Husband refuses to allow our child to see unvaccinated family

[Anonymous]

Do not sneak your son to visit your selfish sister. Your son doesn’t need someone like this in his circle. She’s a user and a taker. Do not think for a moment that she will be any benefit to your son.

[Anonymous]

OP, is your young child at home, all day, everyday? No preschool? No daycare? He doesn't do any playdates (indoors or outdoors) with other children? Unless you, your DH, and your child do not leave the house, you are being exposed to unvaccinated people.

I do hope your little one is having playtime with his other unvaccinated little friends. You simply cannot know the vaccine status of their parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, is your young child at home, all day, everyday? No preschool? No daycare? He doesn't do any playdates (indoors or outdoors) with other children? Unless you, your DH, and your child do not leave the house, you are being exposed to unvaccinated people.

I do hope your little one is having playtime with his other unvaccinated little friends. You simply cannot know the vaccine status of their parents.

Did you even read the OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be old enough to be vaxed in < 2 years. Visit sister then, or visit sister now but outdoors. Not difficult.

This. Sorry, that’s tricky. But clear reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your kid will be old enough to be vaxed in < 2 years. Visit sister then, or visit sister now but outdoors. Not difficult.

This. Sorry, that’s tricky. But clear reason.

Clear reason? I guess you missed OPs follow up where it turns out her husband just doesn't like his SIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is your young child at home, all day, everyday? No preschool? No daycare? He doesn't do any playdates (indoors or outdoors) with other children? Unless you, your DH, and your child do not leave the house, you are being exposed to unvaccinated people.

I do hope your little one is having playtime with his other unvaccinated little friends. You simply cannot know the vaccine status of their parents.

Did you even read the OP?

All she mentioned was going to the park on occasion. I hope this isn’t the kids only interaction with the outside work for the last 2 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband refuses to let our son (3) see my unvaccinated sister, BIL and nieces. He describes my sister and BIL as selfish and dislikes them because they refused to get vaccinated for personal choice during the pandemic.

My husband takes methotrexate for rheumatoid arthritis and has been doing so for the past 10+ years. As a result he’s at higher risk of developing an infection and our son is too young to be vaccinated. My husband works from home and we outsource most things - groceries, etc.

But he refuses to see my family or let them see our son during family events. Our son will not maintain a mask and my sister refuses to wear one as well. My husband is perfectly fine with me going alone but has made it clear he will not be attending any family events with our son for an indefinite period of time.

I support him but WTF am I supposed to tell my sister?! Let me also add that my husband will take our son to the park to play around other kids and has taken him on an airplane once during the pandemic as well.

Thank God your son has one intelligent parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell your sister to grow the f*ck up and get vaccinated.

Exactly. She is knowingly putting your husband at risk, so, no, she doesn’t get to see your son. Actions have consequences.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is your young child at home, all day, everyday? No preschool? No daycare? He doesn't do any playdates (indoors or outdoors) with other children? Unless you, your DH, and your child do not leave the house, you are being exposed to unvaccinated people.

I do hope your little one is having playtime with his other unvaccinated little friends. You simply cannot know the vaccine status of their parents.

Did you even read the OP?

All she mentioned was going to the park on occasion. I hope this isn’t the kids only interaction with the outside work for the last 2 years

OP here -

My son doesn’t have a bunch of friends - I don’t have any mom friends my with kids my age.

We go to MOPs x2/month and my chapter requires vaccine cards. We sometimes do drop in gymnastics and did have soccer. All required masks (which my son sort of wore) and vaccine cards too. He will be starting preschool in September.

Im not sure PP what your expectation is regarding socialization for young children during the last two years of the pandemic - there was very few opportunities and most activités we registered for were cancelled or on hold for several months.

Please don’t try and tell me there’s worse outcomes for children who don’t socialize versus catching COVID.. My son was very sick in September with a COVID-like illness and it was awful. I have zero desire to repeat that.

[Anonymous]

Just read whole thread. First I was thinking meh, before Omicron I would understand your husband's pov about unvaccinated but seeing as how it didn't help prevent transmissions, a little ott at this point.
Reading your follow up though about how your sister wanted you guys to test and quarantine before/after Christmas when they refuse to get the vaccines? GTFOH 🤣🤣 I absolutely understand his annoyance, coupled with the way she used your mom who wasn't doing well, for years. Nah, team dh now just because this stuff would bother me too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your sister to grow the f*ck up and get vaccinated.

She and her husband won’t. It’s in their character.

So does this mean that we will just never see them as a family, ever?!

Maybe. I don’t see my unvaccinated family. I would not see my husband’s unvaccinated family either.

Unless you are completely locked down, you are interacting with unvaccinated individuals.

I agree. I know I am exposed to unvaccinated people 5 days a week at my work. My adult relatives who choose to be unvaccinated are adults making a (dumb) choice. If I came to be the cause of their illness, I can’t say it would bother me that much. My relatives who are children don’t have a choice if their parents refuse to vaccinate them. I don’t see my unvaccinated relatives because I don’t want to be the cause of illness for one of the unvaccinated children in the family.

[Anonymous]

Tell your sister she's a forking moron and needs to get vaccinated. I'm with your husband on this.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Your husband doesn't like your family. You're in a tough spot if your husband will take your kid around strangers that are unvax but not family. Will he allow the kid around them at a park or outside? If not it's personal.

OP here.

He doesn’t like them, and has not for years. It’s not anything particular they are just polar opposites. My sister (love her) but she has been sheltered her entire life and is quite dense. I think the refusal is in part because my husband really just doesn’t want to be around my sister or BIL.

I wouldn’t take my health compromised husband and three year old to an unvaxxed home even if I loved them. Support your family. There’s little evidence of transmission outside. The park is fine.

[Anonymous]

Unvaccinated people are everywhere. Learn to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, is your young child at home, all day, everyday? No preschool? No daycare? He doesn't do any playdates (indoors or outdoors) with other children? Unless you, your DH, and your child do not leave the house, you are being exposed to unvaccinated people.

I do hope your little one is having playtime with his other unvaccinated little friends. You simply cannot know the vaccine status of their parents.

Did you even read the OP?

All she mentioned was going to the park on occasion. I hope this isn’t the kids only interaction with the outside work for the last 2 years

OP here -

My son doesn’t have a bunch of friends - I don’t have any mom friends my with kids my age.

We go to MOPs x2/month and my chapter requires vaccine cards. We sometimes do drop in gymnastics and did have soccer. All required masks (which my son sort of wore) and vaccine cards too. He will be starting preschool in September.

Im not sure PP what your expectation is regarding socialization for young children during the last two years of the pandemic - there was very few opportunities and most activités we registered for were cancelled or on hold for several months.

Please don’t try and tell me there’s worse outcomes for children who don’t socialize versus catching COVID.. My son was very sick in September with a COVID-like illness and it was awful. I have zero desire to repeat that.

You dont get along with your sister and you only go to places with vaccine passports..so why did you even post this online? Why do you even want to see your sister? do you really want to see her or do you want DCUM to affirm that you should not see her?

if you are having cake, you dont need an excuse and you dont need to feel guilty
if you dont want to hang out with your sister you dont need an excuse -either of her unvaxxed status or of her using your mom--you as an adult have the right not to see her without an excuse and without guilt.

It sounds you and your husband are on the same page regarding her personality and vaccination status.

You are not being mean to your sister it kind of just is what it is...I am glad your sister and her husband are on the same page too...