
You screwed up and she took you at your word. She knows she has the leverage and while I’d normally say the way she’s going for the jugular when she knows she has the power is a huge red flag, after 4 years, she’s probably been more than patient and shown you plenty of grace. Time for you to make a decision. |
She's mad she gave you 4 years of her life. You don't seem to be sorry. This is bigger than you getting worked up and saying something you didn't mean.
If I were her friend, I'd tell her to move on because you seem pretty far from ready to marry. |
Well the first time I reached out was because of the shootings at the graduations in Richmond (her cousin was graduating), so I checked to make sure everyone was okay. The second time I used her insurance claim as an excuse to talk to her. Her car got broken into two days in a row 2 days before we broke up and she listed me as a witness. The third time when I contacted her to invite her out that’s when she gave me the ultimatum. |
Does she really know that she has the leverage though? He just told her she didn’t make her happy and he broke up with her lol. I don’t believe she has much leverage at all. She is setting boundaries and limiting OP’s access to her though. |
So 3 times and none of them were to apologize. Or talk about the actual issue at hand. |
I feel bad for her that she wasted 4 years with you. That’s valuable time in her life. I hope she finds someone better quickly! |
I want to do it in person that’s why. I feel like a text or an email isn’t personable enough. |
You're messing around with her. Don't worry about in person. How about immediately. But you messed around with her for 4 years, so I guess par for the course. |
Omg, you again? Stop harassing her, you guys broke up five posts ago and last month. |
So you think SHE’s manipulating YOU? What are you, a con artist? |
Unless they are, due to the dysfunctional, unhealthy, and high conflict individual. Then it’s up to the healthy functional partner to ID what’s actually going on and exit safely. |
She didn’t give him an ultimatum or a path forward. She’s done. This has already been covered in OPs previous posts. op needs to cease and desist, move on, ideally stop dating entirely. Op is a basket case. |
I know. he keeps posting over and over again. |
Op is psychotic. |
Stop harassing this woman. Move on and do better in your next relationship. |