Being sober is boring as hell
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I work for a cannabis company: testing is much more stringent for medical marijuana, than it is for recreational marijuana (for states that maintain a distinction). I’m sorry to the OP for your loss and struggles with drinking. I’ve been sober for long periods. I find that doing something enjoyable physically - like dance or yoga - is helpful. Along with a meditation or prayer practice. Spending time in nature. Reading. Writing. Reflecting. Sobriety can be a superpower or it can feel like a weight. It depends on your underlying mood and life circumstances, and what emotions bubble up in sobriety. Most of all, very sorry for your loss. |
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+1 If you think not drinking is boring, it will be hard to stop. Read this and give it time in your head to re-program the approach and you’re thinking about it. Her book “The Alcohol Experiment” is a thirty day exercise and she gives you soem things to think about and even journal each day. You’ve got time now it sounds like. Focus on shifting your thinking that you need alcohol for something to be fun. |
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When you think that you have feelings that lead to actions...is this thought serving you? When we stop drinking, shopping, overeating, scrolling, numbing ourselves, we have to feel our feelings. |
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| Hey OP, good job. Congratulations. I drank heavily from 15 to 29 and have been sober for over 20 years. AA can be boring or it cannot. You may be able to find sober people there who keep busy and do fun things. The times I tried to just white knuckle it alone never worked out. I always returned to drinking because I was bored. But then I found a few people who do shit and honestly after a few weeks I was on my way and was having fun. I hope you can find this too. |
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OP, I don't know if you are still reading. I am 11 months and 9 days sober after being a habitual, then heavy, then problem drinker over three decades. I get exactly what you mean by boredom. Alcohol was such a huge part of my life that I couldn't imagine how I would live without it. By the time I quit this time (because like a lot of people it took several tries) I was in a different headspace. I still had bouts of boredom, but overall my thoughts were more along the lines of, "I don't have to drink again and I get to do X instead." It may sound corny, but once I truly believed that the urge to drink lessened over time. And success builds on success. I've recommended it before, but I joined Reframe online. There are daily (or more than daily if you want) meetings online. You can be on camera or not. You can speak or not. There are also daily activities and a forum for support. Just putting it out there in case it helps. |
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| May I ask what GI symptoms you had from alcohol? |
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It isn't nonsense but this was quite an obnoxious post. |
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| Hey OP, I really like hibiscus ginger beer as a drink alternative in the evening. I cut it with more seltzer because it is designed as a mixer, so sweet and small as is. I buy it at MOMs but also sold elsewhere. You can do it! |
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+2. Keep sticking to it and know that it feels hard and boring now but this feeling does not last! |
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Symptoms similar to IBD. I won’t know exactly what’s going on until I get a colonoscopy. I have been in denial for a few months, but drinking one day last week led to pain for days. |
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This is good advice. |
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I'll echo this. Quitting is so easy. Husband and I do it for weeks and sometimes months at a time. It is just pretty boring is all. And we personally don't feel any better. I honestly think people are exaggerating and lying when they act like it is life-changing and you feel *so* different with a "clear mind." 
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We quit for nearly 4 months early this year. It was still boring past the first month. Just being honest. |
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most people who bash AA either couldn't stay sober or never attended and use the excuses of it is a cult or this or that.
There are al sorts of AA groups out there and i hope those who are struggling find the help they need. |