type A narcissists. No thank you.

+1

Have to agree on that personality type.

I've read comments like that a few times on this board. I don't get it. Cyclists seem similar to runners in my experience, although runners may have more quirky senses of humor. I'm a cyclist myself, but I'm slow, so maybe I don't get to spend much time with the narcissists. If I fall or have a flat tire, lots of other cyclists will offer to help and they're typically very kind.

A lot of it comes from the cyclists that use the paved trails, and go way to fast, and get annoyed that people don't get out of their way fast enough when they ring their cute little bell.

And then they yell something snarky but are too cowardly to actually stop their bike and engage

If they actually engaged their opponent would fall over laughing at those stupid shorts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years. Recently, rediscovered cycling and now goes out on rides four days a week, including about 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday. He’s up an out by 6 am and usually done by 10. It’s become a big part of his social life. He was new to the area when we met and didn’t know too many people. I am jealous a bit that he found a physical outlet he really likes, and wish I could also could find such a passion. I don’t know where I’m going with this. Is four hours on a weekend too much?

Not at all. Hopefully he's banging someone hotter than you on the side. If you don't like it, shape up or ship out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Soon your life will revolve around his hobby.

What life?