Why do some parents support Beach Week?

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

Your post actually does not make sense. Do you have a child who is currently attending college? It does not sound like you do. I actually do. And from what I can tell there is no one -- no one -- that is checking that my child is back in their dorm room each and every night. Sure, there are resident assistants on each floor of the dorm but I promise you that they are not knocking nightly on each room saying "nighty-night". And while no university wants anything to happen to their students, this may shock you PP: my kid's university (ranked in the upper 25 so a fairly decent place I suppose) does not keep tabs on whether my kid or any kid even attends class. College is about independence and about self-responsibility. No one is nor should be keeping such close tabs on your child as you seem to believe.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

Because she posted asking why anybody would make a decision that wasn’t the same as the one she made . OP was free to make her decision and not ask DCUM about it but she didn’t. Hence the responses.

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Rich parents who checked out a long time ago.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

What the what???? Name the university that has staff and/or police that prevent their students from going "offsite" (I am assuming you mean off campus PP)?
Any university that does this sounds more like a reform facility.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

If he does those things at a university, the university has protocol, campus police and structures to hold him liable and accountable and they in turn, can be held liable if they fail to do their responsibility in caring for him.

No one assumes any liability for a bunch of unsupervised teens at a hotel room or rented house. It's on....the parents who rented that for them.

Some of the rentals allow 18 yr olds to rent them. And if they are 18, they are liable. They know that since they know that being 18 means your are officially a legal adult.

Which ones? Do the houses have a roof? Running water? 😂

yes, I saw the rental that my DC and friends are renting. It's a nice place. Big - I think there will be like 10 of them in there.

DC told me that the 18 yr old friend is renting it. And since this friend is the one legally responsible for the home, they get say in what is or is not allowed, and the rest of them have agreed to adhere to this friend's rules.

LMAO! Good luck to that friend!

Getting a bunch of 17 or 18-year-olds to adhere to rules while no adults are around to enforce said rules sounds like it'll be real easy.

Beach week has been a thing for many many years. If things got out of hand in prior years, don't you think those people would stop renting to the 18 yr olds?

Read:

https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2018/09/parents-beach-week/571576/

https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapediatrics/fullarticle/345261

https://bethesdamagazine.com/2014/01/28/bethesda-seniors-parents-get-police-version-of-beach-week/

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

What the what???? Name the university that has staff and/or police that prevent their students from going "offsite" (I am assuming you mean off campus PP)?
Any university that does this sounds more like a reform facility.

lol.. yea, I corrected myself upthread. There is NO university admin or police offsite. Bad typo.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

Your post actually does not make sense. Do you have a child who is currently attending college? It does not sound like you do. I actually do. And from what I can tell there is no one -- no one -- that is checking that my child is back in their dorm room each and every night. Sure, there are resident assistants on each floor of the dorm but I promise you that they are not knocking nightly on each room saying "nighty-night". And while no university wants anything to happen to their students, this may shock you PP: my kid's university (ranked in the upper 25 so a fairly decent place I suppose) does not keep tabs on whether my kid or any kid even attends class. College is about independence and about self-responsibility. No one is nor should be keeping such close tabs on your child as you seem to believe.

+1 literally no one at the college cares or is looking out for your kid or any kid

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

I HATE this argument. Do we really have to explain to parents that the very purpose of going off to college is not to get drunk, do drugs and have sex?

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

My kid doesn't work or have the funds currently to fund such a lavish experience. And even if he did, I probably would still say no because I just don't see the benefits outweigh the risks.

I get the point about college spring break. And you're right. I'm not as opposed to him going on spring break his freshman year, because it'll definitely be further away from the 17-18-year old straddling that happens with seniors, which can be incredibly problematic when it comes to sexual encounters and interactions.

To me, there's a lot of growth and maturity that happens between a high school senior and college freshman. So I would be comfortable with my college freshman going away on spring break more than my high school senior.

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Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

This x100
I was not thrilled about beach week when my (now college freshman) went last June but I realized that in 2 months he will be living on his own and every day could be a "beach week" scenario if he decided it to be. I trust him and the time had arrived for me to show him that I did. If not, why would I then be comfortable sending him off to college in a couple short months?

Plus, regarding OP's question about paying for beach week, do not assume that I paid.

Well, gee, no, because he would probably flunk out.

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Since I was raped at BW, no I would never anyone to it. I think most parents would be shocked about what goes on there. I was.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

I’ve posted my opinion and you’ve posted yours. OP asked for feedback, and we’ve given it. But you seem hell bent on convincing me that my opinion is wrong. I didn’t anyone for feedback. That’s what OP did. Again, not sure why you’re so invested in arguing with those that don’t have the same opinion as you about Beach Week.

I'm not trying to convince you to send them. I really don't care. I'm just telling you that in 3 months, your kid will be off to college and could easily have beach week then without you knowing.

I'm confused as to why some parents put such a tight leash on their seniors when in a few months time they will be off to college on their own. The tighter your leash in HS the more likely they are to go nuts when they are finally free from your leash.

Just a thought.

I’m sure you can appreciate that there are varying degrees of tightening the leash and letting it go. I have two in college and one in high school. They’re all great kids, doing well and have made mistakes along the way. They’ve done and will continue to do their fair share of partying. I’m sure there are some parents that would look at how I’ve let my kids move all around DC on their own at night and think that I’m completely irresponsible and that the leash is too loose. Others have no issue with it.

Again, everyone makes the decision that is best for their family at the time. Maybe OP will have a different outlook in a few months and maybe she’ll still feel the same. We’re all just trying to do our best.
Peace.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

Sending a student away to college IS NOT the same as sending them to a rental house unsupervised.

There are a NUMBER of staff who get paid to ensure the wellbeing and safety of your child while they're at college. Starting with the Resident Advisor all the way to the hierarchy of staff in Resident Services to the campus police and the overall UNIVERSITY administration.

This comparison makes no sense.

well, I'm not "sending them". They are paying for it on their own. I'm not gonna try to stop them since IMO, it's like them gong on spring break, which I also won't be paying for. Are you going to prevent your college aged kids from going on spring break even if they are paying for it?

Like I stated, while away at college, they can easily get a rental on the weekends. For all you know, they could be doing it every weekend and partying. There is UNIVERSITY administration or campus police involved when they go offsite. How will you stop your kid from doing this if they are paying for it on their own?

* There is NO University administration/police offsite

Campus police usually have some jurisdiction that includes the parts that border campus. So there is a portion of "off-campus" territory that campus police do patrol and cover.

But you're right, if your kid goes far enough, they'll be outside of the jurisdiction of the campus police.

I was pointing out, that dropping your kid off on-campus over to university administration is way different from signing them up for a completely unsupervised house rental. That's the comparison. Not the fact that once your kid is on campus, they can choose to leave it and get into trouble.

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

Because she posted asking why anybody would make a decision that wasn’t the same as the one she made . OP was free to make her decision and not ask DCUM about it but she didn’t. Hence the responses.

Don't assume OP's gender is feamle, please. Thanks.

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Anonymous wrote:Rich parents who checked out a long time ago.

Yeah. That's my thought.