I said something really stupid/insensitive to gf and now she’s given me an ultimatum

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“‘I was surely going to propose to my Gf of 4 years but instead insulted her to her face so she wouldn’t dump me first. Now my moms in town and I want us all to get together. What should I do? She said she doesn’t want to see me anymore, but I didn’t do anything!’”

-OP’s May/June post.

Oooh. Post the link.

This is the one I remember, too.

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Anonymous wrote:I get really worked up sometimes and lash out and say things I don’t mean. I know I have this issue and I’m working on it. Well, I told my girlfriend, or I guess ex now, that she didn’t make me happy and that we should go out separate ways. That’s not true at all, I love her more than anything and want to marry her. She simply said “okay” and she hasn’t contacted me once since this happened a month ago. She’s removed me from all social media and has taken down every picture of us - we were together for 4 years.

I’ve contacted her multiple times since then but she’s replied nicely but curt. Yesterday, my sister came into town and I asked her if she wanted to join us. She said, “you said I don’t make you happy and that we needed to go our separate ways, so I’m not sure why you continue contact me. We’re not friends. So, unless you’re contacting me with an enormous apology, have gone to therapy for a while, and with a receipt for a down payment for a ring please don’t contact me anymore”. Needless to say I was left speechless. I completely understand where she’s coming from since I royally screwed up. However, I was always told never give in to someone’s ultimatum because it’s manipulation. I also don’t want to lose her though.

What are your thoughts on ultimatums/this ultimatum?

Omg, you again?

Stop harassing her, you guys broke up five posts ago and last month.

I know. he keeps posting over and over again.

I haven’t.

Yes, you have. Several of us remember. There can't be two of you. No way.

Again, I haven’t.

DP. I remember this poster, too. OP, hope your ex-gf finds someone who is mature and doesn't play your games. It's exhausting to try to deal with a man child. I had a bf like you, dropped him and he stalked me through my friends for years. It only stopped when I got married. Move on, OP.

I haven’t stalked her. We were just together last month in Mexico. Crap didn’t hit the fan until the beginning of June.

https://imgur.com/a/8aOa9Aw

You keep trying to find ways to contact her instead of leaving her alone. Either do exactly what she asked or stop contacting her, period.

[Anonymous]

Did dipwad post some nonsense from who knows when with a real last name on it? Dumb and dumber

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You are a narcissist, stop ruining her life. You will not change, and you will keep ruining her life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“‘I was surely going to propose to my Gf of 4 years but instead insulted her to her face so she wouldn’t dump me first. Now my moms in town and I want us all to get together. What should I do? She said she doesn’t want to see me anymore, but I didn’t do anything!’”

-OP’s May/June post.

Yea, my mom is dead so I don’t see how that’s possible.

We all know you are unreliable, untrustworthy and make up a large % of your posts. You’re crazy dude.

Who would lie about that? Here’s the police report from the car break in that I mentioned.

https://imgur.com/a/Rib5POe

Wth are you even talking about? Car break in posts too?

I think it’s sad that you lie to yourself so much. You’re too far gone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did dipwad post some nonsense from who knows when with a real last name on it? Dumb and dumber

He censored it.

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Anonymous wrote:Leave her alone. I'm not sure why she responded at all.

I asked if her family was okay because of the shooting in her city. Her family was in the area.

Where is this nugget? In those url links if all your posts about your imaginary relationship and life?

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Anonymous wrote:I think her giving you this ultimatum was not a great idea because frankly she should have ignored your calls and texts completely. She is doing you a kindness by bothering to respond. You should respond and tell her that you are sorry for mistreating her, but you are not ready for therapy or a ring. Wish her well and say farewell.

Well the first time I reached out was because of the shootings at the graduations in Richmond (her cousin was graduating), so I checked to make sure everyone was okay. The second time I used her insurance claim as an excuse to talk to her. Her car got broken into two days in a row 2 days before we broke up and she listed me as a witness. The third time when I contacted her to invite her out that’s when she gave me the ultimatum.

