Signs a guy will ditch you after sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read the entire 6 pages but I started having better success when I followed the Georgia Rules of Dating.

Date nights are Friday and Saturday nights. The guy initiates the dates. The guy asks you out either by Tuesday or no later than Wednesday for Friday or Saturday.

If he calls or texts you Thurs or Friday for Friday and or SAturday you have plans tell him to check back next week and for a Saturday or Friday night you make plans Tuesday or Wednesday before.

The guy selects the date site. You can always veto or make suggestions due to safety etc but make the guy come up with the date plans. Plans can be as simple as a walk in the park but you have the guy come up with the plans.

Follow these rules for about 8 weeks.

This dramatically improved my dating life. It weeded out the duds. The guys came up with some really good dates.
I'm with a great guy now.

.thanks for the laugh

[Anonymous]

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I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

I've been with plenty of women where they were good kissers but boring in bed.

Maybe b/c you were boring?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

I’ve always aired three or four months for sex. A guy never ditched me for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read the entire 6 pages but I started having better success when I followed the Georgia Rules of Dating.

Date nights are Friday and Saturday nights. The guy initiates the dates. The guy asks you out either by Tuesday or no later than Wednesday for Friday or Saturday.

If he calls or texts you Thurs or Friday for Friday and or SAturday you have plans tell him to check back next week and for a Saturday or Friday night you make plans Tuesday or Wednesday before.

The guy selects the date site. You can always veto or make suggestions due to safety etc but make the guy come up with the date plans. Plans can be as simple as a walk in the park but you have the guy come up with the plans.

Follow these rules for about 8 weeks.

This dramatically improved my dating life. It weeded out the duds. The guys came up with some really good dates.
I'm with a great guy now.

Strategy like this gives off a masculine vibe that any perceptive man will instinctively know to avoid.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

I'm not surprised you are single. You are a jerk.

Be surprised all you want. No. I'm not single. If you can read, then you would notice that I said I am dating.

Clearly, my note hit home with you.

Dating is single, moron.

And if you are married, you aren’t “dating” — you’re committing adultery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read the entire 6 pages but I started having better success when I followed the Georgia Rules of Dating.

Date nights are Friday and Saturday nights. The guy initiates the dates. The guy asks you out either by Tuesday or no later than Wednesday for Friday or Saturday.

If he calls or texts you Thurs or Friday for Friday and or SAturday you have plans tell him to check back next week and for a Saturday or Friday night you make plans Tuesday or Wednesday before.

The guy selects the date site. You can always veto or make suggestions due to safety etc but make the guy come up with the date plans. Plans can be as simple as a walk in the park but you have the guy come up with the plans.

Follow these rules for about 8 weeks.

This dramatically improved my dating life. It weeded out the duds. The guys came up with some really good dates.
I'm with a great guy now.

I hate to say this but I like it. I've also told my sons to always pay for dates and treat a women with respect. Have manners and be polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read the entire 6 pages but I started having better success when I followed the Georgia Rules of Dating.

Date nights are Friday and Saturday nights. The guy initiates the dates. The guy asks you out either by Tuesday or no later than Wednesday for Friday or Saturday.

If he calls or texts you Thurs or Friday for Friday and or SAturday you have plans tell him to check back next week and for a Saturday or Friday night you make plans Tuesday or Wednesday before.

The guy selects the date site. You can always veto or make suggestions due to safety etc but make the guy come up with the date plans. Plans can be as simple as a walk in the park but you have the guy come up with the plans.

Follow these rules for about 8 weeks.

This dramatically improved my dating life. It weeded out the duds. The guys came up with some really good dates.
I'm with a great guy now.

I hate to say this but I like it. I've also told my sons to always pay for dates and treat a women with respect. Have manners and be polite.

Women today are idiots. Yep. If he doesn’t want to be with you on a weekend night, something is wrong. You aren’t GF/marriage material or a contender.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I have not read the entire 6 pages but I started having better success when I followed the Georgia Rules of Dating.

Date nights are Friday and Saturday nights. The guy initiates the dates. The guy asks you out either by Tuesday or no later than Wednesday for Friday or Saturday.

If he calls or texts you Thurs or Friday for Friday and or SAturday you have plans tell him to check back next week and for a Saturday or Friday night you make plans Tuesday or Wednesday before.

The guy selects the date site. You can always veto or make suggestions due to safety etc but make the guy come up with the date plans. Plans can be as simple as a walk in the park but you have the guy come up with the plans.

Follow these rules for about 8 weeks.

This dramatically improved my dating life. It weeded out the duds. The guys came up with some really good dates.
I'm with a great guy now.

I hate to say this but I like it. I've also told my sons to always pay for dates and treat a women with respect. Have manners and be polite.

Women today are idiots. Yep. If he doesn’t want to be with you on a weekend night, something is wrong. You aren’t GF/marriage material or a contender.

I had a boyfriend who didn't want to be with me on a weekend night; then he became a husband who would rather read a newspaper over the weekend. Then he cheated on my on all weekends and we divorced. Better nothing than crappy relationships like that

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I am a woman and had so many "boyfriends" with 1-4 dates! My sex partner count would be over 100 if I slept with everyone after 5th date.

My actual "count" is 3 with penetration, 7 without in a lifetime. #2 with PIV (after 2 months of dating) became my husband. Regretfully, we divorced but it was a long (18 years) marriage which I think is already a success given divorce rates etc

I’ve had 3 boyfriends and married the 3rd but way to try and sex shame women. If I only slept with 3 men (my number is 15), I would have really missed out on discovering what it means to have a sophisticated and talented partner in bed. I’m also able to contribute through experience and exploration. And yes, we probably grew up in very different generations with different expectations on women. Hopefully post-divorce you can find some talented men to blow your mind.

To OP, ignore posters than try to sex shame you or insinuate you had sex too soon or before meeting certain conditions. DCUM is full of women that love to criticize other women, there’s a lot of bitterness on this forum.

Slept with 15 men but only 3 boyfriends? Weird count. Somehow I never had a desire to look inside pants of random men who are not my boyfriends. Sex is simple enough no particular "talent" needed to develop this experience to "share" with your future husband. Particular if this is experience of having sex in a shared house with roommates. Just not flattering to me, sorry.

Tell me you're wack in bed without telling me you're wack in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

HA!!! That's a funny one.

[Anonymous]

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I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

I've been with plenty of women where they were good kissers but boring in bed.

So your picker is just not as sensitive if you like so many women kissing. And with this attitude you are just waiting for someone to "amaze" you in bed, rather than being interested in that partner as person, try grow into something together etc. In other words, just f... around as many women as you can. Only consider them as sexual object and it will never result in a long term commitment or a relationship.

I liked only a few men kissing me, and all of them were pretty good in bed. All of them in the first place were interesting to me as a person, cared, were involved in my life etc. When someone loves you, he/she will make you happy in bed one way or another. And when YOU are in love, you will even like a woman playing dead during sex. In fact you will find it extremely sexy

That's a lie. And if it ever gets to that point, he won't be "in love" anymore.

[Anonymous]

He only text messages you after dark, does not take you out in public during the day and you never have met his friends/coworkers/family.

[Anonymous]

When you wait 6 weeks and get meh sex it’s a sure sign the guy will most likely be disappointed…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.