Signs a guy will ditch you after sex

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

DP. It does seem like the there is a pattern. Maybe you are bad at sex? There are very few women who are good in bed but a lot who are just bad. Maybe you are like the OP who only cares about her pleasure? If you are guy you are not going to tell a woman she is bad in bed. You just end it.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

DP. It does seem like the there is a pattern. Maybe you are bad at sex? There are very few women who are good in bed but a lot who are just bad. Maybe you are like the OP who only cares about her pleasure? If you are guy you are not going to tell a woman she is bad in bed. You just end it.

No, it's just a very standard justification for your womanizing to shift blame on women that they were "bad" in sex so you keep searching the one. I wouldn't date anyone like you, who can't wait for 3 months at lease and I do have dating experience that men who were desirable to me generally do wait. Men would usually string someone along, so it's not like they don't have access to easy sex while dating that "special" woman who they are waiting to commit and learning better.

All these guys who say its woman's fault for having "hangs up" etc about sex are just lying they want a relationship instead of paying professionals to handle their natural urges.

If they were honest from the start about only wanting "try sex" then the selection of women available to them will be way more narrow, or it will be skunks doing it for money. That's why they lie

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

It takes time, while dating someone, to decide you want to have a long-term relationship. People get dumped in the process. The more time together, the greater the number of opportunities to decide this isn’t the right person.

You have to decide what it is you’re trying to do: start a relationship, or have sex with only one more person for the rest of your life. Because those are two different goals.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Your ancestors solved this with “no sex until marriage”

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Quasi Arranged marriage.

Have your list of criteria:

Height, salary, ses level, wealth, assets, race, language, family background, occupation level, attractiveness clearly laid out

Then tap your family friends to source marriage interested men that check these boxes

Then set up talks to see if they are serious about getting married d

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

DP. It does seem like the there is a pattern. Maybe you are bad at sex? There are very few women who are good in bed but a lot who are just bad. Maybe you are like the OP who only cares about her pleasure? If you are guy you are not going to tell a woman she is bad in bed. You just end it.

People are good or bad in bed with different partners. Just depends on if you click.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

I’m in my late twenties and I actually met his roommates twice. And our dates were normally during the day.

Well for starters, don’t date men with roommates. If you have a roommate in your late 20s that says immaturity to me

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

There is a middle ground where people can have a fulfilling, sexual dating relationship where it is initially unclear how serious it is going to be. You should embrace that. Lots of people, including me, have had long term relationships that started with what I thought was going to be a one night stand. My guess is that you come on way too strong after the first time you have sex and it freaks out the guy you are dating. Just approach safe sex like something you greatly enjoy. But don’t push for “emotional investment”. For most guys, the emotional connection and sex are completely independent. You have to accommodate that dynamic to a certain degree or you will come off as overbearing.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

DP. It does seem like the there is a pattern. Maybe you are bad at sex? There are very few women who are good in bed but a lot who are just bad. Maybe you are like the OP who only cares about her pleasure? If you are guy you are not going to tell a woman she is bad in bed. You just end it.

LOL if you think most women are bad in bed, you either suck at turning them on, or you watch so much porn you’ve forgotten what real sex is like.

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Anonymous wrote:The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Your mistake is in assuming the guys that bail just wanted to get laid. Even more absurd is your belief that some 3-month trial period will…eliminate that?

People end relationships all. the. time. Met his family- I’m out. Saw her apartment - yikes! Didn’t realize “outdoorsy” meant 8-hour death hike every weekend. As more information is developed in the relationship, each party is weighing whether they want it to continue. If it ends after a sexual encounter, it was not going to work out, whether it happened at 3 dates or 3 months. Nobody is going to say, well that was awful, but since I’ve invested 3 months into this, I guess we better get married.

Going into relationships with that game-playing “Rules” type approach just seems immature and doomed to fail, or at best, sets a weird dynamic for the rest of the relationship. But you do you.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Quasi Arranged marriage.

Have your list of criteria:

Height, salary, ses level, wealth, assets, race, language, family background, occupation level, attractiveness clearly laid out

Then tap your family friends to source marriage interested men that check these boxes

Then set up talks to see if they are serious about getting married d

If you are prioritizing height and money, you are begging to not be taken seriously.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Quasi Arranged marriage.

Have your list of criteria:

Height, salary, ses level, wealth, assets, race, language, family background, occupation level, attractiveness clearly laid out

Then tap your family friends to source marriage interested men that check these boxes

Then set up talks to see if they are serious about getting married d

If you are prioritizing height and money, you are begging to not be taken seriously.

“I never prioritize a woman’s weight or looks” -no man ever

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Quasi Arranged marriage.

Have your list of criteria:

Height, salary, ses level, wealth, assets, race, language, family background, occupation level, attractiveness clearly laid out

Then tap your family friends to source marriage interested men that check these boxes

Then set up talks to see if they are serious about getting married d

If you are prioritizing height and money, you are begging to not be taken seriously.

False. You clearly don’t know how modern quasi arranged match making works.

It’s fine having whatever priorities one indexes for as long as you have the value and network to back it up

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Where did you have sex, at his house or somewhere else? In my experience men looking for casual sex won't be introducing you to friends, family or bring sexual partner to his house. And even if they do, they would expect you to be "on call" driving to his house whenever he wants "a date".

Try next time to stretch it into 3 months, short termers usually loose patience if no sex happens with a few weeks

Lol, you think a guy that is desirable to women (even one open to, or looking for, monogamy) is going to wait 3 months for sex??

Yes.

Yes, absolutely.

Only loser guys with no options, or the occasional bible thumper, would wait that long. Also, a woman who waits 3 months out of some sort of game playing weirdness would not be a good monogamous partner anyway.

The problem is - and every woman has experienced this - is that we start dating a guy who says he’s really into us and is looking for a relationship. Then we sleep with him, and suddenly he disappears. Or he stops putting in any effort and just wants to be f*ck buddies. Or in some other way makes it clear he just wanted sex.

Because it’s so hard to tell which men genuinely like us and which just want to get laid, we have to come up with things like “don’t sleep with them for 3 months”. It really sucks to get emotionally invested in someone and believe there’s a future, when they have a different idea. It’s not playing games, it’s to keep us from getting hurt (and from getting STDs, since guys like that are likely sleeping with other women, too).

It would be one thing if these guys were upfront and let us know they didn’t want a relationship, or weren’t sure about the future. But they don’t. I can handle “I’m not sure if you’re the woman I want to commit to, but I think we have great chemistry and would love to have sex”. Then I can make an informed decision. What I can’t handle is “I really like you a lot and see this going somewhere”, only to be ghosted a week later.

If you have a better method of weeding out men who are serious from the guys who just want to get laid, let us know. And “don’t get emotionally invested” isn’t an answer. I have no interest in sex without some level of emotion, and won’t harden myself to be able to have sex with a guy I like knowing he may be misleading me.

Quasi Arranged marriage.

Have your list of criteria:

Height, salary, ses level, wealth, assets, race, language, family background, occupation level, attractiveness clearly laid out

Then tap your family friends to source marriage interested men that check these boxes

Then set up talks to see if they are serious about getting married d

If you are prioritizing height and money, you are begging to not be taken seriously.

“I never prioritize a woman’s weight or looks” -no man ever

And? Do you think that’s an argument that you should be taken seriously for being obsessed with someone else’s bank account?