Signs a guy will ditch you after sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

LOL. Yes. Wait till the ring is on your finger. Guess this poster was a virgin until she got married. Also, you know, you can break off an engagement...just a thought. Dead fish, keep the ring.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

Why would I get engaged to a woman who doesn’t already have enthusiastic sex with me?

jersey.

I got news for you buddy. If you marry and think your wife is going to be enthusiastic for sex all the time you are delusional. Hot sex is shaky foundation to base a marriage on, your own d1ck will lose enthusiasm one day too. You will be better off finding a partner who has good character and compatibility for the long haul vs someone who is horny.

It’s not an either/or.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just think it’s part of dating. You meet someone and as long as they show interest by initiating dates and conversation (texting, calls), appear respectful, try to get to know you by asking questions about your life, family, job, possibly introduce you to friends, which leads to physical intimacy, there’s not a lot of signs in advance if it will turn into a relationship. I also don’t think timing matters as much before having sex, all the men who became bfs in my life and most of my friends had sex between dates 1-5 (I personally stuck to 3). Others I waited longer but that’s because their just wasn’t this overwhelming chemistry or opportunity. Few I actually met their friends before sex. Maybe there wasn’t enough chemistry on his side after having sex, maybe he was only interested in something casual, you just don’t know so move on, date and try again. Finding the right person takes time.

+1. I think it just instinct, an innate ability to read people, and being confident in yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

And how would women know that you are not just going around "trying" as many girls as possible? Honestly, sex is a no brainer, I am a woman and had O with all my partners with penetration and never just lay down. It of course varies how they like my tongue go around their penis, or what to touch during, but after couple times with same partner it's easy to learn.

Many people are compatible with each other if you just take sex alone, I would say 80% of opposite side persons I found visually attractive.

I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

What is wrong with you men that you need to go to PIV to see if the woman is right for you???

Exactly the same way that guys don't know you're out "trying" as many men to find the right one.

You're out kissing a bunch of guys to see if it gets you going. I think that's perfect.

Theoretically, using your words, there is 80% compatibility and a great make-out session. Things move behind closed doors and then you find out that he is either not big enough or not what you're attracted to, where does that leave things then? Yeah. The same way guys think. Per the OP, she's wondering if there are signs that someone will ditch you after sex....chances are women are doing it as well because someone does not measure up or doesn't have stamina, or cant ring the bell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

Why would I get engaged to a woman who doesn’t already have enthusiastic sex with me?

It’s funny if you think she’s always going to have enthusiastic sex with you.

[Anonymous]

I think the signs that anybody, male or female, will ditch you after sex are similar:

You don't hear from them
They don't want to kiss much
They aren't trying to get to know you
The sex wasn't all that great
You don't feel chemistry with them

The reasons they might ditch you are similar too:

They didn't enjoy it enough
They don't really like you as a person
They were only looking for a brief fling
They are involved with someone else

It doesn't really matter that much. If they ditch you, move on. Have sex when you think it's the right thing to do. If that doesn't work for them, move on. Don't over think it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

I'm not surprised you are single. You are a jerk.

Be surprised all you want. No. I'm not single. If you can read, then you would notice that I said I am dating.

Clearly, my note hit home with you.

Of course he's "dating" trying different women

I could if I wanted to, but I'm not the cheating type. I said I am "dating". I never said, different women. You believe what you want. You are probably another woman that is probably going to go to bed tonight wondering what the world is doing for fun on a Friday night. See, I can assume as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

I'm not surprised you are single. You are a jerk.

Be surprised all you want. No. I'm not single. If you can read, then you would notice that I said I am dating.

Clearly, my note hit home with you.

Of course he's "dating" trying different women

I could if I wanted to, but I'm not the cheating type. I said I am "dating". I never said, different women. You believe what you want. You are probably another woman that is probably going to go to bed tonight wondering what the world is doing for fun on a Friday night. See, I can assume as well.

