Are we the Aholes?

[Anonymous]

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt Niece just developed a deadly dog allergy. Its either mild or nonexistent. If it is deadly the IL would probably be more forceful about the dog not visiting.

Allergies evolve, and can worsen rapidly, particularly in childhood. Late elementary is the typical age for allergies to appear then get worse. Last year, my 11 year old DD was not allergic to spring pollen. This year, I made the mistake of leaving her window open last night, and she needed steroid medication today!!!

So SHUT UP if you're so ignorant.

That doesn't sound like the case here, rude one. Nobody cares about your DD, start your own thread.

[Anonymous]

BIL just won't be happy here so clearly he's the problem. He doesn't want the dog there and he doesn't want you to skip without the dog. He has control issues. Has he always been a giant PITA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

Op said she boards the dogs for events but doesn't want to at the frequency BIL wants. Op said her family is fine not going. No whining but we're called Aholes.
I would be mad if my brother-in-law and inlaws asked to see me once a month even if there was no issue why I couldn't. The fact that she's even considering it she deserves a medal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt Niece just developed a deadly dog allergy. Its either mild or nonexistent. If it is deadly the IL would probably be more forceful about the dog not visiting.

Allergies evolve, and can worsen rapidly, particularly in childhood. Late elementary is the typical age for allergies to appear then get worse. Last year, my 11 year old DD was not allergic to spring pollen. This year, I made the mistake of leaving her window open last night, and she needed steroid medication today!!!

So SHUT UP if you're so ignorant.

That doesn't sound like the case here, rude one. Nobody cares about your DD, start your own thread.

OP knows nothing of her niece's allergies, and will of course present the matter to her advantage. Other posters and myself have explained what can happen with allergies so that people can understand that they can get bad rapidly and without warning. And THAT, moron, can absolutely become the case here, the next time this girl is in contact with a dog.

So go away. You don't know what you're talking about, and it shows.

[Anonymous]

I don't think BIL is being an A-hole for asking - he's acting like a responsible parent. If I were him, I'd think you were an a-hole for putting your dog over my kid.

I wouldn't want to board my dog every month either, but I think getting someone to come over and take him out once during the day is fine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get a friend or neighbor to watch the dog … This shouldn’t be such a big deal.

Wrong. BIL can learn to live with less contact. Once/twice a month just doesn't work anymore.

+1

[Anonymous]

It seems to me the family has tried to come up with several solutions including leaving the dog at the in-laws house who actually like the dog and going to the brother-in-law's house but he refused.
I agree. If he is hosting he can dictate the terms and say no pets, no kids whatever he wants. But the fact that the in-laws like the dog and have had no issues with the dog visiting. It seems to me OP is fine visiting her in-laws and not trying to get out of it. In fact, she said they will board the dog for holidays.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

Oh FFS, that's not what OP has said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

Op said she boards the dogs for events but doesn't want to at the frequency BIL wants. Op said her family is fine not going. No whining but we're called Aholes.
I would be mad if my brother-in-law and inlaws asked to see me once a month even if there was no issue why I couldn't. The fact that she's even considering it she deserves a medal.

You can stop spinning this, PP or OP in disguise. OP clearly is in a huff because she doesn't want to pay for a sitter that frequently, when it's the norm around here. She's the idiot for not thinking of the ramifications of owning a dog. Her family cannot see her as often as they'd like, and it's all because OP won't get a sitter.

Sorry, but she takes the blame.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt Niece just developed a deadly dog allergy. Its either mild or nonexistent. If it is deadly the IL would probably be more forceful about the dog not visiting.

Allergies evolve, and can worsen rapidly, particularly in childhood. Late elementary is the typical age for allergies to appear then get worse. Last year, my 11 year old DD was not allergic to spring pollen. This year, I made the mistake of leaving her window open last night, and she needed steroid medication today!!!

So SHUT UP if you're so ignorant.

That doesn't sound like the case here, rude one. Nobody cares about your DD, start your own thread.

OP knows nothing of her niece's allergies, and will of course present the matter to her advantage. Other posters and myself have explained what can happen with allergies so that people can understand that they can get bad rapidly and without warning. And THAT, moron, can absolutely become the case here, the next time this girl is in contact with a dog.

So go away. You don't know what you're talking about, and it shows.

I have dog and cat allergies, moron. I don't need your feeble explanation of what this is about or how it works. You know nothing about the niece's allergies but suddenly you are the family spokesperson? You are grasping at straws and making shit up because you hate dogs. How sad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

Oh FFS, that's not what OP has said.

Then get a sitter.

[Anonymous]

Damn the anti-dog people are coming out in full force..... It's funny because OP never said she wouldn't leave the dog and has offered up solutions to make things work and still see her in-laws. You guys are nuts...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I doubt Niece just developed a deadly dog allergy. Its either mild or nonexistent. If it is deadly the IL would probably be more forceful about the dog not visiting.

Allergies evolve, and can worsen rapidly, particularly in childhood. Late elementary is the typical age for allergies to appear then get worse. Last year, my 11 year old DD was not allergic to spring pollen. This year, I made the mistake of leaving her window open last night, and she needed steroid medication today!!!

So SHUT UP if you're so ignorant.

That doesn't sound like the case here, rude one. Nobody cares about your DD, start your own thread.

OP knows nothing of her niece's allergies, and will of course present the matter to her advantage. Other posters and myself have explained what can happen with allergies so that people can understand that they can get bad rapidly and without warning. And THAT, moron, can absolutely become the case here, the next time this girl is in contact with a dog.

So go away. You don't know what you're talking about, and it shows.

I have dog and cat allergies, moron. I don't need your feeble explanation of what this is about or how it works. You know nothing about the niece's allergies but suddenly you are the family spokesperson? You are grasping at straws and making shit up because you hate dogs. How sad.

You posted already, and showed yourself to be incredibly self-centered. Just because you're medicating yourself, doesn't mean you can force others to do the same. I am a dog owner. I do not bring my dog to such gatherings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Truly, that is the worse of those pandemic dog owners.

They got a pet, and didn't think it through.

What exactly did you think would happen to the next 10 years of your life, OP? That you'd never go anywhere? That people would magically welcome your pooch with open arms?

I mean, it's hilarious.

Oh FFS, that's not what OP has said.

Then get a sitter.

Maybe BIL can help split the cost if he so desperately wants to see OP and her family more often without the dog. Win/win.