Signs a guy will ditch you after sex

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Absolutely yes, he would wait if the woman is very desirable to him.

And he has no other options on hand

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I am a woman and had so many "boyfriends" with 1-4 dates! My sex partner count would be over 100 if I slept with everyone after 5th date.

My actual "count" is 3 with penetration, 7 without in a lifetime. #2 with PIV (after 2 months of dating) became my husband. Regretfully, we divorced but it was a long (18 years) marriage which I think is already a success given divorce rates etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I’m floored by people who routinely hop into bed but haven’t even met friends yet. Maybe it’s the norm in your circle, but it’s not healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I’m floored by people who routinely hop into bed but haven’t even met friends yet. Maybe it’s the norm in your circle, but it’s not healthy.

Damn. Wife? We did it wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Could be you are bad at sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I am a woman and had so many "boyfriends" with 1-4 dates! My sex partner count would be over 100 if I slept with everyone after 5th date.

My actual "count" is 3 with penetration, 7 without in a lifetime. #2 with PIV (after 2 months of dating) became my husband. Regretfully, we divorced but it was a long (18 years) marriage which I think is already a success given divorce rates etc

I’ve had 3 boyfriends and married the 3rd but way to try and sex shame women. If I only slept with 3 men (my number is 15), I would have really missed out on discovering what it means to have a sophisticated and talented partner in bed. I’m also able to contribute through experience and exploration. And yes, we probably grew up in very different generations with different expectations on women. Hopefully post-divorce you can find some talented men to blow your mind.

To OP, ignore posters than try to sex shame you or insinuate you had sex too soon or before meeting certain conditions. DCUM is full of women that love to criticize other women, there’s a lot of bitterness on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I am a woman and had so many "boyfriends" with 1-4 dates! My sex partner count would be over 100 if I slept with everyone after 5th date.

My actual "count" is 3 with penetration, 7 without in a lifetime. #2 with PIV (after 2 months of dating) became my husband. Regretfully, we divorced but it was a long (18 years) marriage which I think is already a success given divorce rates etc

I’ve had 3 boyfriends and married the 3rd but way to try and sex shame women. If I only slept with 3 men (my number is 15), I would have really missed out on discovering what it means to have a sophisticated and talented partner in bed. I’m also able to contribute through experience and exploration. And yes, we probably grew up in very different generations with different expectations on women. Hopefully post-divorce you can find some talented men to blow your mind.

To OP, ignore posters than try to sex shame you or insinuate you had sex too soon or before meeting certain conditions. DCUM is full of women that love to criticize other women, there’s a lot of bitterness on this forum.

Slept with 15 men but only 3 boyfriends? Weird count. Somehow I never had a desire to look inside pants of random men who are not my boyfriends. Sex is simple enough no particular "talent" needed to develop this experience to "share" with your future husband. Particular if this is experience of having sex in a shared house with roommates. Just not flattering to me, sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Maybe he thought the sex was bad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Did you want a relationship with the guy or something?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

I’m floored by people who routinely hop into bed but haven’t even met friends yet. Maybe it’s the norm in your circle, but it’s not healthy.

How is that not "healthy?" You don't seem to have a normal perception of what is "healthy." I do believe you're confusing your fringe viewpoint with being commonly held.

[Anonymous]

This could be lots of things. Maybe you just didn't look that great naked. Maybe the guy never wanted a relationship in the first place. I wouldn't put too much thought into it as long as you enjoyed the sex.

[Anonymous]

This is the risk you have to take when dating, I've found.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

I’m in my late twenties and I actually met his roommates twice. And our dates were normally during the day.

Day dates only are kind of a red flag. Who is seeing in the evenings? Particularly on the weekend nights.

+1. Also, roomates don’t count. It sounds like he brought you over to his place to have sex and you incidentally met them that way. That’s leagues different from meeting his friends in a public, social setting. If you aren’t his date to the events he attends, he only wants sex.

This also doesn't guarantee he's serious about you. Some guys introduce their current girl to anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Could be you are bad at sex?

+1

Guys don't just want sex once and then are satisfied for the next six months before going on the hunt again.

[Anonymous]

Their are no guarantees ,OP. Have sex because you want to not be ause you think it's a sign of commitment. If commitment is that important hold off on sex for a long time, but even that is not a guarantee the guy won't run