Is it weird to ask to wear protection?

[Anonymous]

Condoms are like unions. The more someone is trying to convince you that you don't need one, the more you need one.

I'm fine with them expressing a preference for not using one, but as soon as I said, "no, it's important to me that you wear one" any comment like "you have trust issues" would result in me immediately leaving/asking them to leave, and never talking to them again. I mean really.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can everyone please ignore the slut-shaming troll on this thread?

You cannot shame someone without them being ashamed.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

She must be the Mother of Jesus.

[Anonymous]

I'm not having sex unless I'm in a relationship, and if I'm in a relationship I'm unlikely to need a condom.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

Again, not doing yourself favors. You should just stop but I know you are not well.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

Not insulting, just an observation. It’s clear you are fragile and not functioning with a healthy mind in the way you approach/define intimate relationships.

That is ridiculous. I have a completely healthy mind to practice safe sex if I am with a new partner. I am not dumb enough to remarry and merge finances. I define intimate relationships as exclusive and monogamous but not leading to marriage or cohabitation, which is completely normal for any person above the age of 40. There is no reason to risk remarriage at that point in life and financially way too risky. Stop shaming people who just have had different circumstances than you.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

Again, not doing yourself favors. You should just stop but I know you are not well.

:roll:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not having sex unless I'm in a relationship, and if I'm in a relationship I'm unlikely to need a condom.

you don't want to know they don't have diseases before you sleep with them without a condom? That is weird.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

We had sex 1 time in years. I was planning to end it. But a positive test changed that plan. No sex after that for 7 more years.

That’s a bunch of BS. You were not planning on ending it and you know that. But the one time in years you had sex you got pregnant, surrreee. That stopped you leaving, right. And then nothing for 7 years and you didn’t want to be with him but was with him.
There’s a lot reading between all that bunch of nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

Not insulting, just an observation. It’s clear you are fragile and not functioning with a healthy mind in the way you approach/define intimate relationships.

That is ridiculous. I have a completely healthy mind to practice safe sex if I am with a new partner. I am not dumb enough to remarry and merge finances. I define intimate relationships as exclusive and monogamous but not leading to marriage or cohabitation, which is completely normal for any person above the age of 40. There is no reason to risk remarriage at that point in life and financially way too risky. Stop shaming people who just have had different circumstances than you.

Bless your heart.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

She must be the Mother of Jesus.

You can absolutely get pregnant without sex. Are yall really that dumb? Update- people can get pregnant as long as there is a uterus and a fertilized egg. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716#:~:text=During%20IVF%20%2C%20mature%20eggs%20are,the%20process%20can%20take%20longer.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

Not insulting, just an observation. It’s clear you are fragile and not functioning with a healthy mind in the way you approach/define intimate relationships.

That is ridiculous. I have a completely healthy mind to practice safe sex if I am with a new partner. I am not dumb enough to remarry and merge finances. I define intimate relationships as exclusive and monogamous but not leading to marriage or cohabitation, which is completely normal for any person above the age of 40. There is no reason to risk remarriage at that point in life and financially way too risky. Stop shaming people who just have had different circumstances than you.

Are you the one who has serious “boyfriends,” but not? Are you the 1 time sex in a 7 year cohabitation “marriage?”

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

7 years with someone who you didn’t want to have sex with? Have you thought you may be a lesbian?

Eyeroll. No. I was sacrificing because there was an unintended pregnancy. Some people stay for children until they can't do it anymore. Some people make a mistake getting married. He and I did. Low t and no desire on my end because it was not a good fit makes it easy to not discuss or have sex for years and years.

How did you get pregnant with no sex?

She must be the Mother of Jesus.

You can absolutely get pregnant without sex. Are yall really that dumb? Update- people can get pregnant as long as there is a uterus and a fertilized egg. https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/in-vitro-fertilization/about/pac-20384716#:~:text=During%20IVF%20%2C%20mature%20eggs%20are,the%20process%20can%20take%20longer.

Pretty sure IVF was not technology that was in use over 2000 years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:How many different men are you sleeping with? Your poor children.

Stop. Children have nothing to do with this.

I am a different poster but I had a near completely sexless marriage for many many years and now that I’m divorced I will sleep with whomever I want. (I also will never marry again so if I’m sleeping with somebody or somebody else a few months after that because the first person didn’t work out, it has absolutely no affect on my kids…they will never meet anyone…my sex life is a complete mile private part of my life (and I use condoms and get tested)…save your sanctimonious attitude that is irrelevant to parenting.

You go girl! + 100000

The “100000” are the men she’s sleeping with.

2 men in 4 years is not a lot. I had zero sex for 7 years while married. My number is probably less than yours.

Seemingly men are not into you. Bless your heart.

Far from the case. But keep assuming.

Your own husband didn’t want to have sec with you for 7 years. That’s not assuming.

Low testosterone. And I did not want to have sex with him either.

Are you okay? You are not doing yourself any favors when you try to defend yourself. Your numerous statements that indicate you have relationship issues.
-NP

I think it is rude when people hurl insults. I don't have "relationship issues." Again, rude and ridiculous.

Not insulting, just an observation. It’s clear you are fragile and not functioning with a healthy mind in the way you approach/define intimate relationships.

That is ridiculous. I have a completely healthy mind to practice safe sex if I am with a new partner. I am not dumb enough to remarry and merge finances. I define intimate relationships as exclusive and monogamous but not leading to marriage or cohabitation, which is completely normal for any person above the age of 40. There is no reason to risk remarriage at that point in life and financially way too risky. Stop shaming people who just have had different circumstances than you.

Can’t shame those who aren’t ashamed. I know people have different circumstances, it’s how they handle them. I do think it’s best you not remarry, that would not be good for the man.