| Dude is a loser with a capital “L.” |
| We're Jewish with Christian family and we do the same as BIL: happy to visit and spend time together, but gifts are exchanged for Christmas and we don't celebrate it. If it happens to fall during Hanukkah, like it will this year, we can get away with calling the gifts Hanukkah presents. Still, it's not hard to explain that Christmas is not our holiday and gifts are for those who celebrate. Like birthday gifts at someone else's birthday party. |
Send it now. My cousin converted to Jehovah's Witness. Her kids were not permitted gifts around Christmas. My Aunt would send them early and my cousin/dh would decide when to give it to them. Op, maybe they would accept a gift now, and bring something for him to play with at Christmas. |
I will bring it up to my sister and see if it’s ok to send a gift now. We’ve not exchanged any gifts with them at Christmas since their marriage. My sister was happy to give and receive gifts at Christmas before the marriage. Nephew isn’t allowed treats at family celebration. Last year the other kids were eating desserts and cookies and Larlo threw a fit and my sister hid a single small cookie in her hand and doled out microscopic bits to keep him from losing it. |
I try not to intrude and be nosy but it seems like it. Thanks everyone. I will try to update after.
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Maybe they can come later, when the gift exchange is over?
PS I hate meek women married to crazy guys who let them run the show and make life unnecessarily complicated for their kids! |
Never heard of party favors? It's a thing. Gifts for others at a birthday party. Don't be a kill joy, lighten up. |
Because that’s what people who love each other do. They look at creative ways of managing differences. No one will be hurt by moving gift giving Another time. But some will be hurt by not trying to find a compromise. |
And some will be hurt by not being able to continue the traditions, despite your glossing over that obvious fact. What compromise is BIL making? None so far. |
Right. March with the herd or suffer the consequences. Small minded people abound. Bil and Sis can do whatever the heck they want. Anyone who posts about how SADZ this makes them is immature. |
Yeah, this. |
Yes, actually, since he married into a Christian family and should himself respect their traditions. --a Muslim |
Thank you so much for this. Nobody expects bil to go all in in anything, he is more than welcome to conduct his life and his household as he wishes. But why can’t he accept that his son’s grandmother would like to include his son, her grandson in one tradition? For those who commented my sister is weak and wishy-washy, big agree. I feel like she should tell her husband to back off and let their son participate in the gift opening. It’s not religious at all. How is it harmful to accept a gift from grandma/Santa? |
You are nuts and probably a troll. Mind your business. |
He doesn't have to. Adults get to make decisions for themselves and their families. The amount of pain some of you are expressing for this child is ridiculous. |