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Anonymous
| YTA. I’m a dog lover and there is just no reason a dog can’t chill at home for a bbq once in a while. And also if your niece consistently sneezes she’s probably allergic unless you are implying she’s somehow malingering? |
Anonymous
It’s rude because OP has said that her dog comes before niece’s allergies and other family gathering. You can love your dog but when you make them trump the humans in your life, trouble ensues. |
Anonymous
Why does 1 or 2 times a month seem like a lot? We pay a dog walker for 4 days a week. It covers the weekend. That way if we are out all day we don’t have to worry. Pre pandemic - we paid for 6 days a week. A consistent schedule gives you room to negotiate a slightly lower per walk charge. |
Anonymous
Are ILs fine when it’s just them? I’m skeptical that the ILs would be okay with their granddaughter getting her allergies triggered. |
Anonymous
But it's not BIL's house - it's the inlaws house. BIL is asking them not to bring a dog to someone else's home. BIL is wrong. Niece can take a Zyrtec and dog can run around outside. Ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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So you never had any plans to be without your dog, ever, for the next 15 years?
No one I know feels the need to bring their dog everywhere. I have a dog. I foster dogs. Currently have a mother and pups. They do well on their own for hours at a time. My son walks the neighbor's dog when she goes out for longer than he can hold his bladder. Reasonable people train their dogs to stay on their own, and hire walkers and sitters for workdays, long outings and vacation. Can't imagine bringing my large dog on a red-eye to Europe, OP! BIL is absolutely within his rights, and it's very strange you don't want to leave your dog for a half-day. And that's before we talk about allergies, which you should always respect. Yes, you are most definitely self-limiting. But even worse, you're starting to be rude to your friends and relatives here! |
Anonymous
Dogs can also be annoying and begging for food I think you should hire a dog walker for the day I love dogs and have dogs but if someone is uncomfortable And had the guts to tell you and ask you then I think you should respect it |
Anonymous
For the record, you are an ahole too |
Anonymous
You lose credibility INSTANTLY when you minimize allergies. Shame on you. This girl's parents may not have had the time to get her tested at an allergist's, but allergies should never be taken lightly, as they can worsen with exposure and trigger serious conditions like asthma. Zyrtec induces severe drowsiness in some people. And on principle, it should never be the burden of a human, let alone an innocent child, who is not responsible for the dog, to take allergy meds for someone else's dog. Moron. |
Anonymous
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Team BIL.
Get a neighbor to check on the dog a few times. We do this for our neighbor a few times a year, no big deal. |
Anonymous
] Oh please. I would never tell someone what they can or cannot do at someone else's home. And then get mad at them when they decide not to go the other person's home because of my rules. That's a-hole behavior. |
Anonymous
| If it’s 4 hours away do you spend the night? |
Anonymous
+1. Need more information. If your ILs live 15minutes away and you're going for an afternoon, leave the dog at home. If BIL wants you to drive 3 hours, stay 2 days, and you'd have to board the dog, and he wants it to be more than once every 2-3 months, that's going to be a "sorry, we can't make it" from me. I do think that if you want to be around your niece the dog will need to stay home when you're visiting both your ILs and BIL because humans needs are more important than a dogs wants, but I also don't think you need spend a weekend a month boarding your dog. |
Anonymous
Yes. You are the ahole. |
Anonymous
I love animals, including dogs. Bringing dogs to brunch is too much. Leave the the dog at home. |