Dating means you’re single. Yes, you are single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

Why would I get engaged to a woman who doesn’t already have enthusiastic sex with me?

It’s funny if you think she’s always going to have enthusiastic sex with you.

You didn’t answer the question. Why would I sign up for life with a woman who is already avoiding having sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When you have a ring on your finger, the guy is sincere. Don't give up the sex until you have a ring on your finger.

Why would I get engaged to a woman who doesn’t already have enthusiastic sex with me?

It’s funny if you think she’s always going to have enthusiastic sex with you.

That odds are better that enthusiastic sex will continue than no sex turning into enthusiastic sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the signs that anybody, male or female, will ditch you after sex are similar:

You don't hear from them
They don't want to kiss much
They aren't trying to get to know you
The sex wasn't all that great
You don't feel chemistry with them

The reasons they might ditch you are similar too:

They didn't enjoy it enough
They don't really like you as a person
They were only looking for a brief fling
They are involved with someone else

It doesn't really matter that much. If they ditch you, move on. Have sex when you think it's the right thing to do. If that doesn't work for them, move on. Don't over think it.

As someone who has BTDT many times - I think this is the best advice. If and when you have sex with a guy, make sure it is on your terms. You need to mentally get yourself to a place where you're doing it because YOU want to, because you want to get some d*** and you could not care less if he calls you afterwards or not. Or maybe you do care, but you wont be devastated if he doesn't. Because you're a confident women with lots going on and he just showed himself to be a loser not deserving of you.

Have some agency in your life. Don't let men call all the shots.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

And how would women know that you are not just going around "trying" as many girls as possible? Honestly, sex is a no brainer, I am a woman and had O with all my partners with penetration and never just lay down. It of course varies how they like my tongue go around their penis, or what to touch during, but after couple times with same partner it's easy to learn.

Many people are compatible with each other if you just take sex alone, I would say 80% of opposite side persons I found visually attractive.

I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

What is wrong with you men that you need to go to PIV to see if the woman is right for you???

Exactly the same way that guys don't know you're out "trying" as many men to find the right one.

You're out kissing a bunch of guys to see if it gets you going. I think that's perfect.

Theoretically, using your words, there is 80% compatibility and a great make-out session. Things move behind closed doors and then you find out that he is either not big enough or not what you're attracted to, where does that leave things then? Yeah. The same way guys think. Per the OP, she's wondering if there are signs that someone will ditch you after sex....chances are women are doing it as well because someone does not measure up or doesn't have stamina, or cant ring the bell.

Maybe I am lucky but I only had one experience when a man was good in kissing but not very "hard". He was 29 y.o. and I was 24 at that time. I did have a thought wondering why he didn't seem hard when engaging in light kissing and petting (I was). He turned out having medical issues due to being a pro athlete on certain meds in the past. He was good in oral so it wasn't an issue eventually. We broke up in a year because of his hostile mother.

However, a man being not as hard as I wished for, or not as big or whatever is never a reason for me NOT to try improving sex in different ways. I use rings for those who were too big for me, never met anyone who was too small (maybe just lucky, not sure).

But I absolutely had a good sex (in my own taste) with 80% of those who passed the "kissing" test. And 95% didn't pass the "kissing" test. Their sweat didn't smell when aroused the way I liked it, so I didn't have a desire to taste their sex on a spot.

Don't you men feel if the woman smells like you would have a great sex with her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the signs that anybody, male or female, will ditch you after sex are similar:

You don't hear from them
They don't want to kiss much
They aren't trying to get to know you
The sex wasn't all that great
You don't feel chemistry with them

The reasons they might ditch you are similar too:

They didn't enjoy it enough
They don't really like you as a person
They were only looking for a brief fling
They are involved with someone else

It doesn't really matter that much. If they ditch you, move on. Have sex when you think it's the right thing to do. If that doesn't work for them, move on. Don't over think it.

