Is it weird to ask to wear protection?

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Anonymous wrote:What? Not my experience at all. They bring their own, or are happy to use one if I ask. Who are these douche bags you’re dating?!

This! Absolutely you should be using condoms. And if the guy complains, I would seriously worry about where he had been.Before I have sex with a guy, I have them get tested for STDs, we have a discussion about exclusivity, and then I still use condoms. Granted, I need them for birth control, but I would use them anyway.

I demand all my women get tested for STDs too!

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

You have no idea about my situation and my parents already knew I was planning an exit so shut up. Stop asking for details and then judging. I did not know there was a low testosterone issue when I got married; marriage is always a risk and sometimes it’s just a mistake. It just did not work. We tried. It never worked. It’s easy not to have sex in a bad marriage. You stay either forever or you stay until you can no longer stand it. The end.

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Anonymous wrote:What? Not my experience at all. They bring their own, or are happy to use one if I ask. Who are these douche bags you’re dating?!

This! Absolutely you should be using condoms. And if the guy complains, I would seriously worry about where he had been.Before I have sex with a guy, I have them get tested for STDs, we have a discussion about exclusivity, and then I still use condoms. Granted, I need them for birth control, but I would use them anyway.

I demand all my women get tested for STDs too!

You need to by the writings of plenty of these 40 something years old women on these threads who are in crisis.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

You have no idea about my situation and my parents already knew I was planning an exit so shut up. Stop asking for details and then judging. I did not know there was a low testosterone issue when I got married; marriage is always a risk and sometimes it’s just a mistake. It just did not work. We tried. It never worked. It’s easy not to have sex in a bad marriage. You stay either forever or you stay until you can no longer stand it. The end.

You’re the one giving details, you were told you should just stop. 7 years is not planning an exit. Either you were already unbalanced or that came along with your “marriage”. Either way, once you admit that and get that remedied, then you will have clarity and hopefully a healthy view of a relationship.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

You have no idea about my situation and my parents already knew I was planning an exit so shut up. Stop asking for details and then judging. I did not know there was a low testosterone issue when I got married; marriage is always a risk and sometimes it’s just a mistake. It just did not work. We tried. It never worked. It’s easy not to have sex in a bad marriage. You stay either forever or you stay until you can no longer stand it. The end.

You’re the one giving details, you were told you should just stop. 7 years is not planning an exit. Either you were already unbalanced or that came along with your “marriage”. Either way, once you admit that and get that remedied, then you will have clarity and hopefully a healthy view of a relationship.

Again…no idea. I had to be in the right state. I could not get stuck for 18 years in the wrong state. It took 7 years to get back. Not everyone has a simple life like you.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

You have no idea about my situation and my parents already knew I was planning an exit so shut up. Stop asking for details and then judging. I did not know there was a low testosterone issue when I got married; marriage is always a risk and sometimes it’s just a mistake. It just did not work. We tried. It never worked. It’s easy not to have sex in a bad marriage. You stay either forever or you stay until you can no longer stand it. The end.

You’re the one giving details, you were told you should just stop. 7 years is not planning an exit. Either you were already unbalanced or that came along with your “marriage”. Either way, once you admit that and get that remedied, then you will have clarity and hopefully a healthy view of a relationship.

Again…no idea. I had to be in the right state. I could not get stuck for 18 years in the wrong state. It took 7 years to get back. Not everyone has a simple life like you.

Having a “simple life” is not a prerequisite to making sound decisions. You are a “victim” is part of your problem.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

You have no idea about my situation and my parents already knew I was planning an exit so shut up. Stop asking for details and then judging. I did not know there was a low testosterone issue when I got married; marriage is always a risk and sometimes it’s just a mistake. It just did not work. We tried. It never worked. It’s easy not to have sex in a bad marriage. You stay either forever or you stay until you can no longer stand it. The end.

You’re the one giving details, you were told you should just stop. 7 years is not planning an exit. Either you were already unbalanced or that came along with your “marriage”. Either way, once you admit that and get that remedied, then you will have clarity and hopefully a healthy view of a relationship.

Your spouse’s issue was medical. Yours is mental.

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Anonymous wrote:Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

Are you the one who called people retards and fags in earlier post?

Are you the one who can't stand the idea of women having sexual pleasure?

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Who has custody of this woman’s child?

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Anonymous wrote:As they age, men have a harder time performing with condoms. Solution: go for younger guys. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t know why this didn’t get any traction. It’s true-as men age, it’s harder to use condoms. I’ve also found that men that are a little on the smaller side have a hard time keeping them on.

(1). Viagra
(2). Wrong size. Plenty of “snug” brands out there.

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Anonymous wrote:Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

Are you the one who called people retards and fags in earlier post?

Are you the one who can't stand the idea of women having sexual pleasure?

Your context is way off. -NP

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Anonymous wrote:When I started dating again, mostly women in their 40s, I was surprised that only maybe 15% wanted to use condoms, once they knew I had a vasectomy. I hate them but I always came prepared. IN the years to follow, I've learned that women hate them even more than I do.

You're using the wrong condoms, then. I don't get all the condom hate because my DH and I use them and we don't need them for BC or STD prevention. All the condom haters should experiment with more adventurous condoms because they, especially the women, are missing out. Seriously.

Why do you use condoms if not necessary for disease prevention or birth control?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not having sex unless I'm in a relationship, and if I'm in a relationship I'm unlikely to need a condom.

You're awfully trusting. In my clinic, I've seen more than one person with an STD because their partner was cheating on them. And pregnancy is always a possibility if you're fertile.

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Anonymous wrote:As they age, men have a harder time performing with condoms. Solution: go for younger guys. 🤷‍♀️

I don’t know why this didn’t get any traction. It’s true-as men age, it’s harder to use condoms. I’ve also found that men that are a little on the smaller side have a hard time keeping them on.

they should try iron Gate condoms

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

You do not need to justify your behavior. Live your life!