Or the romantic relationship has run its course, and the spouse meets someone that they'd rather be with. It doesn't need to be that complicated. |
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I did it. I thought about his wife quite a lot over the years, not as a rival but just thinking about it from her perspective/position. |
again, it’s the people that were in relationships that should have put the barriers, the other ones are free to go after anyone |
And what exactly do you think her perspective /position was? I’m guessing she didn’t know you existed or that her husband was cheating? |
I’ve been sleeping with married men since i was 18. Im single, so I'm not the one cheating. I am always the one who ends it. |
Once I was in an affair with a woman in a terrible marriage and her true color came out it made me see just how truly great my wife, family and life was. It was like a knock on the side if the head: wake up dummy! Then, I felt awful. My affair was about me and my distorted issues/phase. |
Have you been psychologically evaluated? Do you plan to keep doing this when old and shriveled? Who hurt you that this is what you like doing? Obviously raised in a house with zero morals or compassion/empathy. |
This. When I was in my mid-20s I had a relationship with a married colleague with 3 kids. We travelled M-Th for work and I didn’t think about his wife or family at all except once when I went shopping with him to pick out some expensive earrings for her birthday. I never contacted him on weekends or when we were apart. I didn’t take any time away that he would be spending with them. If he wasn’t with me, he was drinking with colleagues and clients at the hotel where we all “lived”. When the project ended, he quit and found a job where he was home 7 nights a week. I saw him in passing at a conference 10 years later and he’s still married. I doubt I was the first or last affair he had. And no, I didn’t want anything bad to happen to his wife. I didn’t want 3 kids and a suburban life. I travelled full time for a “work hard/play hard” consulting company with generous expense accounts for 10+ years. I’ve been at many a hotel bar at last call. Women talk. A lot of traveling consultants meet their spouse at work and a lot of single people in their 20s hook up, but the vast majority of married men don’t cheat. I’m married now and the thought of breaking my husband’s heart and having him feel betrayed and disappointed in me is enough to stop me even thinking about cheating. But that’s about me making the decision that no one could be worth throwing away the life I have now. Adults that cheat are capable of making their own decisions and taking responsibility. It’s not the OW’s job to have a conscience for the cheater. |
She did know. I don’t know exactly what her thoughts were of course. I only know that she knew and stayed. |
Why? Are your parents divorced? |
What pray tell was her true color that was not initially evident to you? |
She knew during the affair? Are you sure about this? Cheaters lie |
Nasty. Majorly passive aggressive in a very nasty way. I really felt sorry for her husband, dealing with that and the fact she had affairs behind his back for years. It wasn’t until the affair glow wore off that her real personality was shown. |
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