I said something really stupid/insensitive to gf and now she’s given me an ultimatum

[Anonymous]

WTF.

You didn't "say something insensitive." You BROKE UP WITH HER. She reacted the way a woman should react after a break up.

Why the heck would she want to hang out with her ex boyfriend and his sister??

[Anonymous]

You’re back?

Everything you need to know you wrote in your first sentence: you have issues you need to work on. Go do that. Don’t worry about your ex— she can and will do better.

[Anonymous]

Why would you say that if it wasn’t true?

[Anonymous]

You broke up with her.

If you really do blurt out these insensitive things you don't mean, you really need to go to a therapist and figure out how to fix yourself before getting into your next relationship.

Things like this never get better after marriage, and I think your ex girlfriend figured that out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you say that if it wasn’t true?

because he is either really unwell mentally or he is a troll who keeps posting this every few months.

[Anonymous]

B - for the troll post

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:B - for the troll post

I’d happily post screenshots if you’d like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get really worked up sometimes and lash out and say things I don’t mean. I know I have this issue and I’m working on it. Well, I told my girlfriend, or I guess ex now, that she didn’t make me happy and that we should go out separate ways. That’s not true at all, I love her more than anything and want to marry her. She simply said “okay” and she hasn’t contacted me once since this happened a month ago. She’s removed me from all social media and has taken down every picture of us - we were together for 4 years.

I’ve contacted her multiple times since then but she’s replied nicely but curt. Yesterday, my sister came into town and I asked her if she wanted to join us. She said, “you said I don’t make you happy and that we needed to go our separate ways, so I’m not sure why you continue contact me. We’re not friends. So, unless you’re contacting me with an enormous apology, have gone to therapy for a while, and with a receipt for a down payment for a ring please don’t contact me anymore”. Needless to say I was left speechless. I completely understand where she’s coming from since I royally screwed up. However, I was always told never give in to someone’s ultimatum because it’s manipulation. I also don’t want to lose her though.

What are your thoughts on ultimatums/this ultimatum?

Omg, you again?

Stop harassing her, you guys broke up five posts ago and last month.

I know. he keeps posting over and over again.

I haven’t.

[Anonymous]

Wait I’m sorry lmfao. I didn’t even read the rest of the replies to this thread only your op, because your op is so beyond batshit. So. You dumped her, invited her to hang out, she declined because you’re no longer together, and now you think SHE is being manipulative?

You really are out to lunch, OP. I thought the avoidant guy from the other day was bad but at least he has a dead mom and some dysfunctional relationships that would lead to that behavior. You just sound like an ass.

[Anonymous]

Also, HOW is that manipulative lmao. she blocked you on social media and declined to hang out with you.

[Anonymous]

“What are your thoughts on this ultimatum?”

Boy bye my thought is this is not an ultimatum and you are insane.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why would you say that if it wasn’t true?

I thought because she was going to leave me. When she points out something that I’ve done wrong I get angry. I get angry because I’m scared. Im scared because I think that she’s going to leave me. I know I’ll never do better than her. Even my friends have told me she’s the best that im going to get. Im very attractive, make really good money, I can retire by the time I’m 45 if I’d like, I own a home, have a lot of friends but even even she lapses me in everything in life, which I love that about her. No one I have ever dated was even half as good as her. Everyone in my camp loves her and they know she’s amazing. So, I was afraid she’d leave so I guess I was trying to beat her to the punch?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you say that if it wasn’t true?

I thought because she was going to leave me. When she points out something that I’ve done wrong I get angry. I get angry because I’m scared. Im scared because I think that she’s going to leave me. I know I’ll never do better than her. Even my friends have told me she’s the best that im going to get. Im very attractive, make really good money, I can retire by the time I’m 45 if I’d like, I own a home, have a lot of friends but even even she lapses me in everything in life, which I love that about her. No one I have ever dated was even half as good as her. Everyone in my camp loves her and they know she’s amazing. So, I was afraid she’d leave so I guess I was trying to beat her to the punch?

Therapy, dude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would you say that if it wasn’t true?

I thought because she was going to leave me. When she points out something that I’ve done wrong I get angry. I get angry because I’m scared. Im scared because I think that she’s going to leave me. I know I’ll never do better than her. Even my friends have told me she’s the best that im going to get. Im very attractive, make really good money, I can retire by the time I’m 45 if I’d like, I own a home, have a lot of friends but even even she lapses me in everything in life, which I love that about her. No one I have ever dated was even half as good as her. Everyone in my camp loves her and they know she’s amazing. So, I was afraid she’d leave so I guess I was trying to beat her to the punch?

How old are you guys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait I’m sorry lmfao. I didn’t even read the rest of the replies to this thread only your op, because your op is so beyond batshit. So. You dumped her, invited her to hang out, she declined because you’re no longer together, and now you think SHE is being manipulative?

You really are out to lunch, OP. I thought the avoidant guy from the other day was bad but at least he has a dead mom and some dysfunctional relationships that would lead to that behavior. You just sound like an ass.

No I don’t think she is being manipulative. I was pointing out how I was always told to not give into ultimatums because it’s a manipulative tactic.