Again, you are a narcissist and you will never be truly sorry for anything. Words and truth mean nothing to you.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel like I've read this post several times in the past year.

Rings a bell here too: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1114237.page

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I get really worked up sometimes and lash out and say things I don’t mean. I know I have this issue and I’m working on it. Well, I told my girlfriend, or I guess ex now, that she didn’t make me happy and that we should go out separate ways. That’s not true at all, I love her more than anything and want to marry her. She simply said “okay” and she hasn’t contacted me once since this happened a month ago. She’s removed me from all social media and has taken down every picture of us - we were together for 4 years.

I’ve contacted her multiple times since then but she’s replied nicely but curt. Yesterday, my sister came into town and I asked her if she wanted to join us. She said, “you said I don’t make you happy and that we needed to go our separate ways, so I’m not sure why you continue contact me. We’re not friends. So, unless you’re contacting me with an enormous apology, have gone to therapy for a while, and with a receipt for a down payment for a ring please don’t contact me anymore”. Needless to say I was left speechless. I completely understand where she’s coming from since I royally screwed up. However, I was always told never give in to someone’s ultimatum because it’s manipulation. I also don’t want to lose her though.

What are your thoughts on ultimatums/this ultimatum?

So you think SHE’s manipulating YOU?

What are you, a con artist?

He is, sort of. A horrible narcissist who are all con artists. See, it was fine for him for break up with her, but not for her not to come running back when he wants her. He just needs his narc supply; he doesn't care about her at all.

[Anonymous]

I can't imagine why anyone thinks this is an actual guy with an actual problem. This is nothing but the musings of a practiced troll who likes to get pages and pages of responses. Well done, I'd say.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“‘I was surely going to propose to my Gf of 4 years but instead insulted her to her face so she wouldn’t dump me first. Now my moms in town and I want us all to get together. What should I do? She said she doesn’t want to see me anymore, but I didn’t do anything!’”

-OP’s May/June post.

Yea, my mom is dead so I don’t see how that’s possible.

We all know you are unreliable, untrustworthy and make up a large % of your posts. You’re crazy dude.

Who would lie about that? Here’s the police report from the car break in that I mentioned.

https://imgur.com/a/Rib5POe

Wth are you even talking about? Car break in posts too?

I think it’s sad that you lie to yourself so much. You’re too far gone.

I posted pages ago that my second message to her was about the car break in. You need to read before commenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine why anyone thinks this is an actual guy with an actual problem. This is nothing but the musings of a practiced troll who likes to get pages and pages of responses. Well done, I'd say.

I like how everyone collectively agrees that he's a psycho troll who shouldn't be dating anyone and has a distinct, whiny, demented writing style, tone and ODD.

gigs up OP and your phony "GF" who was never your GF.

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Anonymous wrote:I get really worked up sometimes and lash out and say things I don’t mean. I know I have this issue and I’m working on it. Well, I told my girlfriend, or I guess ex now, that she didn’t make me happy and that we should go out separate ways. That’s not true at all, I love her more than anything and want to marry her. She simply said “okay” and she hasn’t contacted me once since this happened a month ago. She’s removed me from all social media and has taken down every picture of us - we were together for 4 years.

I’ve contacted her multiple times since then but she’s replied nicely but curt. Yesterday, my sister came into town and I asked her if she wanted to join us. She said, “you said I don’t make you happy and that we needed to go our separate ways, so I’m not sure why you continue contact me. We’re not friends. So, unless you’re contacting me with an enormous apology, have gone to therapy for a while, and with a receipt for a down payment for a ring please don’t contact me anymore”. Needless to say I was left speechless. I completely understand where she’s coming from since I royally screwed up. However, I was always told never give in to someone’s ultimatum because it’s manipulation. I also don’t want to lose her though.

What are your thoughts on ultimatums/this ultimatum?

You’re a jerk OP if you think this is an ultimatum. You should go to therapy. Though I don’t see why she would want a ring after all that, unless it’s after therapy and apology.

[Anonymous]

No need to apologize way later OP.

She was done with your BS long ago.

So are we.