40 year old mom here and met a 56 year old

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no way. 50/66, 55/71, 60/76. You will be working and taking care of a grampa.

Why would you assume that. The only benefit to marrying an older man is the lifestyle. OP if he doesn't want to ever marry then move on. If he is doing well, and your lifestyle will improve then it's obviously YES. You can easily hire someone to care for him. There are tons of healthcare agencies that will come to the home. My friend did that with her DH 2-3 times a week.

[Anonymous]

These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:no way. 50/66, 55/71, 60/76. You will be working and taking care of a grampa.

Why would you assume that. The only benefit to marrying an older man is the lifestyle. OP if he doesn't want to ever marry then move on. If he is doing well, and your lifestyle will improve then it's obviously YES. You can easily hire someone to care for him. There are tons of healthcare agencies that will come to the home. My friend did that with her DH 2-3 times a week.

+1

I guess they never heard of Visiting Angels etc. I'm married and don't plan to nurse my DH 24/7. And he's ok with that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

You are the crazy one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

PP, ok I get it. I don't date for a serious commitment but sure, if you are dating to find the one and only for marriage, etc then yes, you should consider what you will look like in 20 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

If she already has kids why would she care about getting married? Completely pointless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

PP, ok I get it. I don't date for a serious commitment but sure, if you are dating to find the one and only for marriage, etc then yes, you should consider what you will look like in 20 years

I've had friends that wasted years with idiots that didn't commit. And one that didn't divorce after her DH not wanting to have kids. Now she's miserable. Wasting time just doesn't make sense to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

If she already has kids why would she care about getting married? Completely pointless.

Why would she care about dating? Put that effort into her kids then. Otherwise, the only reason to marry would be if her lifestyle is substantially improved.

[Anonymous]

OP, why did you even ask? There is nothing DCUM hates, hates, hates more than “older man with younger woman”. The barrage of shaming has been predictably relentless.

If you’re happy with this relationship, that’s all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Why would she care about dating?

Because dating is fun! (Marriage, not so much.) It is totally possible to date as a single parent without getting married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Why would she care about dating?

Because dating is fun! (Marriage, not so much.) It is totally possible to date as a single parent without getting married.

I wouldn't do that to my kids. If I found one long term that would be ok, but still there would have to be a future.

Dating and STDs isn't fun btw. I guess some have more fun with stability.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These responses are crazy.

You are dating, not getting married for life. Enjoy it while it lasts, who knows where either of you will be in 10 years let alone 25

That sounds fruity. Why would a 40 year old woman waste her time dating if the potential date doesn't ever want to get married. A total waste of time while she's ageing and it's not increasing her income or portfolio. Enjoy what? I enjoy my lifestyle, and now don't have to work. I knew at 25 not to waste time "dating" men who didn't want to commit.

If she already has kids why would she care about getting married? Completely pointless.

What?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, why did you even ask? There is nothing DCUM hates, hates, hates more than “older man with younger woman”. The barrage of shaming has been predictably relentless.

If you’re happy with this relationship, that’s all that matters.

Maybe “dcum hates, hates, hates” it because it’s inappropriate and gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That would be too much of an age gap for me. Of course it depends on the person but 40 to me is still prime of your life and 56 is starting to get into old age territory. Just my perception

No offense PP, but I am fifty-two & do not consider the age of forty to be at the prime of your life.

I think my prime years were likely 29-35 but that is just my opinion.

OP, I would consider dating this guy however due to his age there may be certain issues that you may have to deal with that a younger man may not be dealing with yet.

*cough cough*

Hint: 🥀

YMMV as an alumna of a 54-58 year old man 👑🌷☄️🔥🍌🍾