Bicycling Boyfriend

[Anonymous]

People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years. Recently, rediscovered cycling and now goes out on rides four days a week, including about 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday. He’s up an out by 6 am and usually done by 10. It’s become a big part of his social life. He was new to the area when we met and didn’t know too many people. I am jealous a bit that he found a physical outlet he really likes, and wish I could also could find such a passion. I don’t know where I’m going with this. Is four hours on a weekend too much?

Is four hours a weekend too much? ARE YOU SERIOUS? Four hours out of 48 hours and your crying?

From your post you don't deserve him. You are literally actually JEALOUS because your boyfriend (someone you are SUPPOSE TO LOVE and care for) found a passion that is GREAT for his health and life.

Wow....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

What's the difference? Both mean riding a bike.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend’s now ex-husband got into evening softball. 4 nights a week.

He would go straight from work to the field and be home by 9pm.

They had two kids.

That is a problem.

Cycling is great. And he will be fit so have fun!

Cycling is great exercise. An ex BF and long time friend is 60 now and has had an awesome body his whole life due to his lifelong cycling passion.

The downside for his wife is that he often goes to all day cycling races or other events on the weekend and vacations often involve cycling (without her). I dunno maybe she likes all that - she has time to do her own thing, but I suspect it also means she did more than her fair share of weekend child rearing.

[Anonymous]

Anyone bikes / golfs / runs / exercises this much has some kind of mental malfunction. They are not a good fit with a normal, mentally healthy person.

No one needs to exercise this much to stay slim, strong, and healthy. It's pure psychological obsession.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every male cyclist I know divorced, and that was the best thing they ever did for their lonely, emotionally abused wives.

Same. For a friend of mine, her husband got into it, then obsessively, started taking trips to Europe to ride, got involved with another woman cyclist and they divorced. It took about two years from start of hobby to divorce.

[Anonymous]

Guy here and every guy I know that has a passion hobby like this, but especially biking, is just odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone bikes / golfs / runs / exercises this much has some kind of mental malfunction. They are not a good fit with a normal, mentally healthy person.

No one needs to exercise this much to stay slim, strong, and healthy. It's pure psychological obsession.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People, people let’s agree it’s cycling - not biking. It’s cyclist not biker.

Maybe we should also agree he’s seeing another woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Guy here and every guy I know that has a passion hobby like this, but especially biking, is just odd.

Negative testerone levels

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a cyclist and my spouse is a golfer. A reasonable round of golf takes 4 hours. We are a good fit!

So you don't have kids?

...you realize kids by the age of 8-9 can EASILY stay home alone. Also, it's called having family or friends around to watch them.

[Anonymous]

My ex bf was like this. He really loved his bike and all his riding friends. That didn’t bother me about him. I had plenty to do when he was out riding.

We weren’t compatible in other ways.

That said, he married another cyclist and they now go around with their bikes and two little kids in tow, and they are very happy.

Lesson: if it bothers you, let him go find his happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you want to bike with him?

I tried this weekend. I thought boyfriend was extra patient with me, but also felt he probably secretly resented me being slow and unstable.

But he was lovely, even when I was assaulting the bike in frustration.

First step: you need to cycle on your own. Improve your skills. Take lessons taught by a woman cyclist. Seriously. You need to practice because YOU want to get better.
Second step: You need to find a group of female cyclists. Ride with them, create your own bonds.
Third step: ride with boyfriend once you can meet his skill level. There will be no awkwardness, resentment, or guilt.

But you have to do all this because you want to do it. Don't do it to please the boyfriend. If you're just doing it to please him, then quit. Neither of you will enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been dating this guy for close to two years. Recently, rediscovered cycling and now goes out on rides four days a week, including about 2 hours each Saturday and Sunday. He’s up an out by 6 am and usually done by 10. It’s become a big part of his social life. He was new to the area when we met and didn’t know too many people. I am jealous a bit that he found a physical outlet he really likes, and wish I could also could find such a passion. I don’t know where I’m going with this. Is four hours on a weekend too much?

It's called being a bike widow(er). When Accept it. Don't balk. Don't mention it. You will lose or make this person very unhappy. Get your own interests. I am a wife and used to cycle. I speak from experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All that biking will make him impotent.

This is just a ridiculous and ill informed comment.