As someone who has BTDT many times - I think this is the best advice. If and when you have sex with a guy, make sure it is on your terms. You need to mentally get yourself to a place where you're doing it because YOU want to, because you want to get some d*** and you could not care less if he calls you afterwards or not. Or maybe you do care, but you wont be devastated if he doesn't. Because you're a confident women with lots going on and he just showed himself to be a loser not deserving of you.

Have some agency in your life. Don't let men call all the shots.

I dunno, it seems backwards to have sex first, and *then* find out he is a loser. Then you had sex with a loser which is an embarassing L in itself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I dated a man last year for like 6 weeks, had sex, and then he lost interest and wanted casual after previously initiating monogamy. I’m now dating again.and wondering what are signs a man will end up losing interest after sex one time?

Sorry, OP. I am sure I'm going to be flamed for this but it's the truth. I am a guy dating so take it with a grain of salt. All the posts about waiting for 3 months are BS. You do you. Based on my opinion and experience, you're not building anticipation or desire by waiting. For me, a relationship has to have both the mental and physical connection to be in sync to pursue further. If the physical connection is not there, it's just not going to work out. You don't want to wait for 3 months and be mentally attracted and then get behind closed doors and find out that the guy is a dud (or from a guy's perspective, you are a dud). Also, I've learned the hard way, that the longer a woman takes to get physical, there are major insecurities that she's dealing with, and/or, just enjoys the free meal because some guys will keep going back to get something that is not available to them.

Wasted time.

As a guy, a woman who is just as interested in a relationship as she is in sex versus a woman who is going to "wait" for some dumb timeline for sex, separates herself from the pack. We will always go for the sexually confident woman. And twice on Sunday. Those who will turn it on when they decide that this is the guy she wants to be with, good for them. If I'm interested in someone, I want to know if we're sexually compatible. Because I don't want to waste my time and money courting someone who is not going to be fun behind closed doors. And when we find someone who is fun, we go back and back for more. We don't ditch them to start the chase all over again.

Maybe (and this is harsh), you're not good at sex. There are no signs that a man will lose interest after sex. On the contrary, speaking for myself, I'm more interested in someone if the sex was good. If you're into it, men will know. If you're doing it just because you have to, we will know as well, and we will not be coming back for more.

And how would women know that you are not just going around "trying" as many girls as possible? Honestly, sex is a no brainer, I am a woman and had O with all my partners with penetration and never just lay down. It of course varies how they like my tongue go around their penis, or what to touch during, but after couple times with same partner it's easy to learn.

Many people are compatible with each other if you just take sex alone, I would say 80% of opposite side persons I found visually attractive.

I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

What is wrong with you men that you need to go to PIV to see if the woman is right for you???

Exactly the same way that guys don't know you're out "trying" as many men to find the right one.

You're out kissing a bunch of guys to see if it gets you going. I think that's perfect.

Theoretically, using your words, there is 80% compatibility and a great make-out session. Things move behind closed doors and then you find out that he is either not big enough or not what you're attracted to, where does that leave things then? Yeah. The same way guys think. Per the OP, she's wondering if there are signs that someone will ditch you after sex....chances are women are doing it as well because someone does not measure up or doesn't have stamina, or cant ring the bell.

This response above is from someone who measures women from standpoint of sex solely. Like horses: "stamina", "wont measure up' etc.

I would never believe someone with such attitude is a good attentive lover who truly knows women. I would rather sleep with someone whose penis is not as hard or as big but who is really caring about me, than with such a "macho"

That being said, all men with big penises were terrible in bed - way too technical, all about their satisfaction, speed, endurance - anything but my satisfaction

[Anonymous]

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I am a woman and it's enough for me to kiss with a guy to see if his kiss and touch makes me wet wanting him and to see if kissing me is getting him hard. If it doesn't, I just don't move to next stage - PIV.

I've been with plenty of women where they were good kissers but boring in bed.