If you had an affair with a married person

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've been with 8 different married women and 4 women in relationships. I do t feel any way at all towards their partners or family. You are being way too dramatic. When they were with me, they were escaping their partner for a few hours and none of them wanted out of their marriage. They just wanted sex. It's not that complicated.

Really? It wasn’t undying, everlasting love to them like Apps in other threads claim it to be . Just sex to you.

It really is quite a bit more complicated for women than for men. Accept that. I am sure they wanted escape, validation and excitement but I sincerely doubt “they just wanted sex.” Yes, there are outliers/damaged women and maybe you attracted them.

Maybe they wanted PP for his high net worth and exciting lifestyle. Oh. My bad.

And these dumb idiots can’t realize a lot of that came from the wife’s career and $$ too. We own multiple properties and are wealthy—but it was built together over years together—investments, portfolios, properties. These dingbats can’t see that.

[Anonymous]

Any stories where the mother cheated? I have some.

I know of two families where the mom had a child from an affair, and each mom pretended the baby belonged to her husband. This happens often enough that DNA testing should be a normal part of a newborn's hospital stay.

I know of another where the mom had an affair with their pastor and tried to blame getting an STD on the dad.

Let's get a little balance here.

Wow, do you sound bitter! The point of the post was whether PARENTAL affairs harm children.

But you obviously have a gender axe to grind, so saw it through the lens of gender imbalance. The poster was not reporting survey results, she was recounting actual anecdotes from her life. But you, crusader for all men and justice, have righted her wrong.

Too funny...

There you are, the crazy little illiterate poster. Sadly, you ignored all the posts in front of my post. All of them were the misandric stuff you enjoy so that gender imbalance did not bother you. So, not only did I right her wrong, I righted yours too.

BTW - You need to proofread your posts. For example, your post would be clearer if you wrote "so you saw it through the lens." Also, when people write something, you cannot hear them (i.e. I cannot sound bitter if you cannot hear me.) What you mean is that the tone of my post appeared bitter.

May I send you a link for NoVa classes in basic writing?

[Anonymous]

I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

Were you married too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

How did you get involved?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

Oh you feel bad for her, but had no qualms about taking part and being one of those complicit in hurting her.

Nice deflection of blame from yourself. You have zero idea what he has done in the past, but justify it by classifying yourself as one of many.

And “you hate yourself for what you were involve with: him”. But you still haven’t gotten to the point where you should feel regret for YOU.

[Anonymous]

^ if she was also married, she’s an even bigger hypocrite - blaming him and the situation while letting herself off scott free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ if she was also married, she’s an even bigger hypocrite - blaming him and the situation while letting herself off scott free.

Not uncommon. I have seen where these married women seem to forget their part of responsibility and any shame or talk of their OWN spouse and kids. They actively seek it out on affair websites, but when it comes to light they are the “victim” too. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

And so have you. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

Oh you feel bad for her, but had no qualms about taking part and being one of those complicit in hurting her.

Nice deflection of blame from yourself. You have zero idea what he has done in the past, but justify it by classifying yourself as one of many.

And “you hate yourself for what you were involve with: him”. But you still haven’t gotten to the point where you should feel regret for YOU.

Very strange take!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been with 8 different married women and 4 women in relationships. I do t feel any way at all towards their partners or family. You are being way too dramatic. When they were with me, they were escaping their partner for a few hours and none of them wanted out of their marriage. They just wanted sex. It's not that complicated.

Really? It wasn’t undying, everlasting love to them like Apps in other threads claim it to be . Just sex to you.

It really is quite a bit more complicated for women than for men. Accept that. I am sure they wanted escape, validation and excitement but I sincerely doubt “they just wanted sex.” Yes, there are outliers/damaged women and maybe you attracted them.

Maybe they wanted PP for his high net worth and exciting lifestyle. Oh. My bad.

Exactly. Exit affairs. They want a social upgrade. If you live in the city or walkable/urban neighborhood—these suburban bored housewives will be all over you on the apps.

Why do people assume that women can’t support themselves and the most women don’t? It’s exhausting. Most women don’t want exit affairs.

[Anonymous]

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NP. I am a woman. I don’t get “feels.” I’m not talking about an affair; I’m talking about in general. I was with somebody for 18 months and I did not get the field and I did not want more and I ended it. Some women do just want sex, especially those who are older (40s), who don’t really feel like dealing with man’s crap anymore. They just want the physical part and not merging lives or any of that nonsense anymore because it’s just not worth the hassle.

Sister, from your lips to God's ear. I am in my early 50s and dating.

I like it best when you are done for the night and can hit the highway home.

I am the PP. Amen! I think I horrified my mother when I said, “what would I want another man for? when he’s done, he can go home.” I am mid 40s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

Oh you feel bad for her, but had no qualms about taking part and being one of those complicit in hurting her.

Nice deflection of blame from yourself. You have zero idea what he has done in the past, but justify it by classifying yourself as one of many.

And “you hate yourself for what you were involve with: him”. But you still haven’t gotten to the point where you should feel regret for YOU.

Oh who are you to judge!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not want anything bad to happen to the wife. I do feel bad for her because her husband has been messing around on her for a very long time and likely with many women.

It is the biggest regret and disappointment of my life and I hate myself for what I was involved with.

Oh you feel bad for her, but had no qualms about taking part and being one of those complicit in hurting her.

Nice deflection of blame from yourself. You have zero idea what he has done in the past, but justify it by classifying yourself as one of many.

And “you hate yourself for what you were involve with: him”. But you still haven’t gotten to the point where you should feel regret for YOU.

Oh who are you to judge!?

Just pointing out the work you have yet to do on yourself. Still zero culpability. Always blameless. Always someone else’s fault.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've been with 8 different married women and 4 women in relationships. I do t feel any way at all towards their partners or family. You are being way too dramatic. When they were with me, they were escaping their partner for a few hours and none of them wanted out of their marriage. They just wanted sex. It's not that complicated.

Really? It wasn’t undying, everlasting love to them like Apps in other threads claim it to be . Just sex to you.

It was just sex to both of us in all the affairs. Is that hard to understand?

No. I was being sarcastic because of all the OW/APs on this forum that claim all the men love/d them. It was just the kids making him stay with the wife —even the APs that were married too.

I’d be interested to know how long each of his affairs were because I have never met a woman that didn’t get feels and want more of it was longer than 1 year.

anywhere from just a few meetings to six months to a year long.