Why do some parents support Beach Week?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

Great point. To the OP-you do you. I prefer to allow my 18 year old to make up his own mind. He is paying for it. He will be going 2,000 miles away for college a few weeks after beach week. I definitely would be glad if he didn’t go to beach week but not my place anymore to forbid him from going.

[Anonymous]

When is Beach Week? How do kids know about this stuff - I asked my high schoolers (neither are seniors) and they haven’t heard of beach week. Same question for this Canadian ski trip that my kids’ and apparently several other high schools are organizing. Nothing was sent around to the parents about it but various friends have said their kids are going on the trip this weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is Beach Week? How do kids know about this stuff - I asked my high schoolers (neither are seniors) and they haven’t heard of beach week. Same question for this Canadian ski trip that my kids’ and apparently several other high schools are organizing. Nothing was sent around to the parents about it but various friends have said their kids are going on the trip this weekend.

Beach Week is also known as Senior Week. It is an unofficial "rite of passage" that is not sanctioned, recognized or organized by the school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When is Beach Week? How do kids know about this stuff - I asked my high schoolers (neither are seniors) and they haven’t heard of beach week. Same question for this Canadian ski trip that my kids’ and apparently several other high schools are organizing. Nothing was sent around to the parents about it but various friends have said their kids are going on the trip this weekend.

There are more than 1 week for beach week. Usually because private and public schools graduate on different schedules.

https://www.oceancity.com/senior-week/

The Canada trip is weird you have to find somebody that has gone in the past and try to get the email. The stopped for 2 years due to covid but they are doing it again, i got a text. https://eztxt.net/13AjIR

There are also 2 different weekend for public and private. I think it MLK weekend and Presidents weekend or something like that.

That trip is wild. The organizer will fly a kid home at your expense if he is acting like a fool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First, stop getting into these discussions with your kid. He’s reporting what he thinks is going on with some other kid. Who cares? He’s still in your house and you’re not okay with it. Case closed.

As for the posters that say, “Well, what do you think will be happening in a few months after that? They will be going to college where parents won’t be there.” They’ll also be going to classes. There will be other things to do besides drink and hang out. And maybe OP’s kid will make some good choices and maybe he’ll make some stupid choices. She’ll let go and let that happen when the time comes in August. It’s still not a reason to support beach week if you don’t want to. It’s not up to you to convince your son or anyone here that this is where you stand. It’s just where you are.

You realize t hat they are not in class 24/7, right? And spring break? Yes, kids sometimes make stupid choices. Do you think your kid is immune from making those stupid choices in two months after June while at college?

But sure, I guess controlling your kid till the very last minute gives you some reassurance.

Here’s the great thing about being a parent: we each get to make our own choices. Some of chose to give formula, some chose to nurse. Some chose public school, some chose private. Some chose to sign their kids up for sports while others chose music lessons. And some chose a combination of all these things. At the end of the day I get to decide what’s best for my kids. And you get to do the same. OP gets to do that as well. You don’t have to like my choice, and I don’t have to like yours.

I guess I’m confused as to why you have to criticize my choice or convince me I’m wrong. Why do you care what I do with my kids?

No one really cares what your parenting choices are. This is a forum where people share their opinions and ideas. If you don't want people to respond to your post with their opinions, then don't post on here.

I'm confused as to why you wouldn't trust your kid in June to be off on his own but not in September off on their own. For all you know, while they are in college, they could be going off on the weekends to a rental home with a bunch of kids so they can have their missed "beach week" doing god knows what. Three months difference.

NP. Your first 2 sentences contraindicate your intentions. Sounds like you just want to argue. Chump move.

? sounds like you just want to only hear your opinions and not opposing ones.

You have much to figure out -- I was a new poster, so did not share a previous opinion. My comment was based on your words. Again, you seem to just be interested in arguing. If you have to write question marks, it's either that or you can't read your own writing.

[Anonymous]

Law enforcement just visited Walter Johnson to talk about what goes down at Beach Week, according to this report from the Tattler: https://bcctattler.org/1990/news/__trashed-2/

SPOILER ALERT: NOTHING GOOD!

During the meeting, one Delaware Beach police officer talked about the horrors and worst case scenarios of what could really happen: “It’s not the simple underage drinking, possession of marijuana, curfew violation, it’s the one step out into that highway and you get smacked by a car because of a DUI driver, it’s the ‘I’m going to go skinny dipping’ at 2 in the morning and the riptide takes you out and there’s no lifeboats out there to save you.”

The officer took a direct approach of telling the parents and students that drugs, alcohol, and being arrested are simply the bare minimum that can happen at Beach Week. There is much more at stake when it comes to this high school tradition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Law enforcement just visited Walter Johnson to talk about what goes down at Beach Week, according to this report from the Tattler: https://bcctattler.org/1990/news/__trashed-2/

SPOILER ALERT: NOTHING GOOD!

During the meeting, one Delaware Beach police officer talked about the horrors and worst case scenarios of what could really happen: “It’s not the simple underage drinking, possession of marijuana, curfew violation, it’s the one step out into that highway and you get smacked by a car because of a DUI driver, it’s the ‘I’m going to go skinny dipping’ at 2 in the morning and the riptide takes you out and there’s no lifeboats out there to save you.”

The officer took a direct approach of telling the parents and students that drugs, alcohol, and being arrested are simply the bare minimum that can happen at Beach Week. There is much more at stake when it comes to this high school tradition.

yes don't do stupid sh1t, no matter where you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our son is going with a group of friends plus my husband (they can't get the house without a real adult). Have you considered that compromise?

Creepy AF!!! Red flag

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our son is going with a group of friends plus my husband (they can't get the house without a real adult). Have you considered that compromise?

Creepy AF!!! Red flag

Why is it creepy? My DD did beach week in the Outer Banks last year and all of the houses had parents there too.

[Anonymous]

Was there a beach week meeting with law enforcement this year? Anything new than in past years?

[Anonymous]

Patrick was a lot of fun when I was in high school. Back then we could legally purchase alcohol and get into bars. He drank way too much .

[Anonymous]

I think the reason that parents are criticizing or discouraging other parents from allowing it is that it becomes a big peer pressure thing. If other parents didn't allow it, it would be easier for those of us who don't like it to say no.

(It's the same dynamic as criticizing other parents for allowing crop tops and short shorts-- it makes parenting harder for the rest of us.)

I'm letting my kid go, though I hate the idea of it. Why? Because "everybody is doing it."

I don't always fall for that, but when I checked around, everyone I know is letting their kid go, including typically strict parents. And my kid is 18 and about to go off to college. So they'll be living alone/deciding for themselves/going to college parties soon enough. I hate this because of the idiocy of kids all together on vacation. But I also don't want my kid to be left out.

So she gets a big lecture before hand, and I'll have her turn on her location tracking and I'll expect a check in every night, and I'll pray!

[Anonymous]

Do parents typically rent a separate house nearby at beach during that week? Do kids drive there together or do parents drop them there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do parents typically rent a separate house nearby at beach during that week? Do kids drive there together or do parents drop them there?

Have heard a few families organize to rent out another beach house but not typical for most parents do do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think he will be doing in September vs June?

But Beach week has extra cops hired to catch your students breaking the law and who needs that multi-faceted problem. Beach week is a terrible idea. If your student really needs to go, make sure there are known, trusted adult chaperones in the house.