Why do some parents support Beach Week?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son is going with a group of friends plus my husband (they can't get the house without a real adult). Have you considered that compromise?

I mean, if a legitimate adult was going that would soften things, but I also think that would completely take away from the thrill of Beach Week, which is to have a week to venture out on your own with no adults telling you what to do....but of course funding the entire expenditure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

But he has no real income, so in the end, if they cause damage to the property or end up in jail, guess who's really footing the bill?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s fine. You’re only 17 and 18 once in your life so enjoy it.

Mistakes you make in your youth can follow you around for life. I don't think throwing caution to the wind because you're only young once is sound advice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

Beach week has been a thing for many many years. If things got out of hand in prior years, don't you think those people would stop renting to the 18 yr olds?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

I’ve posted my opinion and you’ve posted yours. OP asked for feedback, and we’ve given it. But you seem hell bent on convincing me that my opinion is wrong. I didn’t anyone for feedback. That’s what OP did. Again, not sure why you’re so invested in arguing with those that don’t have the same opinion as you about Beach Week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

* There is NO University administration/police offsite

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

I’ve posted my opinion and you’ve posted yours. OP asked for feedback, and we’ve given it. But you seem hell bent on convincing me that my opinion is wrong. I didn’t anyone for feedback. That’s what OP did. Again, not sure why you’re so invested in arguing with those that don’t have the same opinion as you about Beach Week.

I'm not trying to convince you to send them. I really don't care. I'm just telling you that in 3 months, your kid will be off to college and could easily have beach week then without you knowing.

I'm confused as to why some parents put such a tight leash on their seniors when in a few months time they will be off to college on their own. The tighter your leash in HS the more likely they are to go nuts when they are finally free from your leash.

Just a thought.

[Anonymous]

Because they are idiots.