Why do some parents support Beach Week?

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01/09/2023 10:01

Subject: Re:Why do some parents support Beach Week?

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

Have you sent a kid to college? No one is looking out for them or their safety. Colleges are a business. They do everything they can to disclaim liability. DC had a friend that attempted suicide. When I heard the story around why, in fact, I told the parents that they should retain counsel because they had an excellent legal case against the university whose policies contributed to the attempt.

Colleges are well known not to protect women from sexual assault. They are well known to NOT handle mental health issues and crises. They do not prevent drinking- just ban it from events to shift liability.

after 2 kids and 4 colleges, I could go on and on about how little colleges actually care about students. They are businesses and like any other business, they protect their $$$ and their prestige first and foremost.

So, yes, I let my kids go to Beach Week, because they are responsible adults. They were old enough to be on birth control, understand consent and have sex. They were not old enough to legally drink, and knew the consequences if they did and/or if they got caught. They drove and knew their responsibilities there. I made it clear that DC could be directly liable for any damages, and if he was I would not pay them.

Also, I went to Beach Week, where I drank, but not to excess, and had (safe) sex. No one died. No one got arrested. We didn’t wreck the house. To this day, 50 years later, those Beach Week mates are still my best friends and we just talked about having another Beach Week this summer, albeit in a nicer house at a nicer beach.

You are making claims I never made. No one said colleges prevent every bad thing from happening to your kid when you drop them off. I said there is a system and structure in place that you can turn to in the event that something does happen. No such structure is in place when you rent a beachhouse for a bunch of unsupervised teenagers.

Furthermore, LOCAL LAW ENFORCEMENT themselves say dropping your kids off at college and at the beach for Beach Week are very different things.

SOURCE: https://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/maryland-schools-insider/post/senior-beach-week-full-of-risks-for-teens-police-tell-parents/2012/03/20/gIQAhvxSQS_blog.html

“Parents may think, ‘What’s the big deal? We’re sending them to college soon anyway,’” he said. But a beach town is nothing like a school campus, he explained, where there are resident assistants, campus security, and class schedules to keep teens in check.

The beach is an “uncontrolled environment” with a large concentration of kids and garbage pails full of jungle juice.

“The binge drinking is horrible. Marijuana is in every house we go to. The pills? An absolute nightmare,” he said.

Please stop it with the false equivalencies.

Just say you'd prefer not to upset or disappoint your kid, but don't try to justify it as being the same thing as dropping them off at college.